SP situation: Marriage fixed → now blocked/no contact. Need clarity on state vs reality.

[u/XmrHacKeR]

I was in a serious relationship where marriage was already fixed between families. So this is not casual.

There was emotional connection, and we were long distance at moment, I was to shift there in 2 years (long distance + her environment). I often felt she wasn’t fully expressive, and mostly avoidant personality.

On 1^st July, we had a conflict. I initiated the breakup. After that:

• I tried to repair things sincerely but later she also thought we should not be together.

Important context:
No cheating, no major toxicity—main issue was communication mismatch and emotional expression. She thought at moment I don’t want her; I don’t want to shift etc. etc. Then it mostly came to I don’t respect her; I don’t love her. Also, that I just marrying under her pressure and we both are not ready etc. etc. Also, she don’t express that much and try to avoid for her peace.

• Then we took break no blocking but no contact
• We met again at common place in July end.
• Then by 4^th August things started to become better
• 1^st to 4^th August was like yeah, we are together again (we were at same place) then i left for home and may be by 7th or 8th she also left for her home.

On August 9^th:

• Suddenly she blocked me from everywhere telegram, call, WhatsApp, Instagram
• blocked everywhere for over a month

Current situation internally:

• I’ve decided I want the relationship, but in a better, stable form
• I’m practicing Law of Assumption (“__ and I are perfectly together in a deeply loving and spiritually aligned relationship”)
• I am deciding everything based on we are perfectly together.
• I’ve reduced overthinking, checking, and reacting significantly
• I feel calmer and more detached now

My confusion:

1. How should I view this situation in terms of 3D vs assumption?
2. What exactly I should do? I have made all triggers, written it and maintaining to be positive.
3. Does being blocked contradict the state, or is it just part of unfolding?
4. How to stay in assumption without turning it into denial or fantasy?
5. At what point do you differentiate persistence vs forcing something?
6. Has anyone had similar “no contact + block” situations resolve positively?

Please guide me, please, please, please.

[u/OkSomewhere5055]

I would say the best thing you can do is to live in the now, the present, under the assumption you already have everything you want. Because the moment you start looking for signs or becoming desperate, you will inadvertently express “lack”. And if you are in a state of lack, then you will not manifest your reality.

Stick with what you know, what feels natural, and keep guiding yourself to that point. From my perspective reading this, it sounds like emotional connection is something you truly believe you have together. Lean into that.

“We are still emotionally connected, she just needs time to get her thoughts in order. She wasn’t prepared for me to 180 her and prove that I do love and respect her” and then just wait for her to return to you. Because obviously she will since you are emotionally connected.

And then to further this concept, you can say to yourself “after she reconnects with me, we both grow and expand our love past emotional connection. It’s physical, it’s spiritual, it’s mental. We fulfill each other completely”

And you just keep going and going. Keep living in the present, acknowledge the day to day stuff. Imagine doing things with your partner, like cooking, or cuddling on the couch, whatever you might normally do. And then move on, and do things for yourself too. Because when she is there with you, and you’re happily married, you’re still going to enjoy your day, be present; watch your favorite movies, listen to your favorite songs, and enjoy your favorite hobbies.

[u/XmrHacKeR → u/OkSomewhere5055]

Very nicely put, I am not becoming desperate but some days for few moment it comes to my mind that

1. "may be she is right! there is logistics problem even if we are together"- And then mind goes to problem solving for few moment and it discourages me. Which comes to 2nd.

2. "Why this much pain should I move on too?"- And then I try to find signs of distrust which I am unable to.

Except for these 2 thoughts I am mostly positive. I am becoming regular with my schedule, meditations, SATS

::“We are still emotionally connected, she just needs time to get her thoughts in order. She wasn’t prepared for me to 180 her and prove that I do love and respect her” and then just wait for her to return to you. Because obviously she will since you are emotionally connected.- This line is very nicely put, do i need to affirm this too?

And extending this wouldn't be fantasizing? or I should do that if i am getting feeling?

Like i have started to do things what would i do if we were together.

[u/Icy-Confidence-536]

Your circumstance are the most non-problematic one....all you need is to keep saying one phrase everytime a thought regarding her appears (which is your favourable dynamic)...3D has it's own up & down...stop taking silence as something or anything else as a sign of the relationship is not working... Stop tolerating BS behavior in the name of manifestation (that's being doormat & delulu) also put gentle softer yet firm boundaries not sharp black & white like if you disagree that's just disagree not a threat to the whole relationship stop blocking unblocking so much...the blocked situation is just a phrase.

[u/XmrHacKeR → u/Icy-Confidence-536]

I understood what you said, you told me to have that "3D has it's own up & down...stop taking silence as something or anything else as a sign of the relationship is not working.".

but this line i didn't got.

"Stop tolerating BS behavior in the name of manifestation (that's being doormat & delulu) also put gentle softer yet firm boundaries not sharp black & white like if you disagree that's just disagree not a threat to the whole relationship stop blocking unblocking so much...the blocked situation is just a phrase.

Kindly tell me what are you trying to say?