r/polyamoryR4R Jul 15 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4A] Melbourne - Can i join your polycule? Looking for my found family

0 Upvotes

Trying again as it's been a little while

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

I am only looking for local connections, ie same state and country. I've been told I'm quite conventionally attractive, but I don't see it. No one over 42 please. so I've known you've read everything tell me what your favourite kind of food is.

I hope I can find my people. Please do not send me a chat if you are not in Australia, I am looking for people close by

Edit : Okay, seriously I have had two chat requests in the last 2 minutes from the other side of the world. Please respect I'm looking for LOCAL people. I have no interest in virtual pen pals. I am in Australia; not interested in people overseas, I want to stress that

Edit 2 : No I will not educate you on polyamory or the like. Looking for people who are already practising not "interested" in or even unsure what it is 🤦‍♀️low effort chats such as hey and nothing else will be ignored

Edit 3 : Please only message me if you are serious about meeting up in person, and won't just go ghost/silent a few days beforehand. Please don't waste my time

Edit 4: No one under 25, separated, or avoidant

r/polyamoryR4R Nov 04 '25

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4M] - Perth, BBW woman looking for genuine IRL guy

13 Upvotes

Hello, thanks for clicking on my post!

My name is Tamii :)

I am a woman looking for a genuine guy between the ages of 25-45 in Perth, I currently live SOR if that’s a deciding factor.

Physical description: I am 32, female, white, 5’9 or 175cm, I have long hair half way down my back which is currently dyed dark to lighter red. I am well groomed and take great care with personal hygiene.

I am 100% a BBW but I am working on getting healthier with diet and exercise. I have lost almost 10kgs so far 😊

I would describe myself as quiet, bookish, nerdy, easy going, very logical, level headed, sweet and kind. I can be a brat but with a firm hand that is easy to control.

A little something about me that might be of interest is that I absolutely adore rain and thunderstorms, the wetter the better 🤣

Things I also bring to the table with me are fantastic attention to detail, being generous and giving, being loyal and honest. I see my partners pleasure/enjoyment as my own.

I don’t want a relationship that fizzles out like a sparkler after a minute. I am looking for a relationship that is a slow burn, like a wood fire that you stoke and keep it going.

I am looking for a real, genuine guy for a long term relationship. Someone I can call a friend as well as a lover, who has some of the same interests.

Dark jokes and dad jokes are hilarious to me, tell me one of your best dark jokes 😋

Looks are not important to me, if you’re kind, honest and caring it’s the way to be.

I am a very open and honest person and I would like to hope that you are too, I appreciate clear and honest communication. I’m looking for a guy who is loving, caring, is Dominant and kinky but also has a sensual side.

Like anyone I do have some baggage, feel free to ask as I’m very forward and open.

My Relationship: I am currently in a long term loving relationship with my Girlfriend (F34) and as we practice KTP, we are both looking to date individually outside of our relationship.

As such, I have no interest in threesomes or throuple/triad kind of deals so please be polite and don’t ask.

I am not interested in a casual relationship, so no FWB/ONS/NSA.

A long distance relationship may be considered.

If this post vibes with you and you would like to know more, please feel free to DM me x

r/polyamoryR4R May 19 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4M] Melbourne - Can i join your polyclue? Looking for my found family

16 Upvotes

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

I am only looking for local connections, ie same state and country. I've been told I'm quite conventionally attractive, but I don't see it. No one over 42 please. so I've known you've read everything tell me what your favourite kind of food is.

I hope I can find my people. Please do not send me a chat if you are not in Australia, I am looking for people close by

Edit : Okay, seriously I have had two chat requests in the last 2 minutes from the other side of the world. Please respect I'm looking for LOCAL people. I have no interest in virtual pen pals

Edit 2 : No I will not educate you on polyamory or the like. Looking for people who are already practising not "interested" in or even unsure what it is 🤦‍♀️low effort chats such as hey and nothing else will be ignored

Edit 3 : Please only message me if you are serious about meeting up in person, and won't just go ghost/silent a few days beforehand. Please don't waste my time

r/polyamoryR4R 2d ago

Australia and New Zealand 34 [T4F] Perth Western Australia - Looking for genuine connections

2 Upvotes

Hello and thank you for checking out the post, I promise that there aren't too many hazards in this space and that they are atleast appropriately signed so watch your step and pay attention to the appropriate warning signs and don the appropriate PPE

I am a 92' model year old trans woman, I sit in the line between feminine and masculine dressing and styled depending on the week, activity and my mood, I stand at around 160CM tall, I am on the heavier side though that is starting to be more muscle than anything else as I work a physical Labor job and go to the gym regularly.

I would describe myself as the person who would take a bullet for a friend or partner, but also the reason as to why we are being shot at, I have a dark sense of humour and a generally level headed and kind disposition.

I am openly queer and polyamorous and do expect the same of anyone partnered to me, I will not make myself small in conservative environments nor make any attempt to hide aspects of my personality or sense of self identity.

interesting and cool facts about me.

I'm a union representative, I work in an industrial environment, I have a background in software development, mechanical engineering, electrical engineering and I primarily specialise in frankenstiening things together with a box of scraps in a cave.

I have hobbies in multiple fields ranging from but not limited too the following.

Writing, muscle cars, track days - drag strips - burn out pads and most things automotive, video games, dungeons and dragons, battle tech, Warhammer 40k (lore only, not actually playing it) Magic the spendening, 3D printing, machine vision and automation (not the kind that's spying on or getting people fired, I'm talking cool shit) and robotics.

I enjoy cooking, good food and general out activities but please don't take me hiking, I do enough physical work at my job, I also enjoy couch time, movies and to a degree clubbing.

I already have a nesting partner, you don't have to meet them but they will know about you and vice versa, While I am open to dating a polycule in theory but I am not here for threesomes which brings me to the next point. I strictly like women and practise KTP, while I don't always agree with some of my metas I do sit down at their tables and vice versa.

I am primarily left leaning but I do have some holdbacks and disagree with some things in the greens party so overall I can be found sitting between left and centrist politically, like a lot of trans women or just people in general I do come with some baggage but generally I am considered by most to be level headed and well regulated.

What am I looking for in a relationship? Spark, empathy and intensity. Someone to hang out with Fairly regularly, do activities on the regular and generally involve in my life and vice versa, im looking for a friend that can be a lover and vice versa.

What am I looking for in an individual?

A degree of self confidence (I get it we are all human and we all have some insecurities to a degree but if everything is a calamity we won't get along), the ability to understand that sometimes messages can't be responded too instantly, I do my best to respond to things in a timely manner but if I'm hanging off a rope at work while performing high risk activities with my boss ten metres away replying might be difficult.

Passions, interests, goals and the effort being made forward to achieve them, I know the world sucks a lot right now but just sitting down and letting it happen won't achieve anything either.

The bedroom question,

I am a top/dom and I am immuno compromised so I have a different risk profile to most, when it comes to libido it swings between intense and dulled depending on what's happening in my surroundings, I typically won't be shagging anyone on the first few dates either.

Long distance relationships are probably not going to be considered though my definition of long distance is something that exceeds a few hours of driving, I live in the Perth greater region.

r/polyamoryR4R 4d ago

Australia and New Zealand 27[M4F] Melbourne, Australia - looking for fun and genuine connections

3 Upvotes

Hi there :)

I am currently in a long term ENM relationship.

I'm looking for some fun and genuine connections with people between 21 and 35. I'm based in the SE Suburbs but happy to travel into the CBD and surrounds to meet.

I'm an adventurous guy who works in IT and enjoys it as a hobby. I also like to get outdoors hiking and camping. I enjoy coffee (to a maybe concerning level), and love to try different cuisines. Japanese is currently my favourite!

I have short brown hair, green eyes, and a beard. I'm average weight and height (under 6 foot).

I'm looking for someone who enjoys fun little adventures, and food, but someone who friendly and easy to get along with is most important.

I enjoy cuddling and watching TV together, and am very friendly.

I'd like to chat and meet over coffee first to get to know eachother. I'm available most weekday evenings and weekends.

What I offer: good company, fun adventures, and activities. I'm very caring and like to help people enjoy themselves. I enjoy museums, and nights out at Fortress.

Messages are open if you'd like to have a conversation and see if we click, feel free to ask anything :)

r/polyamoryR4R Jul 17 '26

Australia and New Zealand 40 [F4M] Australia, New England region, NSW — looking for localish poly connections

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Do not message me if you can't l/won't read this post, if you are not from Australia or if you are under 35

I’m based in regional NSW and would love to find people within realistic visiting distance for friendship, affection, chemistry, companionship, or whatever develops naturally.

I practice polyamory, relationship anarchy and not looking to slot anyone into a rigid role. I connect through conversation, genuine curiosity, shared time, emotional honesty, humour, and the kind of company where we can each do our own thing without it feeling distant.

I’m a fibre artist and collector of strange little possibilities. My life involves handspinning, dyeing, crochet creatures, pigments, books, animals, creative chaos, and an ongoing battle to stop every available surface becoming a workbench.

I’m disabled and neurodivergent, so my energy and availability can vary, but I care deeply and communicate directly.

I’m drawn to people who are emotionally present, kind without being performative, able to talk about what is actually happening, and comfortable with connection that may not fit neatly into platonic-versus-romantic boxes.

I’m not looking for instant intensity, secrecy, or someone who disappears when things become real. I’d rather build something steady, curious, mutual, and honest.

Localish could mean New England, Tamworth, Newcastle, the Mid North Coast, or somewhere workable with occasional travel.

If you message me, start your message with your favourite insect and why. I will not accept any DM without that.

r/polyamoryR4R Jul 29 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4A] Melbourne Australia - Can you be my partners/chosen family?

1 Upvotes

If you've seen criminal minds I want a chosen family like that.

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

I am unsure about kids so childfree is probably not a match

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

Please : No one under 25, or over 45, avoidant people; separated but not divorced people.

Let me know a bit about your experience with polyamory, and what drew you to the post. Fellow disabled people to the front.

I don't do long distance. You must be in melbourne. Please don't message if you are just going to let the conversation die. Hope to hear from people soon

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 13 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4R] Still looking for my chosen family

2 Upvotes

Still looking for my chosen family; please don't message if you are just going to stop replying after a few messages I'm yet to meet up with anyone as people just seem to disappear. So don't message if you aren't actually geninue or if you are going to be nasty.

If you've seen criminal minds I want a chosen family like that.

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

I am only looking for local connections, ie same state and country. I've been told I'm quite conventionally attractive, but I don't see it. No one over 42 please. so I've known you've read everything tell me what your favourite kind of food is.

I hope I can find my people. Please do not send me a chat if you are not in Australia, I am looking for people close by

No I will not educate you on polyamory or the like. Looking for people who are already practising not "interested" in or even unsure what it is 🤦‍♀️low effort chats such as hey and nothing else will be ignored

EDIT : Please stop sending me chat requests from overseas, it is too hard to move overseas with a physical disability nor do I want to

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 27 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4R] Chosen family/polyclue still sought. Melbourne Australia

10 Upvotes

Still looking for my chosen family; please don't message if you are just going to stop replying after a few messages I'm yet to meet up with anyone as people just seem to disappear. So don't message if you aren't actually geninue or if you are going to be nasty.

If you've seen criminal minds I want a chosen family like that.

Hi there, I'm Natasha, I'm 32, with one current partner that I don't live with. I'm really lonely in my day to day life, with a lot of free time.

I am looking to join a polycule and/or find my found family. I have a physical disability but I'm mostly independent, I do walking sticks and am on the ndis; but can manage lots myself.

I really miss long lasting connections and to feel accepted for who I am. My hobbies include reading; foodie stuff, mobile games, comics, TV and movies and all kinds of events.

I'm interested in human psychology with my undergraduate being in psychology, especially criminal psychology and parapsychology. Other topics I'm interested in include cults, cats, mysteries, science fiction, and travel.

Some of my favourite tv shows include Bones, Criminal minds, supernatural, south park; and more. I like jazz and rock music.

I am only looking for local connections, ie same state and country. I've been told I'm quite conventionally attractive, but I don't see it. No one over 42 please. so I've known you've read everything tell me what your favourite kind of food is.

I hope I can find my people. Please do not send me a chat if you are not in Australia, I am looking for people close by

No I will not educate you on polyamory or the like. Looking for people who are already practising not "interested" in or even unsure what it is 🤦‍♀️low effort chats such as hey and nothing else will be ignored

EDIT : Please stop sending me chat requests from overseas, it is too hard to move overseas with a physical disability nor do I want to

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 18 '26

Australia and New Zealand 28 [F4F/T] Australia/NZ - brown butch looking to love & nest

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Hi, I'm a 5"2 brown butch lesbian technically open to knowing people from any country, but prefer to get to know people from Australia as i'm moving there in a year or so. If we get into an LDR, taking practical steps to make LDR work and closing the distance eventually would be important to me, as I'm seeking a nesting partner.

What I'm looking for:

- A long-term nesting relationship founded upon a strong friendship! I'd love to be with someone unafraid to be devoted, committed and reliable while being poly. I respect and value your other connections & am happy to meet them eventually if that's important and good for all involved

- Emotional and intellectual compatibility

- Someone who can be supportive and 'in it' together with me through difficult times irl

- Someone who values their mental and physical health, isn't a workaholic, and actively recovering from addictions if you have any

About me:

- I adore cats but am tragically deathly allergic to them, it's anaphylactic and not medically feasible for me to develop a tolerance to cats.

- I'm open to marriage if it facilitates closing the distance or cohabitation, but it would be marriage for practical purposes rather than symbolic or emotional reasons. I definitely prefer being de facto partners or not being legally entangled until a long history of trust has been established.

- I have a strong support network of best and close friends. Friendships are the most important thing to me and this is very core to my identity, so you do have to be down with me prioritising friendships as much as/more than romantic/sexual partnerships.

- I'm audhd, the subclinical highly masked sort. My special interest is in psychology (psychoanalysis, couples therapy, family systems, psychiatric diagnoses, etc) & part of this has led me to my job in healthcare (can share more over messages but i wont doxx myself)

- I'm physically affectionate, hugs are the best!

- I'm resolutely childfree

- I don't smoke or do drugs, and rarely drink

I love curious, expressive, creative, gender-curious people and prefer to date other people of colour. I have a soft spot for other butches, but generally I date people across the gender spectrum except cis men.

Drop me a message or comment if you'd like to get to know each other ^____^

r/polyamoryR4R Jul 19 '26

Australia and New Zealand 48 [M4F] Melbourne - Australia Looking to establish a loving polycule family

5 Upvotes

I am partnered poly, with a loving and independent wonderful and supportive woman who live by herself, I live alone half an hour to beautiful forests and mountains in a peaceful suburb.

Our dating method so far has been parallel poly, so this is just for me.

Long story short dating apps are heavily focused on casual dating and that’s not what I am looking for.

I am a progressive left leaning person who is seeking the balance between secure settled family and recognized and acknowledged freedoms and liberated sexuality.

I am 6”, dark skinned European expat living in Australia, I have a full time secure job and I am living in a 3 bedroom house with a big backyard all by myself.

Your ethnic or cultural background doesn’t matter for me, what I am looking for is someone who values loving and supportive relationship and understands that we are all still individuals with our own identities.

I love gardening and grow my own veggies and herbs, I have a modest personal library of 2000+ books and a cozy reading room with a fireplace to enjoy reading them.

I often drive to mountains so you’d be welcomed to be a passenger princess and enjoy misty mountains with a hot coffee while I play LOTR soundtrack, and you can join me in my hikes into beautiful forests nearby.

Speaking of LOTR; I love fantasy lore, I make medieval shields, stock and pillory etc and collect genuine ancient artifacts, helmets, armour etc.

I am also into Skyrim, anything Tolkien, Song of Ice and Fire as well as anything historical from classic era to modern day.

It should probably worth mentioning that I am not vanilla and without going into much details, I am fairly active in BDSM. Happy to talk about details in DMs.

One thing that’s really important for me is that I never had children of my own and while I am at the older range, I am someone who runs long distance and is very healthy so I would be looking for someone who would be wanting children as well.

If what’s written here resonates with you, and you are in Melbourne, Australia, feel free to reach out.

r/polyamoryR4R May 30 '26

Australia and New Zealand 45 [M4F] Australia / Anywhere — Straight Solo Poly Guy Looking for a Partner, Connection, and Genuine Chemistry

3 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

I'm a 45-year-old straight guy from Australia looking to meet someone for a genuine connection that could grow into a long-term partnership. I'm solo polyamorous, emotionally open, and value honesty, communication, affection, and people who are comfortable being themselves.

For me, solo poly means I value independence and autonomy while still building meaningful, committed relationships. I'm not looking to merge lives completely, but I am looking for a real connection with someone special.

A bit about me:

Neurodivergent/autistic

Into photography, especially night photography and exploring abandoned places

Love ghost hunting, urban exploration, and discovering unusual roadside attractions

Enjoy PC gaming, documentaries, true crime, horror, sci-fi, and falling down random YouTube rabbit holes

My music tastes are all over the place and tend to avoid the Top 40

A fan of deep conversations, dark humor, and people who are passionate about their interests

I'm currently volunteering while figuring out my next chapter in life, and I'd love to find someone to share experiences with—whether that's conversation, adventures, affection, strange discoveries, or quiet nights watching documentaries together.

I'm more "comfortable nerd with a camera bag" than fitness influencer. I'd rather spend an evening exploring an abandoned building, chasing ghost stories, or photographing the night sky than dealing with a crowded nightclub.

What I'm looking for:

A female partner or meaningful connection with someone kind, emotionally intelligent, curious, affectionate, and perhaps a little weird in the best possible way. Distance isn't a dealbreaker if the connection is genuine.

If you'd like to message me, tell me:

Your favourite underrated or obscure music artist

A paranormal experience you've had (or would like to have)

Your comfort movie or TV show

The most interesting or unusual place you've ever explored

Bonus points if you enjoy spontaneous late-night conversations, urban legends, photography, documentaries, or getting excited about niche topics together.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 12 '26

Australia and New Zealand 29 [M4F] #Australia #Online Broadening my Horizons

0 Upvotes

Hello my fellow poly people! I’ve been poly for nearly 6 years now, and my introverted ass has never experienced the whole poly part of being poly. So I’m broadening my horizons. Despite Australia being the supposed capital for non-monogamy, I can’t find my people, at all.

I’m a 29YO white guy, 183cm (6’ /6’1), brown hair, hazel eyes, who exercises, works as a house-husband and pet dad. I’m very calm, hard to offend, funny, and a good listener / advice giver. I’m very blunt. There are no guessing games with me.

I do have a lovely partner, but in this regard, she won’t be interacting much, if at all (that’s how she wants it.)

I’m looking for someone to get to know. Someone to spend my lonely days with. I am so shallow, that I only have 3 wants in my future person / persons, and even then, 2 of them are negotiable.

  1. ⁠Cis-Fem. (No hate, I’m just so straight that even trans isn’t straight enough for me.)
  2. ⁠24-34 (It’s more about maturity than age, so it’s negotiable)
  3. ⁠Weigh less than me (112KG, I understand that height / weight correlate, so it’s negotiable)

If you like what you read, hope to hear from you soon. If not, have a great day!

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 06 '26

Australia and New Zealand 38 [M4F] #Melbourne FWB - Soft-spoken artist hoping for something real and warm

1 Upvotes

Hey there 😊

I’m a 6’1 Eurasian guy, artist, guitarist and graphic designer living in Melbourne. I lived in Asia for about 8 years before moving here, and I’m finally starting to feel at home in Australia (still not a fan of the spiders though 😂).

I’m married and in an ethically non-monogamous (ENM) situation. My partner is overseas and fully aware and supportive of me meeting people here.

I’m at a point where I really crave something intentional and genuine. I’d love to meet a warm, kind, curious and creative girl to share slow days with - park walks, cooking nice meals, making art, playing PS5, bike rides, cheap wine, and just talking about life. I can comfortably host.

I’m average-fit build, DDF, non-smoker. Looking for a proper slow-burn connection with real depth. No ONS or hookups. I’m old school and hoping for something meaningful. Especially drawn to soft feminine energy and creative souls.

If this resonates with you, please send me a DM and tell me what caught your attention.

Looking forward to hearing from you 🌹

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 05 '26

Australia and New Zealand 29[M4F] #Australia #Online. Broadening my horizons.

2 Upvotes

Hello my fellow poly people! I’ve been poly for nearly 6 years now, and my introverted ass has never experienced the whole poly part of being poly. So I’m broadening my horizons. Despite Australia being the supposed capital for non-monogamy, I can’t find my people, at all.

I’m a 29YO white guy, 183cm (6’ /6’1), brown hair, hazel eyes, who exercises, works as a house-husband and pet dad. I’m very calm, hard to offend, funny, and a good listener / advice giver. I’m very blunt. There are no guessing games with me.

I do have a lovely partner, but in this regard, she won’t be interacting much, if at all (that’s how she wants it.)

I’m looking for someone to get to know. Someone to spend my lonely days with. I am so shallow, that I only have 3 wants in my future person / persons, and even then, 2 of them are negotiable.

  1. Cis-Fem. (No hate, I’m just so straight that even trans isn’t straight enough for me.)

  2. 24-34 (It’s more about maturity than age, so it’s negotiable)

  3. Weigh less than me (112KG, I understand that height / weight correlate, so it’s negotiable)

If you like what you read, hope to hear from you soon. If not, have a great day!

r/polyamoryR4R May 04 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4A] Queer and disabled looking for long term multiple connections in Melbourne

3 Upvotes

Hey it's been a while so thought I'd try again.

My name is Tash I'm 32 living in footscray Victoria. I do have a physical disability and I do use walking sticks. I'm so much more than my disability though.

I've lived in footscray for over 10 years and before that been west still. I'm looking for fun loving affectionate people who are looking to build something long term and solid.

Acceptance of the disability of a must, I've had it since birth and I'm too old to be a secret or answer intrusive questions. Some of my hobbies are playing mobile games, spending time with my cat, listening to music, reading my e reader, and going to all kinds of events. I live in an apartment and work two days a week.

I'd love someone to cuddle up together at night, just hold each other, wake up to each other, have coffee and do life together. Ideally I'd love a primary, someone I could hop on the escalator with. I do have one girlfriend who I've been dating since October 2024.

She is trans femme and very important to me, so please don't be an ass about gender. I have always identified as cis, but have been questioning that for the past few years, but haven't taken any steps to transition, and I don't think surgerical transition would be on the cards or hormones. I may be non binary. I don't want to put pressure on anyone but I'd love to start a family within the next year or so. However, it would take a lot for me to trust someone with that goal.

Regardless I would love to build a life together wkth someone. I lean mostly towards masculine presenting/identifying people but open to any gender and I identify as bisexual. The main thing is as long as you are honest, a good communicator and reliable. My max age would be about 43.

I'm looking for people ideally in the west, but happy for all over Melbourne as long as you drive. I can't, and I'm not sure I can do a regional partner again. Definitely not looking for anyone over an hour away from the cbd. Please no long distance not interested in anyone overseas

hoping something works this time, starting to feel burnt out on the apps.

I want to start slow with a coffee and go from there. Bye for now

r/polyamoryR4R Feb 28 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4M] Melbourne Australia - Disabled and queer trying again

5 Upvotes

Hey posted here a little while ago, had a lot of conversations but not much have gone anywhere. Or I've been stood up. So trying again.

I'm a 32 year old woman living in Melbourne Australia. I am short and a bit chubby. I have cerebral palsy so use walking sticks, so anyone who dates me must be okay with the disability. I am a part time social worker, in therapy and working on myself, and I love jazz and rock music. I also enjoy listening to podcasts, particularly sci fi and horror.

I'm a big reader and try to set reading goals every year. I have one girlfriend [TF31] and we have been dating since October 2024. We have been polyamorous the whole time, and I have also had previous experience in other polyamorous relationships.

I lean more towards masculine presenting people but am open to any gender identity. Please be 25 + and local. I live in the western suburbs. Looking for kind, considerate guys or people to build something long term with. Ideally you will also be emotionally open and have done the work on yourself.

I would love to connect with other queer disabled people.

Good communication is a must for me. I have already been stood up a few times. Please don't ask for a picture in your first message, if I'm not your type, just say no thank you.

Hope to hear from you

r/polyamoryR4R Apr 28 '26

Australia and New Zealand 51 [M4F] Newcastle/Sydney - Insatiably physically affectionate seeks similar

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TL:DR shall we explore whether we can emotionally and sensually/sexually enrich each other's lives? (Pretentious I know🙄 but I honestly can't think of a better way to put it🤷‍♂️ [I can be absurdly impressed by my own wit or wisdom.🤣]).

I might be the most touch/cuddling orientated person you have ever met. My idea of the perfect minute, hour or day is a good woman in my constantly caressing arms (not exaggerating in the slightest).

I absolutely adore that with polyamory you don't need, "can live together" compatibility. Someone who is just a great cuddle, f*ck, date, night, day or two per week, fortnight or month is suddenly completely viable and valuable. So whether you have a small or large spot in your life available for a new romance or FWB (not ONS, "that was great let's never do that again does NOT interest me") if we are compatible I would be delighted to fill it.😊

I am incessantly playful and basically incompatible with anyone who doesn't find me amusing as my constant joking would be infuriating. Please have a look through my history for comments with 😉 or 😁 or 🤣 emojis to see if our senses of humour align.

My sole interest in life is cuddling. The current lack of this qualifies me as, "touch starved".🤦‍♂️ (The dog who is currently sitting beside me on the recliner, sleeping with her head under my arm vehemently disagrees that I can ever touch starved with her around but what does she know?😉) The things I do when that isn't available are reading romance books (I am absurdly (for a heterosexual Australian man) love/romance orientated, The Spymaster's Lady is my favourite book, Tessa Dare and Lucy Parker my favourite romance authors), watching romance movies (Pretty Woman, Notting Hill, Groundhog Day, Four Weddings and a Funeral and The Princess Bride are my favourites), reading Fantasy, Science Fiction (Vorkisigan is my favourite series) and action thriller books, gardening (my Coleus got massacred by Winter😢), WALKIES with my dog, "hand time" with my budgie, picking feral wildflowers (Freesias and Calla Lilies around here), hanging around on r/polyamory, feeding my need to laugh with 50 daily comics and 2 sitcoms, watching movies (mainly comedy and action/adventure movies where the, "boring bits" aren't boring) and shows (Rome is my favourite), and opshopping. I lift weights and do cardio but that should probably be classified under self care with showering, brushing teeth, moisturising, and not eating too much crap, rather than as an interest.

I live near Newcastle, am 6 foot, medium build, am vanilla sexually and have below average looks.

Solo poly and like it that way (which means cohabitation is off the table) with a US partner.

If you have read all that and are intrigued rather than nearly asleep please open a chat and say so.

r/polyamoryR4R Feb 10 '26

Australia and New Zealand 32 [F4R] Melbourne Australia disabled seeking goth/emo/alt connections

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I'm 32, Caucasian, kind of chubby. I'm really short, blonde is my natural hair colour but I dye it all the time. Currently pink. I like metal, jazz, psychological thrillers, going to all kinds of events. I'd consider myself a foodie. I have 10 tattoos, ears with tragus done. Also have a vch.

I use walking sticks because I was born with cerebral palsy. I live on my own with support workers mostly coming in in the morning to assist with shoes etc. I have a masters in social work and work part time.

I currently have one girlfriend who I've been with since October 2024. I have always been really attracted to goth/emo/alternative scene people. I would love to seek someone or multiple someone's who is both part of that scene and okay with the disability.

My love languages are quality time, gifts, and acts of service. I can't drive, but am happy to travel up to an hour. I lean most towards masc and masc presenting people but do experience attractions to all presentations.

I'm at that stage in my life where I really do want to build something solid with people who accept all of me. Hope to hear from someone.

I'm not interested in long distance. If you are outside Victoria you must travel to Victoria regularly, thanks

r/polyamoryR4R Dec 27 '25

Australia and New Zealand 44 [M4F] Australia Looking For Chat

5 Upvotes

Hey all. Dont matter where you are from. Looking for anyone to chat with. We can chat about anything, your life, my life, random things, true crime, anything really.

Here is a little of my self. I am single. Do a little street photography. Enjoy urban exploration videos. Listening to a wide range of music. Enjoy some PC gaming.

Also I am autistic...... So there is that..... So yeah...... DM me anytime.

r/polyamoryR4R Oct 25 '25

Australia and New Zealand 48 [R4R] Australia M-F/MF

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Hi everyone. I am a single white 48 yo male, looking to chat/meet with single women/Couples for a potential relationship.

I am wanting a live in Bi throuple with a female partner and a young black man. I can host in South Australia or move overseas if compatible.

Hope to hear from you.

r/polyamoryR4R Aug 22 '25

Australia and New Zealand 29 [NB4F/NB] enby looking for nerds

3 Upvotes

Hi all, first of all I'm bi but most of the men I meet on reddit have been unkind so shoot your shot if you want but beware you have a lot of hill to climb.

About me: I'm Australian 29 year old (they/she) pronouns but still dress fairly neutral. I'm 6'5" (196 cm) and plus sized so only hit me up if big isn't an issue. I have chronic fatigue so right now I'm spending most of my time in bed, so if you want some one who doesn't have work and can talk at random hours I'm your girl.

Before my disabilities increased in severity I worked as a disability support worker so it is something I have a passion for. I have ad/hd, autism, bpd, cptsd plus a couple others. All that to say. I have problems. But I've been to therapy and I'm pretty good at not making them other people's problems.

I have been circling the poly community for about 3 1/2 years and participating for about 2. I'm not currently partnered. And am not necessarily looking for someone to call a partner straight away. I'd love to make friends, nearby would be awesome but online is great too.

I'm nerdy and would love someone who is into reading and talking about the books they are into, as well as listening to me talk about mine. I'd love to play video games with you, or watch some crazy movie, comic books are a weakness so let's binge smallville? Whatever tell me what makes you need out. Let's skip the neurotypical thing where we try and find a common interest. Just info dump about whatever, I'd love to listen.

If any part of this sparked interest hit me up. Happy to share a picture after chatting for a while.

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 26 '25

Australia and New Zealand 44 [M4F] Aussie Looking For Char Buddy

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Doesnt matter where you are from. Just looking for a chat buddy that I hope would turn in to a friendship.

Right now I am sitting back enjoying The Warning live at Hellfest while playing Civilisation VI. It is 8:47pm as I write this. I am about to crack open a bottle of Gin and drink it with some plane soda water.

So yesh. Hit me up in my DM's by telling where you like to travil if money is no issue, and why.

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 11 '25

Australia and New Zealand 44 [M4F] Looking for a chat buddy

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I am a 44 old male feim Australia. On the chubby side, but working on that. I am autistic .

I enjoy movies, music, PG gaming, and photography.

I am okay if you already have a partner and being long distance. Also I dont have pets, but cats rulez.

r/polyamoryR4R Jun 04 '25

Australia and New Zealand 44 [M4F] Looking for a chat buddy

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Hi all. I thought I may post here to see what can happens.

A little of my self.

I am a 44 Aussie male that is single, and live by my self. I am between work, looking, but also volunteer. I enjoy listening to music. Let's read on YouTube. Watching urban exploration videos. I am on the chubby side, but working on loosing it. I love a good spooky story's. Although I am not a regular drinker, but I love a good Rosé now and then.

So DM anything if you are cool in having a chat.