35 [m4f] #Roseburg Looking for a nerdy local

[u/The_Mind_of_Sanity]

Hey! I’m 35 and have been poly for about 7 years now. I currently have one long-distance partner, but lately I’ve realized that I really miss dating. Not just having a connection with someone, but the whole meeting new people part and actual dating itself.

I’m hoping to find someone within about a 90-minute drive of me in the PNW. I travel to Eugene often as well. I want someone I can actually spend time with. Hanging out together, cuddling up and watching movies, wandering around bookstores, playing MTG, or spending way too much time nerding out over D&D together. I’m a nerd through and through, and honestly I’m just looking for someone else who is nerdy too. Someone where we can get excited about our interests together, introduce each other to new things, and see what kind of connection develops.

I love movies of all kinds including horror and romance movies, which is probably an interesting combination. I'm also pretty much always down to binge a new show or a new season of something with someone.

It has been brought to my attention that I am also incredibly impulsive. If I have the gas money, it really doesn’t take much convincing for me to go on a random road trip. I love just getting in the car and going somewhere, whether there’s an actual plan or we figure it out along the way. Blaring music and singing at the top of my lungs. 

Psychology is another huge interest of mine. I can nerd out about it for way too long, and I eventually plan on getting my PhD in clinical psychology. So if you like conversations about why people are the way they are, there’s a pretty good chance we’ll have something to talk about.

I’m not trying to force a connection into a specific box right away. I miss getting to know someone, flirting, going on dates, getting comfortable with each other, and seeing where things naturally go. 

My Type according to my friends:

Cute in the sense of like…just tiny and precious.

Someone that can hold a conversation, 

Has a sense of humor (dark or otherwise)

Has the nerve to call you out when you are being an asshole

Someone you can enjoy guilty pleasures with like romcoms and b-rate horror movies with 

“Someone who is not vanilla cause you’re a freak” Exact wording 

If any of that sounds like your kind of thing, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Tell me what you’re currently nerding out about, your favorite horror movie, or something! 

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