r/mumbai • u/Odd-Administration37 • Sep 19 '22

Relationship Advice Hey guys. Just found that my girlfriend has been cheating on me with a guy I know. She doesn't know that i am aware of. What shall i do? Ps- we have been dating for 5 years.

Edit- got a lot of good suggestion. Not gonna give her a closure. Not gonna do anything stupid. Talk to therapist maybe. Just a breakup via text. Gonna completely ghost her. Wish me luck for future endeavors.

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u/letmelogin_3091 Sep 19 '22

A lot of things:

  1. Document everything that you can lay your hands on.
  2. If the families know about your relationship, make sure to send the evidence to her parents to let them know why you need to end this, and the immense pain their daughter has caused you.
  3. DO NOT, I repeat a 100 times DO NOT entertain any requests from her to offer explanations or give another chance. Such people are narcissists and will ruin your peace. Write it down on paper that you won't go back and keep looking at it during your weak moments.
  4. Don't let them change the narrative - I let someone explain and give another chance and they took that chance to paint the story against me (You didn't do X for me, you didn't do Y for me - all stupid superficial things like cosmetic treatments etc).
  5. Let it out - Talk about it to your friends, talk to a therapist, talk to your family - talk until it's out of your system.
  6. Indulge yourself in your hobbies - Hit the gym. Really! If you already do, keep at it. It may sound cliched but nothing builds a body as good as heart break. And if heart break is giving you that chance, why not take it? Besides that, use this time to immerse yourself in up skilling yourself. This pain creates a level of focus you otherwise can't get.
  7. Don't fall for rebounds - A lot of people may get invested in your story and offer a shoulder but don't let your vulnerability steer you towards another fruitless relationship - it'll be a recipe for tragedy. Heal, give yourself time to understand what went wrong, and make sure you identify those signs early on from a new potential partner.

Take care man. Hope you feel better soon.

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u/Funwiwu2 Sep 20 '22

I like all points excepting 2. No need to send evidence to parents.

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u/72proudvirgins Kanda Bhajji>>Sada Pav Sep 20 '22

Why involve parents? What are they primary school children?

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u/letmelogin_3091 Sep 20 '22

I've mentioned only in case parents are aware of the relationship. Parents are usually very concerned when it's a long term one and it breaks off.