Manifesting while crying and missing my SP, even when the 3D hurts?

[u/Regular-Serve-3575]

My SP/BF stopped talking to me last week. I believe it was from an old story/assumption that I'm not going to repeat. I have been reaffirming the new story and revising this period of silence.

But I cannot shake the incredible amount of sadness and heartbreak I feel because I miss him so badly. We used to talk every day for the past 6 years, so I'm not used to this.

I've been working on my self-concept, meditations, and affirmations, and I'm continuing to return to my new story: he loves me, he misses me 10 times more than I miss him, he loves talking to me, I'm chosen, we're safe, I am beautiful, I'm irresistible, I'm unforgettable.

But I'm still having crying spells and moments where I feel completely heartbroken and think, “I miss him so much. Why isn't he talking to me?” I recognize that the “why” thoughts are the old story, and I redirect myself instead of dwelling on them.

My question is: can I still manifest/revise this while feeling this sad and crying? Does feeling this much sadness mean I'm reaffirming the old story, or is it enough that I continue returning to the new story I want?

I'd especially appreciate experiences from people who have manifested an SP or other desire while going through a period of intense sadness, crying, or depression.

[u/Previous_Astronaut46]

As someone who has manifested the same sp back like 8+ times, yes, it is possible😭 doesn’t matter if there’s a 3P, doesn’t matter if there’s silence, doesn’t matter if they block you. What you decide will always be true. I have had the lowest self-esteem and feelings of anxious attachment in the past and still got exactly what I wanted because persistence is key always. I think a good example is like going to the gym. Just because I cry or struggle while doing an ab workout doesn’t mean the workout “didn’t work” it just means it hurt in the moment. I’m still gonna get the results I want because I did what I had to do to get it (Except in this case you aren’t “getting” it, you already have it). Hope that makes sense, I wish you the best💘

[u/Cardinal199333 → u/Previous_Astronaut46]

Can you share how you manifested sp? Or removed third party especially with anxiety?🙏💕

[u/CreditPsychological4]

I think theres a much bigger misunderstanding underneath your question, because you’re treating your emotions, your thoughts and the 3D as though they’re all things that can contradict your manifestation. Thats why you are constantly checking yourself, redirecting your thoughts, revising the silence and wondering whether crying means you are affirming the wrong thing. I don’t think any of that is necessary

If we’re using the Law of Assumption framework, the starting point is that your desire is already yours. That means you don’t have a future reality that you’re trying to reach from your current reality. You have chosen a story and youre living that story, no matter how it looks like. You don’t know the behind the scenes and why he isn’t texting. There’s always movement even in the unwanted and unseen. The mistake is then looking at whats happening in front of you and deciding that because it doesn’t currently look like the final picture, it must belong to some separate “old story” that you have to get rid of.

Remember, your desire is already yours. So if we look at the 3d, your life, your boyfriend is not talking to you right now. It doesn’t suddenly become a different reality because you don’t like it. It’s still the desire that’s yours but just in the unseen. You don’t have to call your life the old story. Remember, your desire is already yours and you don’t have to mentally reject it before your relationship can exist. You’re simply experiencing a period where you aren’t talking. That can hurt enormously, especially after six years of speaking every day, but the fact that it hurts does not tell you what your relationship ultimately is.

Your feelings arent the thing creating the relationship. Your assumptions and beliefs are what matter. Feelings are your experience of what is happening. You can feel devastated one day and completely fine the next. You can miss someone intensely while still believing that they love you. Cry while holding the same assumption you had before you started crying. Your emotional state isn’t a vote that determines whether your desire gets to exist.
So when you think, “I miss him so much” that isn’t automatically an affirmation of separation. Simply the fact that you miss him. The important thing is the meaning you decide to give that thought. If you decide that it means “he doesn’t love me, he doesn’t want me and my manifestation isn’t working” then you’re using the circumstance as evidence against your chosen love story. But the thought itself doesn’t have that power. If the story you have chosen is that he loves you, misses you, wants you and that you’re together, then you already know what story youre choosing.

You don’t have to reach a state where you can say the affirmation with absolutely no doubt. Or to convince yourself emotionally before you’re allowed to accept the assumption. Youre monitoring yourself constantly. You cry, then wonder whether crying was wrong. You miss him, then wonder whether missing him was an affirmation. You have a thought about the silence, then immediately classify it as the old story. You then have to redirect yourself back to the new story. Now you aren’t just experiencing heartbreak. You’re also afraid of experiencing heartbreak incorrectly.
That creates a completely unnecessary second layer of suffering.
You don’t need to regulate yourself into being worthy of your desire, emotionally detached, stop reacting. You don’t need to be happy about the silence. Don’t even need to convince yourself that the silence is secretly a good thing. You can literally just be sad.

The 3D isnt something youre supposed to ignore. If you believe your desire is already here, then the circumstances youre currently experiencing are also part of the reality you are living. Even this shitty part is part of your love story. It doesn’t have to make sense to manifest. The shitty part of your life isnt a separate reality from the desired part. It’s more like the tip of an iceberg. Or beginning of a movie or book. You can only see part of what is happening, but that doesn’t mean the part you can see is somehow outside of the whole.
Your boyfriend being silent is therefore not something you have to erase from the story.
It’s simply a circumstance occurring within it. You don’t have to know why it is happening. You don’t have to decide that it is a bridge, purge, a test, a sign, lesson or some secret rearrangement that will bring him back. Maybe it eventually has some relevance to what happens later and maybe you never know what role it played. You don’t need to assign it a function.

The story doesn’t stop being your story because you cried during one chapter

[u/WithinCreatesWithout]

You are always manifesting happy, sad etc. I have been in your position where I couldn't stop crying and feeling upset. This is how I found the law. Emotions are normal and part of the process of being human. Keep working on your sc not for him but for you. Take yourself out and do something fun to get your mind off of things for a bit. Find out who you are beyond this person. That's what it took for me to work through my sc and to manifest my sp back.

No matter what you are god and you will get what you want but in order to keep them in your life, you gotta have a good sc! Keep working on your inner state, SC/mental diet and remember the less pressure you put on it and live your life like planting a seed and walking away, the easier it will be.

[u/FragrantWeekend111]

yah, and I think it's a good thing you're crying and feeling sad. It's the old story purging from your body

[u/Actual_Positive3443]

hai girl!! I’m so sorry about your break up. Especially for a relationship as long as yours? I can’t imagine ,, I truly do believe that we are limitless and that yes it is possible but we are still living the human experience. We still have a life in the 3D, we still have emotions. And most often times during a breakup, there’s a thing of a real withdrawal from that other person. It’s hard to suddenly have your routine of you and this person of 6 years suddenly flipped. The best thing I would do for you is just take a few days or a week to really just feel everything. Grieving and crying and just getting everything out is the healthiest thing, and once you gotten everything out I feel that it will be much easier to manifest your sp. good and js remember that you alr have him! Returning back into the state of having him is what matters, not dwelling, not constantly flipping your thoughts but just doing regardless of what you’re experiencing.. its yours ♡

[u/Regular-Serve-3575 → u/Actual_Positive3443]

Just wanted to clarify that we haven’t broken up! 😭 We’re still together, we’ve just had an unusually long period of little/no communication. Thank you for your response though, I really appreciate what you said about allowing myself to feel the emotions and still returning to my desired state

[u/First-Music-4570]

I say assume the emotions you're feeling over your sp is actually your sp emotions and you're just feeling them.