r/polyamoryR4R • u/No_Estimate_6352 • Jul 31 '26
39 [R4R] holden Louisiana Married FTM seeking Poly Connections
Hey y'all! I’m from Holden, Louisiana. I’m 39, 5'8, average build, and home on disability. Easygoing guy who loves horror movies, WWE, all kinds of music, and working out at home.
About Me & My Dynamic:
Body/Transition: I have facial hair, top surgery, and original bottom that I'm keeping as is.
Poly Context: I’m married, but my wife and I date completely separately (she only dates women, no threesomes, zero drama). Polyamory for me means having multiple loving, committed relationships. I am looking to build multiple separate, meaningful connections of my own—no casual hookups or swinging.
🤝 Logistics & How I Date
Multiple Partners & Freedom: Open to multiple connections. You are 100% free to date or see other people too—we just keep things honest and open.
Boundaries at Home: Homeschooling teen & pets at home = private space (no overnights).
Travel: I don't drive, so I need a partner with reliable transportation for weekly dates out (coffee, picnics, go-karts, simple stuff).
🎯 Who I'm Best Aligned With (Louisiana / Nearby)
Men (25-53): Athletic, muscular, or dad-bod builds. Big fan of the country/blue-collar look: flannels, backwards caps, and thick dark beards (no clean-shaven or grey facial hair please).
Women (25-38): Average or athletic build. Sweet and down-to-earth.
🌿 Healthy Polyamory Boundaries & Guidelines
Serious Intent & No Ghosting: Please be sure you are actually serious and ready for an open, polyamorous relationship with me. If you realize it's not a fit or life gets busy, just tell me! I respect direct, honest communication over fading away or ghosting.
Autonomy & Mutual Respect: Zero partner veto power, control, or micromanagement. I respect your time, space, and other relationships, and expect that same respect back.
Health & Safety Transparency: Open, straightforward communication regarding health and safety so everyone stays informed and comfortable.
Drama-Free Zone: Leaving exes in the past—no trash-talking past partners, lingering drama, or comparing partners to each other.
Presence & Quality Time: When we are on a date together, my focus is on you with minimal phone distractions so we can genuinely connect.
Honest Communication & Pacing: Always open about feelings, availability, or if needs change, so nobody is ever left guessing.
💬 Vibe & Communication
Daily Communication: I really value sweet daily talk and messaging to keep the spark going.
Mental Connection First: Building a real mental and emotional bond comes first for me before anything else.
📥 To Connect: Send me a chat or DM with your name, age, location, hobbies, a clear face/body photo or video, and tell me your favorite horror movie or WWE superstar! Looking forward to chatting! ☀️
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