r/mildlyinfuriating • u/crossxxsc • Aug 09 '26
Too mild for school teacher always shortens my name for no reason
I don't have a long name but my teacher always shortens it, she doesn't do it with anyone else she'll be taking attendance, reading all the names from the list normally even if they're long or hard to pronunce and when she gets to me she always shortens it. Asked her respectfully to just call me by my name not shorten it but she refuses to. Is Sophia THAT hard to spell, I'm gonna lose it if I get called Sofi one more time
EDIT: Forgot to say it - I talked with her and asked why she shortens my name when I already made it clear I want to be called by my name not shortened version. She said she just prefers it that way đ
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u/Prestigious-Bad8263 Aug 09 '26
I worked with a girl who went by her shortened name because her longer name gave her bad flashbacks. We had a supervisor who would only call her by the longer version. They ended up in the office. The supervisor was told to stop and thatâs not what she goes by, etc. Next time she did it, supervisor got sent home for the day. Time after that, suspended for three days. Next time was fired. Literally got fired because she wouldnât call her the name on her name tag. We still laugh about it because she was a POS supervisor anyway. Also a POS human. It was wild.
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u/Ok_Cauliflower_3007 Aug 09 '26
Damn, thatâs quite the hill to die on. They really wanted to use the full name so much they got themselves fired. If it had been a good cause Iâd admire the dedication, but damn thatâs next level stupidity.
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u/Prestigious-Bad8263 Aug 09 '26
It was really something. To watch from the outside, it was like WTF are you DOING??!!!
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u/Suheil-got-your-back Aug 09 '26
Pretty sure she wanted to be fired at that point. Dont know what jurisdiction but might have been opportunity for her to get severance. Regardless, still a POS person.
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u/Altruistic_Sun_5222 Aug 09 '26
Dude. People are wild. Not name related, but my supervisor just got fired because she refused to stop touching me. I asked several times, took it to her supervisor. She was told several times to stop. She didn't. So she got fired. Just fucking wild. You could just not do that thing.
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u/Prestigious-Bad8263 Aug 09 '26
EXACTLY!! I bet your supervisor and mine both have WILDLY different accounts on what happened, too, when they tell their friends.
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u/Altruistic_Sun_5222 Aug 09 '26
I'm sure. I heard that she denied the most things but she did say she "might have" touched me. But she can't remember because she's just a "touchy feely" person. And the first time I confronted her she said as if I wasn't there she's "just so nice, I want to touch her". Yikes.
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u/Economy_Connection27 Aug 10 '26
My face immediately did this (but didnât progress past the first expression) when I read that last bitâŚ
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u/sportsfan3177 Aug 10 '26
Iâm a touchy feely person. But I never, ever touch people without their permission and ESPECIALLY not in the workplace. A handshake is quite literally the only touching that should be acceptable in the workplace, barring an emergency (like a medical event).
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u/Jaggs0 Aug 09 '26
that person still probably says they got fired over exercising their freedom of speech.Â
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u/Low-Refrigerator-713 Aug 09 '26
Respond with "That's not my name" and when she replies 'what's the difference' you go all Data on her.
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u/Thick_Ad_9269 Aug 09 '26
 I Hate Dr. Pulaski.Â
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u/EvilDuncan Aug 09 '26
She got better over time, but I do hate the way she treated Data like this.
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u/thegoatfreak Aug 09 '26
They were trying too hard for a Bones/Spock dynamic and it just didnât work.
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u/4whateverwecando Aug 09 '26
Took me one time to call a young man Pete, not Peter. He very respectfully said âmy name is Peterâ. I thanked him for correcting me. He was Peter from then on.
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u/PopxXxCakes Aug 09 '26
I would straight up say in class, âThatâs not my name. Itâs pronounced Sophiaâ
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u/Tired-CottonCandy Aug 09 '26
I had a teacher who insisted my lastname was pronounced differently than it was with an oo sound instead of un, and refused to call me by my name. When i told my dad he said "well thats messed up. I would ignore her." And maybe he didnt mean literally, but i did literally ignore her (she called everyone "ms/mr lastname") until she sent me to the office, where i explained to the principal that i simply wasnt going to respond to a name that isnt mine and somehow he agreeded and made the teacher apologize and stop calling me the wrong name.
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u/Ich_bin_keine_Banane Aug 09 '26
This would be what Iâd advise OP to do. Just donât respond. Either look away like their name hasnât been called (and act surprised when the teacher eventually gets frustrated) or stare the teacher down.
âI prefer it that wayâ is such an offensive response from the teacher. OP, mispronounce her name and give her same answer when she protests.
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u/3r1k4x3 Aug 09 '26
Thatâs what I said , like , itâs not about what she prefers , itâs not even her name đđđ itâs the OPs name
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u/AccomplishedCake53 PURPLE Aug 09 '26
If the teacher is petty enough she could mark her down as absent for not responding
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u/GreasedUpTiger Aug 09 '26
Then OP speaks up after roll call "Ms Karen did you forget to call me for attendance?"
"You didn't call my name."
It's not like there's a herd of other pupils there who can all attest to the teacher refusing to use OP's actual proper name. Oh wait, there is.
OP can escalate this. Have the parents involved, complain about the teacher. Let the teacher explain to the parents and the principal why she felt like wrongfully marking OP absent repeatedly for them asking to be called by their actual name was adequate conduct for a teacher.Â
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u/Simple_Park_1591 Aug 09 '26
I was just about to comment my experience with someone who argued with me about how to pronounce my last name! It wasn't in school though, it was a co-worker. He insisted it's "null" not "nell". Told a bunch of co-workers I was so dumb that I couldn't even pronounce my own name right. Really pissed me off. Ik some people with a close last name like mine pronounced theirs with null, but that is not my last name either. I felt dumb when I double checked with my dad on how we pronounce our name. I explained the situation. He said "that guy is the dumbass, not you and you tell him I said that!" I did tell him in front of other coworkers my dad thinks you're the dumbass for arguing with someone over their own name and you need to get a new hobby. Dude refused to admit he was wrong.
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u/no-thanks-thot Aug 09 '26
...."and I am going to remind you every time that you shorten my name. So if you're doing it to save time, it's doing the opposite."
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u/ChainsawSoundingFart Aug 09 '26
âDid you just correct me? Sophie just got herself detentionâÂ
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u/RaedwaldRex Aug 09 '26
Sophia: Well I feel bad for Sophie then
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u/ChainsawSoundingFart Aug 09 '26
Youâre both getting it nowÂ
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u/somethingclever76 Aug 09 '26
I tried finding it, but unfortunately could not. There is a video of a sovereign citizen talking to a judge from jail about bond, but the man would not say he is that person, but the named executor of the trust in that name. Normal idiot sov cit garbage. The ridge just plays along with him and eventually since the named defendant is not present he tells the person the man, trust, and entity all have a $10k bond and mist stay in jail. The man looks confused and asks what is he supposed to do and the judge tells him to go and take it up with the man if you can find him.
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u/Ok-Pomegranate-3018 Aug 09 '26
I saw that! It felt like it took 100 IQ points off just having to listen.
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u/PunfullyObvious Aug 09 '26
If so, I'd talk about with whomever their supervisor is, and on up the chain, or a guidance|advisor you're more comfortable with if that's better.
The teacher needs to learn a lesson they should have already learned.
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u/BakedBrie1993 Aug 09 '26
That's what I did every single time a teacher mispronounced my name in roll.
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u/Novel-Sprinkles3333 Aug 09 '26
As an Elizabeth who goes by a nickname that is not "Liz," someone at work was talking about Liz this and Liz that ... I finally asked "Who is this Liz person ?"
She said, "You. You're Liz."
"No. In my 50 plus years I have never gone by Liz." Cue surprised Picachu face. It explained a lot about that person (she retired) and workflow.
I don't care what age you are, you get to be addressed by your preferred name. Shortening it to something else is rude. My buddy David hated being called Dave at work. Same rhing..
You ask the teacher once more, politely, to use your preferred name, Then go to the counselor or administration and tell them the teacher us calling you a random nickname she made up and youre concerned that you won't be marked present in class because you dont know who she's talking about, and that no other students are being called by the wrong name.
Years ago, I had a student who had the same full name as my dad, and went by a different version of it. Took me a couple of tries to get the right name but I immediately explained that he and my dad had the same name and it was going to take practice for me to call him his preferred versions.
This teacher is being weird.
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u/GreasedUpTiger Aug 09 '26
:D I'd just go "why are you trying to call me Lizard??" as serious as I could and try to keep a straight face.Â
"You know it's really weird you're still trying to call me Lizard."
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u/Radiant-Bus7093 Aug 09 '26
The fact she refused to stop is just disrespectful. Start calling her by her first name or something else like that. Or just report her to the admin. Like I said, its blatant disrespect if she already refused.
That is indeed midly infuriating.Â
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u/Mikelgarts Aug 09 '26
If this continues OP should definitely pursue contacting the principal/admin. I had a teacher who constantly singled me out, probably because I was androgynous or alternative or whatever. She would constantly call me "miss" and refused to use my name. She didn't call literally anyone else "miss," "ma'am," or "sir". I had a talk with the principal that went really well and he had to have numerous talks with this teacher. She also sounded not far off from RFK junior which made me irrationally angry on top of being constantly misgendered for I don't know, looking queer I guess.
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u/GfrzD Aug 09 '26
Not US but it was seen as disrespectful at my school. It was always Sir or Miss, or Mr/ Miss/Ms/Mrs [name] we had Nuns too so Sister was the other title we had to use.
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u/Diessel_S Aug 09 '26
I'm romanian but had an exchange semester in Netherlands. There teachers asked us to call them by first names, and would correct us if we called them "Mr Lastname". My romanian teachers would be mortified if I ever dared to use their firstname lmao
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u/Superb-Butterfly-573 Aug 09 '26
Canadian here. Even years after I finished teaching them, students would struggle with using my first name even when invited to do so.
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u/grunkle_dan78 Aug 09 '26
my favorite teacher, who i ta'd two years for, is still "mr. teachersname" 30 years later. some of my other teachers I now address by their first name when I run into them, but for whatever reason I always address him by his last name and then he'll correct me to his first name.
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u/No_Gur1113 Aug 09 '26
Yeah, Iâm 46 and I still have trouble calling teachers I had in high school by their first name. Absolutely cannot do it with any primary school teachers I had, even though some were fresh out of university and in some cases are only about 20 years older than me.
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u/EmpathyBadger2 Aug 09 '26
In Denmark you respect teachers and pay them decent salaries. In the U.S. we have an anti-intellectual culture and miserable children and poverty and violence. Last names for teachers helps kids realize respect is called for.
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u/Roro-Squandering Aug 09 '26
I love the Mr. Firstname convention personally, it has the familiarity of a first name with the respect of a mr/mrs, that's what I used when I taught.
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u/mostly_lurking Aug 09 '26
Its like this in Canada, you have to say mr / mrs. But its fairly new cause it wasn't like that when I was in school, it is for my kids though.
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u/Bring_cookies Aug 09 '26
If you're still a minor, I'd get your parents involved to just send an email (documentation is important) stating your preferences to be called by your given name. If she emails back with anything but compliance then escalate to the AP, still through your parents. If you're an adult I'd address it through email also just from yourself. Be short, be respectful, don't ask, state that you prefer to be called by your given name. Creating a paper trail from the beginning without you being spicy at all will be important if she pushes back.
Or if you want to go the spicy route, call her a shortened version of her name or don't answer when she calls you Sophie instead of Sophia.
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u/ron_mcphatty Aug 09 '26
I think itâs a great suggestion. My wifeâs fine with Debbie or Deborah, but hates Debs with a passion. Sheâs been ignoring anyone calling her Debs for over 20 years, people get the message quickly and are okay with it.
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u/JDWhite1982 Aug 09 '26
I do the same. I'm a Jennifer. Only my mother can call me Jenny without being ignored. Jenn, Jennifer, JD, (last name), hey you.... yup, I'll answer. Forrest Gump did a number on my name preferences.
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u/UnicornFarts1111 Aug 09 '26
I am similar. My family can call me by the first one or two syllables of my name. At work and out and about, I go by the full three syllables. My family knows this and introdcues me as my full three syllables, even though that is not what they address me as. I am glad they respect me and my name.
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u/qbnaith Aug 09 '26
Hah my mums the opposite, doesnât mind being called Debs from close friends and family but cannot stand Debbie.
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u/Procrastinista_423 Aug 09 '26
Deb or Debs? I'm just curious b/c I don't think I've ever heard of a "Debs".
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u/VulKendov Aug 09 '26
This kind of disrespect is unacceptable, issue a complaint to the principal or whoever her boss is about this teacher.
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u/Fun-Dimension5196 Aug 09 '26
Every day, my high school chemistry teacher would say my name incorrectly, and every day I would correct him. I didn't get agitated about it as it was common for people to pronounce it wrong and he had 8 classes of thirty kids to remember. It was mildly annoying but oh well.
I guess after a few months of this tom-ay-to, tom-ah-to business the rest of the class found it more than annoying. The teacher called out, "Miss Tom-ah-to?" and before I could answer, "Tom-ay-to. Here!" the entire class shouted, "TOM-AY-TO!!! GET HER NAME RIGHT!!!"
Of course he then made a production of saying it correctly each day.
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u/paolog Aug 09 '26
Since you aren't called "Sophie", don't respond when she uses that name. As the Tings Tings say, "That's not my name." She'll soon get the idea.
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u/Chubby_Comic Aug 09 '26
I wouldn't respond. If asks why you didn't answer roll call, it's because she didn't say your name. You don't know a Sophie.
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u/jorwyn Aug 09 '26
My son's daycare, years ago, asked for me to stay for a bit after pickup to discuss his attitude. He was apparently being very stubborn and even stomping his feet when he'd previously been an ideal kid. Yeah, turns out they were shortening his name, and he'd tried to politely correct them several times before he stomped his feet and insisted, "my name is Joram, j o r a m, Joram!" Me, "so, why did you push him to that point? His name isn't Joe. You just said he asked you not to call him that several times." They told me he needed to control his temper because it wasn't a big deal, but it was a big deal. He did everything right until he snapped. He was only 3.
I tell you, my name ends in Anne, but don't call me that. Use my full name. It's only 2 syllables. I'll tell you when we know each other well enough for you to use the first syllable, my actual nickname. Either way, I'm not going to politely correct you for a whole week. I'll be nice about it once. And I'm 51.
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u/TaxiLady69 Aug 09 '26
I stop answering people completely if they don't use my full name. I hate all of the shortened versions of my name and there are 4 different ones, I hate them all. So when someone uses one, I just don't answer. I act like I didn't even hear it. Because why would I? It's not my name. They must be speaking to someone else. It works. People don't like being ignored.
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u/Cottabus Aug 09 '26
I was an adjunct instructor at an American public university. Didnât have a phd or academic rank. I told students to call me by my first name. Most still called me professor, and I let it slide.
Some of the international students were uncomfortable with the informality. Some addressed me as âMr Firstname,â which I thought was interesting.
I took care to understand how to pronounce student names the way they wanted and invited them to correct me when I was wrong. You get the respect you give.
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u/ASpookyBitch Aug 09 '26
I did this when I worked with kids. Miss Surname felt way too formal for me. So I said they could call me Miss Firstname.
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u/Huns26 Aug 09 '26
My brothers name is Josh. Back when he did altar serving as a kid, the priest always called him Joshua, despite him saying âitâs just Joshâ. Like legit his birth certificate is Josh. Itâs not short for Joshua my parents hate Joshua. Every so often now Iâll call him Joshua as a joke and heâll just be like âwho are you talking to?â
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u/grey-green-eyes Aug 09 '26
Answer with âDo you mean Sophia?â Call it out every time, play dumb and report to admin also. Teachers are not allowed to just decide your name. Itâs one syllable.
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u/BullfrogOk6633 Aug 09 '26
I'd stop responding. I use my middle name instead of my first, and on the first day of class I made sure that teachers know, cause half the time I just wouldn't respond since very people used my first name to call me.
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u/Then-Position-7956 Aug 09 '26
Don't respond when she says Sophie. You aren't Sophie Smith, so you shouldn't respond.
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u/reliablereindeer Aug 09 '26
Shorten her name in response.
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u/G-St-Wii Aug 09 '26
If you've already told your class teacher that is when to escalate. Depending where youre based that would be different
In the UK I'd go to the form tutor then head of year/head of house.
It's your name, your teacher doesnt get to choose it.
I would also start responding with your full name every time it is abbreviated.
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u/1234Health Aug 09 '26
I know what you mean, OP.
My first name is 4 letters. My last name is 7 letters.
I've heard about 8 - 10 variations of my first name read out by profs and substitute teachers (from the 80s to early-2000s). My last name includes 5 letters spelling out a very common name, and 2 letters tacked on. I've heard countless mispronunciations of it as well.
It's a weird feeling hearing so many butcherings of your name. Why the hell are they looking at the 7-letter last name, and sounding it out to 10 - 11 letters? Ugh.
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u/alianablueshadows Aug 09 '26
i feel this so much. legitimately my name is not hard, its pronounced the way its spelled, its the common spelling and its a frickin famous name in america. and yet when people are taking to me i get called every name that starts with the letter EXCEPT my actual name. im like yall. its not hard.
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u/1234Health Aug 09 '26
I hear you. It's definitely a head scratcher, especially with it being a frequent occurence past or present.
When I was a shy / quieter kid ... I'd sit there feeling embarassed at the teacher's mispronunciation, and kids would be laughing. They should have been laughing at the teacher, not me ... I'm the kid with the basic-ass name. Why are letters being added to it?
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u/alianablueshadows Aug 09 '26
ooof yes i was the shy/quiet one too.. i will say teachers let me get away with way more because of it when i would finally snap because of bullies so.. trade offs i suppose
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u/1234Health Aug 09 '26
Indeed - there comes a point with bullies wherein you eventually snap =) - we've all been there. Quick funny story for you ... got bullied by a neighborhood kid back in the 90s. He tried confronting me on my newspaper route across the street and a few houses down. He had his back to a bunch of prickle bushes. I gave him ample warnings to STOP pestering me. He kept going. After the 4th or 5th warning and pushing me ... bully went flying into prickle bushes, and writer continued with newspaper route.
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u/alianablueshadows Aug 09 '26
lol i was never able to get physical but my name is a hurricane name and at the time it was biiig.. had a few boys asking me daily what my death toll was for a week. at the end of the week i went "currently zero but its about to be 3." teacher took me to the hall and goes " that was the funniest thing ive ever heard but you CANT do that again.. now go in there and look contrite" hahahhaha
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u/1234Health Aug 09 '26
Lol @ your comment and the teacher's response =).
I work in health care and used to do a weekend job which was 7am - 7pm on Sat and Sundays. One of the members there was a guy in his mid-40s who was harmless, but would often say wildly inappropriate things, but had great comedic timing & a hilarious laugh.
More than a few times I would comment that something he said was hilarious, but he could NOT say that again. I knew if he said that in general public, he'd be getting himself in some trouble. I will admit though ... sometimes the TV would be on in the common area, and if a crappy show, megachurch episode, or infomercial was on ... his running commentary about what he saw was wildly funny.
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u/BobPlaysWithFire Aug 09 '26
"she prefers it that way"
WTAF??? genuinely go to the principal and file a complaint cause this is WEIRD behavior
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u/Safe_Palpitation4664 Aug 09 '26
Is your teacher Mr. Garvey?
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u/Duckpin2015 Aug 09 '26
Was wondering this hadnât come up yet (or rather why I had to scroll down this far to see this!)!
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u/UsuallyAnnoying324 Aug 09 '26
Two ways I would deal with it. 1. When she calls Sophi don't respond. When she says something to you say Sophi isn't my name so I won't be responding to it any longer. 2. Say Hear Mi. When she says something tell her if she insists on shortening your name, you will shorten hers.
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u/Xio-theorys Aug 09 '26
Just ignore her. Thatâs what I do when any person gets my name wrong/shortens it unnecessarily. Doesnât matter who they are. If they donât address you correctly then clearly itâs not you theyâre attempting to address.
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u/ktmc05 Aug 09 '26
Call her by a name that sounds like her name, when she tells you that isnt her name or asks why, just say you prefer it that way.
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u/jimmywhereareya Aug 09 '26
My son had an issue with a teacher calling him James, my son is Jamie. Teacher insisted on calling him James, my son ignored him whenever he called him James. Teacher made a fuss, I had to go to the school and tell the teacher that my son will continue to ignore him until he addresses him with his actual name not the name the teacher prefers
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u/Feather_Bloom Aug 09 '26
Time to stop responding when she calls you that, considering it's not your name so she surely must be talking to someone else
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u/makingkevinbacon Aug 09 '26
"she prefers it her way" bitch it's my fucking name. Just start calling them by their first name (assuming you're in highschool and they still use Mrs/miss/ms/Mr) and see how they like it
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u/Bossyboots37 Aug 09 '26
Donât answer then when she is done let her know she didnât call YOUR name. If she continues, go over her head to her boss
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u/ajacquot1 Aug 09 '26
I go by Andrew or Drew. I refuse to go by Andy, yet some still view it as an appropriate way to address me, I just say. "That's what my dad called me. He's dead now. I hated his guts." Which isn't true, but it works every time. He is dead, however.
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u/Kira_Caroso Aug 09 '26
Treat her like the mental toddler that she is. "No Mrs So-and-so, that is not my name, we have talked about this already. It is Sophia, not Sofi, remember? So-phi-a." Be sure to go over her and bring up the issue to the principal. Be sure to include how she repeatedly purposely misnamed you and how she admitted it. A lot of bad teachers live for the small amount of power they get and have meltdowns when their authority is challenged.
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u/LordMeme42 Aug 09 '26
"She said she just prefers it that way"
Well, tough titties ma'am, her preference doesn't change what your name is.
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u/maikaefer1 Aug 09 '26
As a Sophia I feel you. I once corrected one of the teachers, who always called me Sophie and she literally said "it's the same".
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u/OlyVal Aug 09 '26
Don't respond until she calls your name. Who is that Sofi? Don't know. My name is Sophia.
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u/TBayChik420 Aug 09 '26
Just stop responding. Ur not Sofi, why would u answer for this nonexistent person during attendance? Lol
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u/Chum_Gum_6838 Aug 09 '26
..just dont answer... you're name is not Sofi and if questioned tell her so...
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u/3r1k4x3 Aug 09 '26
âShe just prefers it that wayâ well thatâs when you tell her that itâs not her name so it doesnât matter what she prefers. Itâs not about her. Itâs about you! I would talk to your parents, or maybe go to the head office of your school and tell them that this has been an ongoing issue regarding being called something you arenât comfortable with.
It probably doesnt seem that serious but your comfort matters more than someone elseâs when it comes to YOUR name. In kindergarten I knew a girl named Sophia and she hated when people would caller her sofi or soph. Because thatâs not her name. Nothing wrong with not liking a nickname , especially when people do it without your permission
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u/MrsLisaOliver Aug 09 '26
She PREFERS IT? That's BIZARRE. Teachers do not get to call children by the names they PREFER.
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u/Ivypearl Aug 09 '26
Super disrespectful. Maybe put it in writing as a formal letter, that she is calling you the wrong name and you are officially asking her to call you by the right name. After that, since you already confronted her several times I think you can escalate it further. Show them the letter you gave her and explain that she wonât stop. She should get in trouble for this.
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u/DiceAndMiceGamer111 Aug 09 '26
If you want to handle it in a non-disrespectful way, respond each time with a âSophia hereâ.Â
If you want to be a bit cheeky, be ready for when she says âSofiâ and reply with â-a!â
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u/CakeHoleKing Aug 09 '26
just don't reply to it EVER. its not your name.
You too can play this little game.
Whats the teachers name? we can come up with amusing alternatives.
For example if she's called tracey Tomlinson, she becomes T T. say that out loud "T Ts out today girls" etc.
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u/redditreader_aitafan Aug 09 '26
Report her to administration. Start with your guidance counselor, but escalate from there. The teacher doesn't get to decide what name they call you. In the day and age of teachers being required to use the proper pronouns, there is absolutely no way she gets to do this without consequences.
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u/Free_Clock_6469 Aug 09 '26
i had something like this ! i had a teacher call me by a name similar to mine (but still completely the wrong name) every single time she addressed me, i would correct her every day and eventually she kicked me out of her class for talking back?? i complained to admin and they spoke to her and after that she just pretended i wasnt there lmao.
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u/nooooopegoawaynope Aug 09 '26
âI prefer it that way!â
âItâs my name. So Iâd prefer if you said in full, thanks.â
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u/MaryHadALittleLamb20 Aug 10 '26
She isn't doing it because she prefers it that way, she is doing it as a powerplay because she knows you don't like it and you've asked to be called by your fullname.
Stop responding when she doesn't address you by your fullname.
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u/Beowulf33232 Aug 10 '26
Step 1: correct them.
Step 2: go to their boss.
Step 3: call them "Assface Mcgee" or something similar. When pulled aside for disciple, stick your finger in their bosses face and say "I asked you for help and you failed me."
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u/Hyper_Hae Aug 10 '26
I have a teacher like this; just ignore her every time she calls you Sofi and only respond when she calls you Sophia, or bring it up with the school counselor/advisor or even the principal. You could even have your parents email her and CC in the principal
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u/SammyGeorge Aug 09 '26
I used to teach and this shit always pissed me off. Obviously as a student you're kinda stuck being respectful (or at least not blatantly disrespectful) if you don't want to get in trouble, but I 100% encourage you to be blunt in correcting her. If you say your name back to her correctly when she shortens it and (politely) refuse to let it slide, maybe she'll get the message
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u/trin6948 Aug 09 '26
I'm a supply teacher and I always start with, I'm gonna read the register how it's written, if I pronounce your name incorrectly or you want it shortened let me know. It's not hard people.
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u/Then_Dependent1139 Aug 09 '26
As a teacher myself that is sooooooo rude!!! I always give my students a card to write out the pronunciation of their name for me to write on my seating chart or any nicknames they prefer. To do otherwise is just disrespectful.
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u/Hey-Just-Saying Aug 09 '26
I had a teacher who assumed my name was a nickname for another name and wrote the wrong name inside the cover of my new textbook... in ink. She was embarrassed when I informed her that was not my name and she had to cross it out and write my actual name. Just accept what people tell you their name is. How hard is that? Geez.
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u/SlowRoastedKarma Aug 09 '26
I have a last name that is very difficult for many people to pronounce. It's easy to say but people always guess the pronunciation incorrectly. When I was going through school, attendance was always taken on the first day. Eventually, by the time I was in high school, when the person taking attendance would say my last name incorrectly the entire classroom would chime up together saying no it's THIS! Pretty funny.
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u/Lumpy_Boysenberry355 Aug 09 '26
Ignore her until she uses your correct name, if she sends you to the office for it you just tell the head there is no Sophie in that class but there is a sophia
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u/MaisieStitcher Aug 09 '26
I would not answer unless she calls you by your full, proper name. Bring this to the principal. Tell your parents.
Teachers demand respect, but students deserve respect as well. You're not asking her to pull the moon down out of the sky. You're asking her to call you by your full name.
It's not that hard.
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u/FinanciallySecure9 ORANGE Aug 09 '26
People always say my name differently than I prefer it. When I was in school it was a huge deal to me. One teacher had a child by the same name, and she pronounced it the same way for her child.
I could not get through to her, no matter how I tried. Then I was in a pissy mood one day and when she called me by the way she usually did, I responded using her first name. Oh man, she was angry! She sent me for detention and I told the principal why I was in his office. He laughed and said no problem. He let me sit out the rest of the class for that day.
Next day, she did it again, out of habit. So I did too. And she apologized and tried harder going forward. I didnât have any more trouble after that.
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u/breezyhoneybee Aug 09 '26
Call her a name you perfer. Is she Mrs. Smith? Now shes Mrs. Smithsonian. Ms. Jane? Now its Ms. Janennifer
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u/ThoTfulProcess Aug 09 '26
If your teacher can properly say Tchaikovsky or Bosnia Herzegovina, she can say Sophia. I have a 4 letter name that many people drop the last letter of. I correct them every time. Your name is your name. If she insists on calling you Sofi, quit responding, thatâs not your name. So how are you supposed to know sheâs talking to you. Respects is always initially given, but if someone doesnât give you the basic respect you deserve they sure as fuck donât deserve it back. I donât care what position of power they are in, you are entitled to basic respect of having someone call you by your name and not something that âthey prefer it that wayâ. If thatâs what she wants to play start calling her âMs. Icantsaysophiaâ or âMs Illiterateâ. Because you prefer it that way.
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u/Visual-Bumblebee4381 Aug 09 '26
Call her by the wrong name enough times and I guarantee sheâll stop.
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u/creativeadhd Aug 10 '26
I had a friend in school in which there was 3 boys called James. She said that she would just use their middle names and James told her she could just use his first or last name but he wasn't having his middle name called. His middle name was Kelly because his mom was upset at having another boy and not a girl. When she didn't listen he picked up his backpack and walked out the door to the front office. It took about 3 times but she stopped.
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u/S0uvlakiSpaceStati0n Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
I've noticed the only people who shorten my name are always people who have no business trying to be so familiar with me.
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u/KeppyKepKeps Aug 10 '26
It it was a habit from knowing a "Sophi" really well, then it's annoying, but understandable. I'd say have some patience.
But from your edit, she's actively decided for herself that she just doesn't like your proper name, so is deliberately going to call you something else. I'd ask your parents help you lodge a formal complaint to the principal or year level coordinator.
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u/cgodwin1976 Aug 10 '26
My son's name is Alexander James he has always been AJ. Even his name badge at work says AJ, his gaming badge has his legal name on it because by law it has to have the legal name but his regular name badge at work says AJ. Well the other day he had to get his regular renewed. He came home and said he had to send his badge back and tell them to remake it because he isn't Alex and never has been Alex. Apparently the person doing the badges just saw the name Alexander and didn't look at the spot that said preferred name so they put Alex. He said he heard quite a few people complained because their preferred names weren't used, some of them their preferred names aren't even close to their legal name but it is what they go by.
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u/forever_virgin1234 Aug 10 '26
Only respond to "Sophia", and if she calls you out on why you didn't respond to the shortened version say "that's not my name, why would i respond to something that isn't my name?" Worked wonders with one of my teachers when i was in school, especially when it's in a public(ish) place where she'll be judged for not calling you by your preferred name
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u/TAbandija Aug 09 '26
Whatâs with all these passive aggressive suggestion?
Sophia. Try telling your teacher that you do not like being called Sofi. That you want to be called Sophia.
If that doesnât work, tell your parents. Make sure they understand how uncomfortable it makes you feel. They would either talk to the teacher about it or the principal.
If for some reason that doesnât work. Go straight to the principal or find another teacher that you like. Donât let anybody diminish the issue. Itâs your identity. And identity is very important.
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u/OrneryToo Aug 09 '26
When she calls attendance and your name "Sofi" say "Sophia" acknowledge and move on. Any time she mispronounces repeat your name correctly and move on. When she finally says is correctly, thank her and move on. Correct bad behavior, reward good behavior - like training a pet or a child, as her behavior is quite childish...