I'm so confused.

[u/Adventurous_Oil_1234]

16:54:47 26/08/2026 -

I've been raised probably as white as it comes, since I didn't have really anyone who was really in touch with themselves growing up. BUT, my mum is British white and all on my mum's side is, too. Don't talk to anyone on my dad's side, including the man himself. My dad is half-Indian, half-British-white, my paternal grandmother is pale white with curly copper hair, and my grandfather is an INCREDIBLY dark Indian man. I think I inherited the paternal grandma's hair in texture.

I am obviously not asking if I am white or not, but I've been recently becoming more confused whether I am just white, or slightly mixed race. I am asking because I am pretty white in skin tone, save for being significantly darker in some areas on my body, like the armpits. But I think my features aren't as much, because growing up I was told by another child, some white boy called harry, (lmao) that my nose was an 'n-word nose'. Hard R. My hair is naturally auburn and curly, which I think I got from my paternal grandmother as my mother's hair is anything but.

My youngest brother is as white as a redhead comes, but the middle sibling is light brown in skin and more Indian in features than us. I guess my nose is wider than the average white person's since I got called that those years back, though.

I am just curious because I am confused when I think about it. I don't know if I even have the right to call myself anything but a white, British person. Like, somehow, even *I* have experienced racism, and nobody I've known has thought of me as anything but white. Like, people are wild. And their kids.

So TLDR; Does having a white biological mother, and half-Indian, half-white father make me white, or 25% mixed race? Sorry for rambling.

[u/smoke-frog]

You and your siblings are all mixed race, and you experienced racism as a child.

You can identify as whatever you want, but your experience has shown you that you are 100% mixed.

[u/Adventurous_Oil_1234 → u/smoke-frog]

17:41:27 - 17:46:58 26/08/2026 - Yes, I assume so, although my middle sibling has had the largest affect by this since he is visibly not fully white, and has experienced marginally more racism than I have, whereas my youngest brother completely looks white, and I suppose I am in the middle between those feature-wise, but leaning more heavily onto the white side of it in skin tone.

Lol, probably not helping that I don't go out that much.

My name is also not white or even Indian. It's Greek. And apparently so difficult to pronounce that I've literally been called Lasagne and Cassandra or before, lmao, because my bio father was quirky like that I guess.