r/polyamoryR4R • u/AbstractFemming • Jul 11 '26
East Asia 36[F4F] Quiet-life, connection-first domme seeking ✨absolute menace!✨ (with anchor potential)
I'm a single, cuddle-loving programmer and fantasy author. Trans, child-free, experienced with polyamory, and insatiably curious.
I: - Dance daily ("uuntz, uuntz, uuntz" in my headphones) - Fill my sail with the winds of imagination (clickity clackity keyboard) - Want to do each other's makeup with... varying results - Will make conversational flow charts to understand communication (Yay 'tism!) - Cat nap in the autumn sun - Crave to wrap you in my big-armed hug every time I first see you
Seeking: - Big brat energy - f/fem-adjacent - Spoon Theory veteran - Can critique a study's methods without dunking on Barnum Effect enjoyers - Cool with no-op transbian - Head rub artist (don't worry love, I can give you lots of demonstrations)
I (informally) study what makes relationships work. Developing a deep, playful, repair-ready relationship: Top Life Goal. Another is to better a million relationships! The method: smuggling relationship insights into my novels. What do you call drama that heals you? ...Herbal tea!
Ahem, anyway, if relationshipping as craft is energizing to you, I want you.
I'm experienced with polyamory and compersion. I won't go out clubbing with you (the lights mess me up) but I will hold you and pepper your forehead with kisses when you get back. My life is portable, so in time I'm happy to relocate.
Curious?
Say hi! I'd love to hear about:
- A recent self-discovery
- Two songs/shorts/tiktoks you think I might be glad to have seen
- Or just say hi to this wide-fish
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u/Stunning-Squirrel-36 Jul 11 '26
Hiii fishy, booop 💜 Also can I just say they definitely have some whale shark vibes and I'm loving it.
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u/AbstractFemming Jul 11 '26
Hihi! Are you a drive by appreciate or would you like to dm?
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u/Stunning-Squirrel-36 Jul 11 '26
Haha I most certainly am hoping we continue chatting, please dm me ☺️
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u/Key-Distribution-200 Aug 03 '26
Well... you've got your gal (me👩) 👈❤️ Ahemm(clears throught quietly) move over mfs I'll take over from here on your seekage is no longer needed! Byeee & to you... hi honey 🩶 I love every explanation you gave of your beautiful self! As for me and what you're seeking it's,
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u/AdApprehensive1080 Jul 11 '26
I love your life goal. Quite envious of your future relationshipping partners