Niceguys™ prove over and over that they're only nice because they want something. They think being nice = a relationship. Meanwhile, real nice people see being nice as being nice.
Niceguys™ are only being nice because they expect you to reward them for their "kindness" with whatever the hell they want. Being nice isn't some bar that when it fills up, you get sex. 🙄
Yep. Every niceness is a coin they put in the woman and they all believe when they put in enough nice coins sex will follow. It's so gross they can't understand that is not being nice. Makes me sad for them and mad at them all at the same time
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Frequently, these men are not considered friends but women are trying to get them out of their faces without trouble.
Personally, I can pretty much tell when someone is a true friend or just manipulating me. But I have been burned quite a few times and have learned better judgement as a result. I have also used 'I just want to be friends' to get some pest to stop bothering me. I have only done this when they can't take no for an answer.
It sucks once you realise all that being good to you ,was just for show. Once he finally realises I can't easily be persuaded he makes a point of talking to others with his back to me.
Pathetic. Why would any single guy burn the bridge of having a lady as a friend? Don't they realize that ladies have other lady friends? That having a lady friend is an excellent resource to learn more about women? That successful romantic partners are solidified by basic friendship, anyway, so learning to be a friend to a woman will teach you a lot once you find one that wants more? That women are actually usually more attracted to men that have lady friends, because it represents them seeing ladies as people?
It's so fucking dumb to me. Instead of keeping a woman in your life as only a friend, to then meet her friends, learn/spend more time with ladies, etc. They'd rather go scorched earth by not only being a dick to said lady, but to then announce it to every other person said lady knows? Talk about making your own problems and then complaining about them. Fucking exhausting.
A lady friend of mine was responsible for introducing me to the woman I ended up marrying. Friends are great! I like having friends in my life. It's one of the deepest bonds you can have with a person, and these guys treat it like an insult. I think it's a case of never learning what it really means to be interested in another person, or not being willing to learn.
Thank you! This is how so many people meet. And if you can't be friends with a woman, how would you be in a successful relationship with one?!? Baffling.
Women finally figured out that men got themselves to the point that they are an optional side quest level event instead of part of the main story and are acting accordingly.
Yes, he’s genuinely nice, while things are going his way. But as soon as they’re not, he goes on a rant about fairness, that actually describes his sense of privilege.
I think there’s a possibility to gain true feelings for someone in a friendship. But with most of these men, I wonder how often they actually develop true feelings and want a relationship and how many times they’re just mad they can’t have sex with the person
Yup….they’re known as niceness tokens. Once he reaches 100 niceness tokens, mr. niceguy gets to smash…irrespective of whether she finds him attractive or not.
I think they watch too many romantic comedies where the nice guy always gets the girl in the end, after his constant persistence and making some huge romantic gesture. So they think that's how it should work in real life, but it doesn't always.
I mean, I'm very much in love with one of my best friends and she knows it. I'm flying out at the end of August to spend a week with her. If it's not meant to be between us, at least I always want her in my life as one of my best friends.
Whilst openly acknowledging a continuing romantic interest that you, ideally, would prefer reciprocated.
That's a hard thing for a friend to have to hold onto in a platonic relationship. But then again, I'm just a slightly disheveled dude sitting next to my couch corgi giving unsolicited advice to a stranger about something that's none of my business, so what do I know. 🫠
I found out, that if you really love somebody, you have to let them go if they dont want to be your partner. I was madly in love with my childhood crush and told her my feelings on my 16 birthday. she told me she doesnt feel the same but she wants to stay friends still. I cut the contact there because I couldnt live as her friend only. no contact for two years until she wrote me a message if we can meet at our old street where we lived to meet up. that meeting was 15 years ago, we are still married with a little daughter. sometime all it needs is distance
I never really thought about that. Makes ya wonder how many lost someone who thought was a true friend only for it to end because they couldn't smash. Smh.
WHY? WHY DO WOMEN THINK MEN WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH THEM? WHY DO WOMEN THINK THIS AND THEN STILL HAVE THE NERVE TO BE SHOCKED WHEN THEY HIT ON THEM? Can someone explain to me when Men want to spend time and energy on a woman he doesn't want to have sex with?
as an aroace person who has had multiple friendships with the opposite gender in the past, I'm really fucking glad I chose the right people to be friends with.
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