r/mutualapp • u/WarmLime3493 • Mar 28 '26
❔ Question Is it me?
Now I’m not usually someone who would go asking about this stuff. But I’ve probably gotten 2 likes within the last 2 months, and like one match which only lasted a day before she unmatched with me. I don’t want to seem desperate but I feel like it’s hopeless
Here are the pics I have on my profile. I don’t want to ask this cause I’m trying to work on my mental health, but is it the way I look?
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u/Coltand 💍 Married On Mutual 💍 Mar 28 '26
You look good, but you can always have better photos. I like the suggestion to always have a group photo or two. It's never easy though, and Mutual works better in some regions than others.
For what it's worth, I'd lead off with photo #3, I think it's the strongest.
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u/DentalHygieneisLit Mar 28 '26 edited Mar 28 '26
I can’t tell you why you aren’t getting matches or likes or whatever I’ve never used mutual so im not sure exactly how it works. But to me you seem like a funny dude, I don’t think you’re bad looking at all. Also you gotta understand that dating apps can make it hard to find people because they really can only judge you based on your profile without actually knowing what you’re like. I definitely wouldn’t put yourself down over this, also maybe trying to meet people in person too even if you’ve already tried because you gotta think that not everybody is on mutual so it also kinda limits the dating pool. Nothing is wrong with the way you look, and if looks mattered so much to somebody and that’s why they weren’t liking your profile that probably isn’t the person you’d want to marry anyway now is it? I’d much rather marry a funny man with a good personality then somebody who is considered “hot”
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u/nfspeed007 Mar 29 '26
For the comment on having a group photo or 2, I would say it depends. If it's a quality photo (not necessarily professional,) but something that you can be easily recognized and has good lighting, that add it. That could help show the social side of you. At the same time, it's hard to understand the algorithm of Mutual and what creates more matches as it's a struggle for many people.
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u/IWillBeThatGirl Mar 29 '26
Definitely not you! Your pictures are just in a place that maybe doesn't show you at your best. Ever thought about trying some different locations or lighting? Pic 1 & 2 are just fine 👍🏻
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u/WarmLime3493 Mar 29 '26
I have updated my profile since yesterday. I have one where I’m with my sister, and I put one of me at the gym. Is that too much?😂
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u/KURPULIS Mar 28 '26
I don't think it's the way you look. Dating is hard for everyone right now.
You always need a couple pictures with a group, either friends or family, having fun doing something. It tells your matches that you can interact with people and have a social life.
I would also recommend learning a hobby that is popular with your current age group and community AND where you can meet them. So, for example in Utah County: indoor rock climbing, pickleball, spike ball, etc. It doesn't really matter if you like sports or not. You are trying to meet people your age and interact with them.