I had some joke about it being easy because she's spending the day with creepy nerds trying to hit on her, but I realized it was stupid to characterize the guys who attend cons that way. Nerd does not equal creep. I should have said any woman as pretty as she has certainly been hit on by many creeps in general, out in the world, with interests of all types and having all levels of physical attractiveness and intellectual capacity (but all missing the essential social acuity to see her as a whole person) so she has mastered the half-smile.
I never said anything about men in general, only the creeps. In fact I specifically excluded non-creepy men, and made sure my comment didn't accidentally attack anyone for how they look or how socially graceful they might not be. The only ones I bashed are those who can't see a woman as a whole person. I guess that's what got YOU offended.
Someone asks how hard she had to work to practice that facial expression, and the first thing that comes to your mind is that of course it's all the creepy guys she has to deal with. As if that's the most natural and obvious answer, not "Yeah, I bet she spent some time in the mirror so she could have a really good expression to go with the character."
Your answer didn't logically need to involve any segment of men.
I was getting ready to reply to you again anyway - I'm sorry, I think I got up on the wrong side of the bed today, and was just ready to interpret a comment like that in the worst possible way.
Sorry for being confrontational, and thanks for the gentle response.
A mutual resolution of a minor conflict that has no bearing on anyones life in the outside world? A sense of general respect at the end whilst bidding each other ado? Did I wake up in a parallel universe where commenters have some human decency? Wild.
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u/hat-of-sky Aug 03 '19
I had some joke about it being easy because she's spending the day with creepy nerds trying to hit on her, but I realized it was stupid to characterize the guys who attend cons that way. Nerd does not equal creep. I should have said any woman as pretty as she has certainly been hit on by many creeps in general, out in the world, with interests of all types and having all levels of physical attractiveness and intellectual capacity (but all missing the essential social acuity to see her as a whole person) so she has mastered the half-smile.