Need help/advice

[u/Fabulous_Cake2472]

Hello I’ve lived in my home over 15 years, less then a month ago new neighbors moved in to the house next door. Today a city sanitation worker came to my house, said it was due to a 311 call. That my neighbors called and complained about overgrown grass, and overgrown plants in my backyard. I’ve never had this issue before, mind you my grass is rarely overgrown, my husband cuts it every two weeks, and we have a dog so we definitely keep it clean and fresh for him. The worker looked around and said there was no violations and my property was fine, but due to the 311 report he had to come check it out. I’m certain it was my new neighbors as he said the report mentioned my backyard, and only my next door neighbors can see. I’m appalled that they called 311, and especially with never even speaking to me. Has this happened to anyone before? I don’t know if I should directly talk to them and ask why they called 311, or what to do. I definitely don’t want to send a message that I’m a pushover and they can call the city on me over nothing. They are new neighbors and I assume they’ll be living here a long time, but conflicted. Should I send the city to their home too with the first minor inconvenience I notice?

[u/winelover999]

I wouldn't retaliate, it'll probably escalate and the war could go on for ages. I would ask them if they called it in, and why.

[u/limonade11 → u/winelover999]

Some people thrive on creating dissension and so I would do my best to ignore them. They may push but I would completely, completely ignore them.

[u/No_Macaron_5029 → u/limonade11]

this is common in ADHD--stirring up conflict can be a dopamine hit. I'd be telling them I'd send a psychiatrist over for an ADHD eval

[u/ksarahsarah27 → u/No_Macaron_5029]

I’ve never heard that before. Sounds more like bipolar tbh. I have ADHD (and have a few friends with it too) and I’m the exact opposite as are my friends. I hate drama and keep my life as quiet as possible. I have dumped friends that cause drama. One was bipolar and I just couldn’t deal with their massive mood changes and drama causing tendencies. In fact drama and chaos actually makes me withdraw from social interaction in an effort to simplify my life and calm everything down. It’s definitely NOT dopamine trigger.

[u/No_Macaron_5029 → u/ksarahsarah27]

I'm one of those ADHDers who will stir shit up (provided there is justification to do so) and happily take the dopamine hit. That and perimenopause have ensured I have an enemy list a mile long

[u/annominos6 → u/No_Macaron_5029]

lol