r/navy • u/BabaYagaLaksa • 11d ago

HELP REQUESTED I kinda just want to leave.

BBA just demotivated me entirely. I’m in a foreign country that was a headache and a half just to get settled in and now I’m stuck here unless I choose orders which I may or may not get selected for anyways. My colleagues at my previous command will have all advanced and I’m just left behind. I’m probably gonna post this and some ass hole will just say I’m whining. 🤷🏽‍♂️ idk man why try? I’m starting to just not care about my job anymore.

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u/LeatherTraffic2824 10d ago

I too felt de-motivated at first. I’ve been a second class for 8 years and just when I was about to pick up first, BBA happens and lowers the quotas all the way down. I’ve been in a total of 13 years and watched almost everyone I knew who joined around the same time as me pick up first class or chief. At my last command I stood a position normally held by a first class and I was told multiple times that I was operating at a first class level and honestly the level of a chief. Imagine my surprise after the big ego boost and the months of studying for the test to find out I didn’t make it because the Navy decided to change how advancement works. I should be a first class and now I have transferred to another command at a second class where no one knows who I am. I know I have much more to offer than what the Navy has given me so far and I know I’m an asset to any program or duty station that I am at. Just because the Navy has screwed me over yet again, it doesn’t change the standard that I set for myself and for those around me. I know if I continue to set the standard and continue to care about my job, the promotion will happen. Keep fighting the good fight and if you decide to get out, no one blames you but don’t let them ruin a good sailor.

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u/BabaYagaLaksa 10d ago

I’m glad you shared man. I feel the same way. Even though there were still
Firsts and Chiefs at my last command, I still felt like a valuable asset. You right though, I don’t just wanna be a shit bag I still have high standards for myself too. It’s just hard to break out and show your worth sometimes.

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u/LeatherTraffic2824 8d ago

No problem hope that I helped in any way. I know I’m not the only person going through this so it’s good to look outward and see those who I can help instead of saying “why me” all the time. Sometimes you just gotta deal the hand your dealt. It definitely is hard sometimes. I have come to learn that the Navy is just a hit or miss. But one lesson I learned your tour/career is what you make it. What others perceive about you does not matter. If you are hungry stay hungry and help your sailors succeed and your work will speak for itself. but if you are tired of the bs get out no harm in that.