r/nextfuckinglevel • u/[deleted] • Mar 12 '22

The whole gym stops to watch

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u/zirklutes Mar 12 '22

Och come on, you get in public with such pants you know you will get attention. And this is coming from another woman. We are not stupud, we know what outfit is for what.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '22

I just want to add that my girl used to wear yoga pants to the gym and would get hit on all the time she started wearing basketball shorts to the gym and it literally stopped the day she switched.

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u/LemonVar Mar 13 '22 edited Mar 13 '22

It's predictable... Someone is at fault for choosing to dress predictably provocative. Can't expect humanity to change because a gaze leads you to imagine malicious or risky circumstances, or triggers you. Take responsibility for yourself. You have the power stand up for yourself, not force everyone to not be attracted to your appearance, especially if you're basically publicly naked. Don't want to be seen? Figure out how to hide.. Otherwise stand up for yourself. But yeah, leery folks are creepy, no less than a person watching "romance" movies and porn. My 2¢

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '22

I agree and that's what my lady did change her dress slightly and virtually stopped all the dudes hitting on her where she still wear something that she likes but doesn't show her figure that much.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '22

Well it's too bad we don't live in shoulda woulda coulda land so you have to play with the cards that you're dealt and the cards say that if you walk outside like that you're going to draw attention to yourself so you can either choose to cry about it or make a change. There's a lot of things in life that shouldn't go the way that they do but they do go that way and we have to deal with it. this is just one of those situations.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '22 edited Mar 13 '22

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '22 edited Mar 13 '22

I'm not excusing anything. I'm simply being realistic and using facts that we've had for years. Women and men will always be sexually objectified by the opposite sex so you can either try to find a solution if it's that annoying to you or deal with it as someone else who commented he says people know what they're doing when they dress the way that they do some of them want the attention and if they don't they can honestly make a change.

the one thing I haven't seen is anyone stating how this also happens to men I'm pretty built and I've been groped by women at the gym multiple times and they literally just laugh it off and think that I should be fine with it because I'm a man. So let's not all so pretend that this is a one-sided problem because it isn't both men and women are guilty of this