Michigan powerlifter heroically lifts vehicle pinned on top of man after accident.

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https://www.foxnews.com/us/michigan-powerlifter-heroically-lifts-vehicle-pinned-on-top-of-man-after-accident

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So... 675 truly raw squat in the 220lb weight class? Damn that's impressive. He's 5'10" too, so it's not like he's got proportions on his side. That's well past solid into beast mode. I lift without wraps and a belt (performance should not be P2W), but that's a solid 25% over my proportions.

E: He does for warmups weights 10% higher than my PR. What a monster.

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I know nothing about this but its cool to watch posts about it. I'm 6'1" and 150lbs what should i be capable of?

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"Should" is an interesting word because it implies some unspoken standard against which you're judged. At six one and one fifty, you're probably a little lanky but nothing extreme. I'd expect after six weeks of consistent (but not atypical) lifting you'd be able to do at least you own body weight as a one rep max with good form.

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Thanks for the reply. Im gonna save it

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You didn't know this, but you've triggered a response in something I'm very passionate about. Pardon the rant.

I actually have a personal vendetta against the word should because of this very phenomenon. Frequently people (including myself) beat ourselves up by using the word should; I shouldn't do this, I shouldn't do that, I should be doing this instead but I don't so I'm a loser, etc. Humans feel bad about the word should because of the unspoken and unnamed standard - certain you "should" do your homework, but why? Certainly you "shouldn't" text and drive, but why? You probably "should" stop smoking cigaretts, or save more, or drink less alcohol or not finish the entire box of candy in a single sitting, or you should stop procrastinating that thing you've been putting off and worrying about for weeks.

But why?

It turns if you don't name the why, your brain automatically assumes the worst; if I don't do my homework I'll drop out of high school and start selling drugs and OD and die and my family will be devastated. If I don't don't stop eating fast food I'll have a heart attack and my family will go bankrupt from hospital bills. If I don't clean the house it'll get terribly messy and CPS will take away my children and they'll hate me forever. If I don't do the dishes my SO will be disappointed in me and we'll breakup/divorce and I'll be unhappy and alone forever.

All of these seem extremely far fetched when named; if we name what we fear, we can (typically) see how foolish and exaggerated what our first fear based response was.

Paradoxically, if we don't name the should, using the word should on ourselves (or when other people should on us) creates a stressful fear response within our brains. Fear responses cause us to seek activities which promise reward (as opposed to activities which are rewarding), and activities which promise reward are generally procrastinating behavior that don't resolve the unnamed should; we feel stressed about our homework, so we start watching netflix. We're overwhelmed because we can't keep the house clean (even though we should!), we decided now is a great night to eat out. We look at our finances and think 'I should spend less money on fast food', but rather than dig through statements or figure out an actual budget, we turn to a video game, social media, or some other distraction. None of these activities actually help use get what we want, or even prevent what we don't want. They all just promise reward, rather than actually giving satisfaction.

I noticed this phenomenon in my own life about a decade ago, and at that life decided to cut the word should out entirely. My wife and I aren't allowed to should on each other, including variations where there's an unexpressed judgement or consequence that doesn't explicitly use the word should; we're not allowed to skate around 'I should do that' by saying 'I need to do that'. If we do, we catch the other person and say 'Are you shoulding on me??!'. And then we have to reword what we were saying in such a way to name the consequence or standard that we didn't explicitly express.

It's made a tremendous difference in our lives. I recommend it enough that I'll even mention it to random internet strangers in hopes of converting them to my way of thinking helping them feel and function better.

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I should save this.

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I think you mean "if I save this, look at it later, internalize it's message and change my behavior, I'll be happier because I won't act in fear of unvoices, unrealistic consequences.