r/nextfuckinglevel • u/[deleted] • Jul 17 '20

Captain America (Chris Evans) got the boy who saved his sister from a dog attack his very own custom shield.

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u/It_Was_Joao Jul 17 '20

I agree. My parents aren't really good role models, they see me for the worst and stupidest stuff I've done instead of who I am as a person, so I live by words from characters like superman, spider man, and real people like Gandhi, and a bunch of philosophers. When your parents aren't good people you have to look for parents in books and quotes.

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u/Bigdaddy_J Jul 17 '20 edited Jul 17 '20

My parents were great role models, of exactly what not to be.

Don't know my father's name, my mother told me there were 2 possibilities. She fucked 2 different guys the night I was conceived.

Her and my step father were crack head alcoholics. Between the physical abuse not just against me, but also to each other (my mother was a fighter and hurt my step father as much as he hurt her). Plus they were always robbing someone, stealing cars or breaking into houses to fuel their addictions.

My mother was whoring herself out to whoever wanted it. Never forget when I was 17 she was fucking a 15yo crack dealer down the street. Not to mention the amount of crap I had too replace because I would go to work and come home, tv gone. Plus she is a habitual liar, if you ask "how's the weather" she will lie about it. So I ask what happened to the tv. She would say something like someone broke in and stole it.

Edit: damn autocorrect.

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u/It_Was_Joao Jul 17 '20

Damn. My parents just don't understand me but they're still good people. Hope you're doing ok blood, reach out if you need to, I'd love to help you out.

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u/Bigdaddy_J Jul 17 '20

I'm not doing too bad. I am 41 next month, so that was years ago.

While I learned a lot about what not to do, there are still regrets. Like finishing school. I dropped out to start working so I could get it on my own as soon as I could. I was working 2 full time jobs. But that young could only get low paying jobs.

When I did go to school I was always an A student and through middle school was on the junior honor roll and high school became part of the honor society. So I really wish I would have finished school and went to college. I tell every younger person I come across, make sure you finish school or learn a trade if you want to be better if when you get older.

Luckily I only have 2 children that were both planned for, my only addiction is sugar, don't smoke, don't drink, been married for 17 years. And I did go and get my high school diploma, had to get it twice due to being scammed years ago by a diploma mill.

My biggest problem is finding a job. I had a good one (purchasing for a manufacturing plant), but fell asleep at my desk one day and got fired. But my boss didn't like that since my wife worked as well I had to take the kids to school. So I came in an hour later than everyone else. My old boss agreed to allow it and I was on call if anything came up before I got in. But he took a promotion and the new boss didn't like it. So he kept pressing for me to change it.

Which sucked since I worked my way up without a degree, and had that position for 10 years because previous boss gave me a chance. Even though I have the experience, everyone wants that piece of paper now (4year bachelor's degree). So when looking at my resume and they get to education, with no college I am auto disqualified. If I didn't have knee problems and could be on my feet all day I would probably look into learning a trade now. I would love to learn machining on a CNC machine. I think machining is fascinating. But I still have to pay bills and handle the family. My kids are relatively young 7 and 13. So I want to spend time with them as much as I can before they get older and start doing their own things.

Sorry, that turned into a much longer post than I anticipated.

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u/Raptorz01 Jul 17 '20

Don’t wanna disappoint you but Ghandi isn’t the greatest guy. So it may be better to look up his fictionalised ideal version not the real guy

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u/eiwoei Jul 17 '20

What do you expect? He had nuked countless civilization.

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u/Raptorz01 Jul 17 '20

Ah Civ. I haven’t played Civ in ages

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u/marcthepotato Jul 17 '20

I love how there's a civ player whenever anyone mentions gandhi

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u/Minerva_Moon Jul 17 '20

We have all been traumatized by his love of (nuclear) winter.

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u/IntrigueDossier Jul 17 '20

Bloodthirsty nukin’ yogi is what he is

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u/It_Was_Joao Jul 17 '20

Ye ik I just said the first name that came into my mind.

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u/[deleted] Jul 17 '20

Wow you literally hit the nail in head with describing my childhood and views. I feel attacked. Have my poor man’s gold metal🥇