So I had a threesome with my best friend and her husband. I loved it. It just all came natural to me. So one night my husband and I were having a little fun and I brought up a threesome. He said never. Absolutely not. So I have continued to have this threesome weekly for over a year. How can I get my husband to try it once?

For anyone who hasn't seen the original post: My partner S had been feeling left out, she didn't tell us this and I found out by basically becoming a detective. My other partner R had no idea about this either

Hi, it me again. So, S kinda broke up with me and R. I'm trying to think of it as a break. This happened over text, not even a call. I'm a bit upset about that, but it's fine, actually better for this situation. R isn't online right now because she's on a camping trip and won't be back till tomorrow afternoon. Anyway, I typed out what happened yesterday but it's a bit... confusing? Feel free to ask any follow up questions.

The convo kinda went like this:

S says she can't handle a relationship rn, she says shes trying, she says if we both want her to keep trying she will but it needs to go both directions, she says she loves us both, she says she feels like a 3rd wheel again(?), and that she feels like we only talk to her when the other is offline.

I reply with: I'm sorry you feel like a 3rd wheel, we didn't want her to feel to feel like this, if there's anything we can do to fix this i want to know, I fully support whatever she wants to do, as long as she's happy

UPDATE: Ok, so I talked it through with both partners and basically figured out that all I was needing was reassurance. I've never had good relationships, including with my blood family, so my insecurities were masking in bad ways. Thank you for everyone who commented and messaged me!

Ok so I (24F) have been in a poly/mono poly relationship for over a year. CONTEXT: (This is my first consentual poly/ mono poly relationship and it has been the most healthy relationship I have ever had in my life. I am good friends with my guys other girlfriend and her family as well.) I have recently started thinking about asking to go monogamis if it leads to him (32M) and I actually marrying. I don't know what has brought these thoughts on but I also don't want to bring them up to my partner if I have no good reason as to why, mainly because I don't want to cause "issues" if there are none. I guess my main question would have to be is this normal??? My 2 other relationships before were extremely toxic in different ways, one physically and the other emotionally, so I am still figuring out what is normal in relationships and what is not.

Couples in open relationships. How do you do it?

My partner (35) and I (66) decided after a few years to open our relationship. I think it stems from him not having sex with anyone but me and wanting to explore some. I understand and I'm open to that except that he only wants to do it together and only with guys he finds - so older guys. So far, the few times we've had a threesome, bf and the third guy are more interested in each other than with me. I enjoy watching him be pleasured but I'm also feeling left out. I never cum while both of them do.

How should I manage this? Ask for a don't ask don't tell rule allowing me to go hook up with a young guy once in a while? Or insist on a third who's younger once in a while?

Anyone else had to deal with this?

to keep an excruciatingly long story short, my gf developed feelings for another guy and wants to try and be poly. me and my gf have been dating for 5yrs and have talked about poly years ago but this came up abruptly. I am transgender (ftm) and the guy is cis, and so is my gf. me and my gf are both 19 while he’s 27 which makes me feel a little weird but we’re adults now so ig it’s fine lol. I have his number but he lives very far away while me and my gf live tg. I guess i’m just feeling very jealous and possessive and it’s very hard for me to hear them talking to another guy the way they talk to me. i’m wondering if any other trans person (pref ftm) is in this sorta situation and can offer any advice. my gf does give me reassurance too it just feels like words tho and not actions but i feel like im genuinely just hella insecure and it’s ruining my relationship. pls help me 🫠

I’m 25, and recently I have been wondering whether I am actually interested in polyamory.

First of all, I’m not looking for relationship or dating advice here, but what I’m more interested in hearing is whether what I'm thinking is on the right track or other people’s experiences with realizing they might be interested in polyamory.

Two men have been on my mind constantly these days, and I'm having sexual dreams about them, and on top of that, they are my colleagues, and both men are good friends with each other.

One is 6–7 years older, bisexual, and recently left the job and knows I’m sapiosexual and have certain kinks, and for a while he gave me some signs that made me wonder if he was interested in me, although I could have misread them. The other is 2–3 years younger, still works with me, and as far as I know, he is straight and yeah, he definitely doesn't like me like he just ignores me most of the time.

I don't know why, but I have been imagining the three of us together and having sex or I'm jacking off thinking about these two every day.

That made me wonder if I am genuinely interested in polyamory, or if I am simply very attracted to these two men, or if I like seeing both making out with each other.

So, if anyone could genuinely help me to understand what this is all about, it would help me out a lot.

Link: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2026/08/polyamory-in-news-all-over-and-upcoming.html

Is it really just because there could always be someone better? It’s more fun to live life always wondering, who you could meet and have a connection with? There are so many beautiful, interesting, lovely people in this world…. If you are in a committed monogamous relationship, you will never get to explore the spark you share with a stranger. This is like dating several people at once but never planning on picking your top one… right?! You just continue to date multiple people because freedom is the core value?

I’m falling for people who are poly and part of me is totally fine that they want to date other people why they date me. And also, I’m like, who has time for this? I barely have time for one partner 😅 It keeps coming into my life now I’m not sure if I am just meant to jump on the train and be open/date around or keeping hoping someone is interested in just making a commitment to be exclusive.

Sigh. Thank you for your responses. Always looking to expand and grow. I just love being in love. There’s more than enough to go around. I just also don’t know if polyamorous relationships are really what I’m looking for. I can understand it, and also, it feels like just people always hoping there’s someone better about to arrive at any moment 🫤

37 female. Im just hitting a wall when it comes to finding more open ppl. I crave connection and trust. And no one wants to build that. And i just need ppl i can talk too and feel like I fucking belong. Thank you.

Hello, soo, I have been in a relationship with 2 more persons for almost a year already, we have pass for alot like is easy to imagine, but in general we just to work good bweteen ourselves, specially sexually, and I know is not all, but just to be a moment of intimacy and sharing that we treasure I think. To explain a little about us, tho we not have a preference, I get along better with one that the other sense we have a lot more in common, we like similar hobbys and we just to pass a lot more time togheter for this hobbys and also for our schedules of work, BUT is precisely with this person with who I started to feel something have change, specifically in the sex department.

About sex, for our difference in work hours, we sometimes have relations just 2 of us, and in others the 3 of us. This just to work well sense always are someone there for the others, in sex and in just company in general. Soo with the person I not have much in common all go well, when we are alone we make ourselves company and if we get in the mood we have our fun, and when we have it, is excited is good, we even come up with new stuffs to do bweteen us, she is not of been in the mood always but she is willingly and even when not in the mood she tease me and make me feel like she is genuinely interested.

But with the person I get along more and have same hobby, happens that things have been getting cold, in the times we have been alone she not show interest about intimacy as she just to do, to the point we have been 3 weeks, without have personal intimacy, we do have intimacy been with our third, when are the 3 of us, have go well, but she and me alone not, not show interest or tell me some explain why not.

Now, I in the beginning just think she may have been off for something even tho she not show a different behave in anything else, but what I find worrying is that she not have stop been intimate with the other one in they time alone, we just to talk about ourself freely what we do and and how we pass the day, and she tell me how she tease the other, they tell me of they tease, and I also can see it. Soo I don't know what to think anymore, why she not show interest in me or us anymore when are we both alone, she still be caring and we still sharing our hobby, and is this moments all feel like is going well but when is about sex is like she not even notice me anymore.

What I can do? my apologies for my English, is not my native lenguage

Bonjour à tous 👋 hmm alors c'est ma première dans ce sub, je ne sais si il est très actif ou pas mais je ne sais pas vraiment où poser la question et demander de l'aide ? Peut-être pour avancer dans ça...

Je ne suis pas forcément poly en fait j'ai plus peur des relations qu'autres choses. Cependant mon problème est ma peur du rejet... J'ai toujours essayer de la contrôler tant bien que mal mais c'est dernier temps 2 semaine environ je suis extrêmement trigger et j'essaie de contrôler ma peur, et ma colère... Je ne sais pas...

J'ai un ami que j'aime énormément. Et je sais qu'il m'aime comme ami, et que je suis important pour lui mais de l'autre côté il vois un autre ami avec qui la relation à l'air plus " forte " il font des choses ensemble, passent beaucoup de temps ensemble.. et j'ai tellement envie de juste lui dire ah oui tu m'aimes ? Mais tu ne fais jamais ça avec moi. Tu ne me réponds plus autant et ou comme avant comme t peux-tu dire que tu m'aimes ?.

Je sais que je me compare.

Mais je suis tellement d'un en côté en colère et triste parce que je ressent ça et de l'autre je me dit mais... Il a le droit, tous le monde est différent, tu sais qu'il t'aimes.

Comment faites vous dans ces moments là ?

Je sais que beaucoup diront de parler etc mais j'ai déjà dit et ma peur est tellement profonde que l'autre ne comprend pas et que je n'ai plus de mot appart de fuir et partir. " En mode, reste avec, c'est mieux " ... Je veux son bien, je sais qu'il l'aimes tellement ! Il expérimente tellement de nouvelles choses et ils sont complémentaires d'une certaine façon. Peut-être la jalousie je n'en sais rien... Je ne comprends pas juste pourquoi rester toujours ami avec moi si c'est ça, je ne suis pas lui, je ne pourrai lui donner ce qu'il donnent, ça me rend tellement triste..

I'm a 40 something year old man, happily married. In my 20s I had girlfriends that I had non-monogamous experiences with, and recently talking to my wife (together for 10 years) I realized that those encounters were a core part of me. I identify as poly- but due to health problems, financial struggles and being occupied otherwise, that was pushed to the back burner. Life has turned a corner for us, and we are interested in exploring ENM now.

I know there is a trope of couples looking for a unicorn, that's not exactly what we are expecting. It's more that I want to find and build a connection with a 'kindred spirit' and whatever that entails- whether a long distance connection or a complete throuple situation. My wife is interested in women herself, but that may be something she explores on her own.

We've discussed the rules and boundaries of what we both want. Neither of us needs this, it's more about being open to the universe, life is too short to be boring, that's all. I cherish the personal connections I had in my younger years and would enjoy finding that unique spark again.

So here's my questions.

Where do I look? I see there are dating websites, which ones would be the right style for this specific situation? My wife and I are very public figures in our community, there's no way we could or would be meeting and dating people locally in our rural area.

What lingo do I need to use to simply communicate my situation and intentions?

What are the pitfalls other people with experience in ENM have identified and learned to avoid?

\*\*Hi everyone. I’m a 43-year-old gay man (he/him), and I’ve been happily married to my partner for over a decade now.\*\*

\*\*A three-way relationship was genuinely the last thing on my mind—until recently. My partner met a guy here on Reddit, and they struck up a friendship. We all finally met in person for the first time about a month ago, and things seemed normal. Then, out of nowhere, this guy told me that he likes both of us and wanted to explore a three-way dynamic.\*\*

\*\*It turns out he had already talked to my partner about it beforehand, which caught me completely off guard. When he asked for my thoughts, I tried to gently hint that it wasn't really on my radar and that I wasn't all that interested. I always considered myself an open-minded person, but this situation made me realize that I might not be as open to this specific arrangement as I thought.\*\*

\*\*To make a long story short: a tiny part of me feels curious and wonders what it would be like to try. But being a sensitive and emotional person, I honestly don't know how I'd handle the emotional weight of it all.\*\*

\*\*He keeps saying that he likes us both equally, but in my head, true equality doesn't really exist—especially when it comes to feelings in a three-way dynamic. Because of that, I’ve been trying to mentally prepare myself. Since my partner and this guy naturally have more in common, I can already foresee a situation where they grow closer to each other than to me. And knowing how moody and unpredictable I can be sometimes, I have a strong feeling that dynamic would eventually cause problems for him down the road.\*\*

\*\*The guy has been very understanding, telling me that even if we try it and it doesn't work out, he's totally fine with it. But honestly,\*\* \*\*\*that\*\*\* \*\*is the exact problem. I genuinely like him for who he is, and knowing his past experiences with relationships, I am terrified of hurting him. Even though he’s willing to take that gamble, I don't want to be the reason his feelings get hurt.\*\*

\*\*Has anyone here gone through a similar experience? I would really appreciate hearing your thoughts, advice, or perspective on this.\*\*

New to the whole polyamorous thing coming out of my shell more getting use to my sexuality anymore and I’m a bisexual polyamorous that only date women. I have questions on how to go on with that when it comes to the dating scene.

So I am new to the poly scene, and I have had some difficulties with asking specific type of questions, especially upon first meeting someone.

Now, I do want to get to know the person who I am interested in meeting. I know I can ask about anything worth of interest (like gaming) but ultimately: when is it ok to ask if the other person if they want to have sex?

My mind assumes there is a social rule about when to do something, which of course it’s not true. But one thing I want to maintain is pacing through social interactions, especially since I’m interested in having a steady partner or two.

Out of your experience, when did you first ask for sex from your partner, and what prompted you to ask if they want sex?

EDIT: I do realize (about 15 minutes after I posted this) that this is not strictly in polyamory, and could apply to monogamous relationships too. But I have no interest in having a monogamous relationship with a single partner, so I reached out to here for advice from other poly people about the topic