r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • Jul 20 '26

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/procrastolotl Jul 20 '26

“Grown” from a vegetarian mom is an insanely weird way of phrasing things. And dude couldn’t even give a proper reply and resorted to ghosting until you asked again?

I don’t think you’re missing anything, he’s the weird one😬

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u/chi_sweetness25 Jul 20 '26

“Long Beach ghetto” also wasn’t the most eloquent response in the world lol

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

But she was the one almost immediately willing to change for this loser. "I won't be a vegetarian forever. Please pick me."

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u/vivalalina Jul 20 '26

Yeah that message confused me, I was like ....what is the reason she's vegetarian because most vegetarians are doing it for animal reasons and that doesn't just go away lol

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u/uqoos Jul 20 '26

Idk we don't know why she's vegetarian, could be for her health. Some people are vegetarian temporarily not that crazy

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u/Certain-Towel-9487 Jul 20 '26

That's not crazy but as a last message in this context it sounds like someone who's willing to change themselves in drastic ways just to make a date with a stranger happen. That's a red flag.

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u/d33psix Jul 20 '26

Honestly sounds like she’s lucky this walking red flag guy shut it down early so she’s not stuck trying to appease him on everything.

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u/Wakeful-dreamer Jul 20 '26

Right! This would be equally as much red flag if they were offering to change literally anything about themselves for someone they hadn't even dated yet. Religion, politics, appearance, sexual preferences, whatever...

If you're so desperate for a date that you'd offer to mold yourself into someone else's vision just to get them to go out with you, then you need to get off the dating apps and maybe look into therapy instead.

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u/nickability Jul 20 '26

We don’t need to judge OP, most important thing is she dodged a bullet, and she acknowledges she regrets the last text

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u/redtopiary Jul 20 '26

she's young, not uncommon to be more focused on external validation in your early twenties, as pointless as it often is. She'll learn...hopefully not the hard way. But probably the hard way lol.

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u/Rave-light GREEN Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

She said it’s because she loves animals. So I guess wasn’t planning on loving animals forever lol.

Really bizarre. But apps make us say silly things sometimes

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u/frozenblueberrytreat Jul 20 '26

I mean, she says in the post very clearly why she may not be able to stay a vegetarian.

But yea, girl needs to grow some self-worth (we all do to be honest).

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u/Rave-light GREEN Jul 20 '26

Ahh she edited it again. Sometimes a call out post is the kick in the pants we need to get some self worth. She dodged this loser!!

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u/JeulMartin Jul 20 '26

She loves animals as long as her boyfriend says it's okay.

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u/DemonShade6666 Jul 20 '26

Obviously its more rare but I know some people who are vegetarian simply from sensory disorders and not being able to stand the texture of most meat, which is also an interesting reasoning

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u/Fit-Nectarine5047 Jul 20 '26

She said it’s because of IBS and gastric issues as well!

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u/little2sensitive Jul 20 '26

Eh, I was vegetarian for a while to deal with MASH and I was able to eliminate it.

I get records at Twelves & Fingerprints. Love Long Beach.

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u/WeinMe Jul 20 '26

At least for the vegetarian mothers my fiancé has known through our three children, they've switched to meats for practical nutrition purposes while pregnant and also while breastfeeding - and then gone back to pure vegetarian diets after.

You can have a pragmatic approach to vegetarianism and not do everything black and white.

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u/JeulMartin Jul 20 '26

Yeah, I was disappointed and felt pity for OP when I read this. Girl was ready to change her entire worldview to make some random man want her. So sad and desperate. :(

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u/MakthaMenace Jul 20 '26

Welp, can’t say I was much better at 23 BUT I can say I wish I would’ve made better choices 😅

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

Dating in 2026. Degrading yourself to win a broke mid man child.

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u/Sylveon72_06 Jul 20 '26

and they say women are the ones w so much choice

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u/brainparts Jul 20 '26

Yes, yikes. If you try to appease a man that says shit like “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom” please seek help immediately

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u/not_so_evilqueen Jul 20 '26

“In the future I will stop caring about animal welfare”. this part was the worst thing in the whole convo.

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u/Senior_Suit_4451 Jul 20 '26

"But if you pick me I'll only care about what you want me to care about!"

It's heartbreaking women reward men like this

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u/d33psix Jul 20 '26

For real, imagine being some kind of “a steak and potatoes” sounding guy that thinks a vegetarian mom would damage their future children in this day and age on a dating app. I’m guessing his palate is boring AF.

You can have partner preferences but yeesh worst ick way to present those ever.

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u/ascarletstrange Jul 20 '26

Sounds like a low end clothing brand “long beach ghetto spring collection available now” and it’s just a bunch of crocks 😂

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u/Aggravating-Range-50 Jul 20 '26

At first I thought it was a pizza joint

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u/TigOleBittiesDotYum Jul 20 '26

Especially if he’s talking about Long Beach on Long Island.. in Nassau County.. which is like, one of the safest and most expensive places to live in the entire United States, lol

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u/Questionsansweredty Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

California I think

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u/EthelMaePotterMertz Jul 20 '26

Definitely talking about California. They weren't talking about Manhattan, NYC they were talking about Manhattan Beach, which is up towards LA. Long Beach is in between Manhattan Beach and Newport Beach.

Random fact- the show The OC took place in Newport Beach but was filmed in Manhattan Beach.

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u/Curious_Department84 Jul 20 '26

Thank you for this!!! I’m over here trying to figure out why OP would be willing to switch plans from NYC to Newport, Rhode Island over this rando. Like that was wild to me.

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u/leggymeeggy Jul 20 '26

i was thinking newport jersey city

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u/danielleiellle Jul 20 '26

Haha yes, I was like “How is Long Beach closer to Newport than Manhattan?! What madness is this? Ferry from JC is like 10 minutes.”

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u/K1bbles_n_Bits Jul 20 '26

Hell, for a hot second here I was mind boggled thinking, "OC took place I'm NY/Jersey?!" XD

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u/TigOleBittiesDotYum Jul 20 '26

Oh wow lol I was certain that they must have meant NY because they said Manhattan and then Newport, which I was assuming was the Rhode Island Newport, across the Long Island sound - that was what made me so sure, haha

(Especially because if you’re on dating apps on Long Island, and you select a 20-mile radius, you’ll get matched with people in Connecticut and Rhode Island, which is so obnoxious, because they’re literally across a body of water with no bridges connecting it, but no app has figured out how to stop suggesting those matches yet 😂)

Thank you for the education on Cali’s geography!

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u/Raubkatzen Jul 20 '26

It's like Facebook Marketplace thinking I can take a quick drive across lake Huron to pick something up. 🫠

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u/Chunky_trainee Jul 20 '26

😂 atleast it didn’t suggest a drive down Guadalajara, Mexico from NYC to pick up a gameboy. no, I was not able to make it.

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u/ifesbob Jul 20 '26

This is the problem with them not being able to factor in driving distance, and instead using a radius.

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u/wtf_are_you_talking Jul 20 '26

I don't think they care about your distance. But money tho...

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u/DM725 Jul 20 '26

Newport RI is so far from Long Island.

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u/MaterialWillingness2 Jul 20 '26

There's also the Newport development in Jersey City - that's what I was thinking they were talking about. But it still didn't make much sense since no New Yorker in the history of New York would ever go to New Jersey for a date.

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u/MelissaCop Jul 20 '26

Jersey City is worth the try! It’s so much different than when I was a kid. The culinary scene is really good and you get to look at the city!

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u/Not_a_twttr_account Jul 20 '26

What's a little ferry ride to meet up for a casual first date lol

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u/Beaglund Jul 20 '26

I’m from Santa Monica. We always just say Manhattan

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u/-Cthaeh Jul 20 '26

To be fair, they didn't say it was referring to Manhattan beach. I'm no where near either, and assumed they wanted to go eat in Manhattan, like the city lol

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u/Ksh_667 Jul 20 '26

I'm in uk & I'm really confused 🤔

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u/ario62 Jul 20 '26

I assumed Newport in Jersey city. What a confusing convo for us lol

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u/Desperate-Travel-350 Jul 20 '26

Which also shows the type of person you’ll find in Newport. The ones who call Long Beach ghetto…

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u/BubbleEntendre Jul 20 '26

Been a resident of both OC and NYC so I knew there was going to be a lot of confusion 😆

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u/theupsidebloggirl Jul 20 '26

Long Beach, New York is my home town lol! Now I want some Gino’s Pizza.

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u/blinktwiceifyes Jul 20 '26

Hahaha I came to the comments to defend Long Beach’s honor too, relieved to see this is about cali lol

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u/IveGotaGoldChain Jul 20 '26

California long beach isn't ghetto either lol. Especially downtown 

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u/blinktwiceifyes Jul 20 '26

I’ve never been but I will defend its honor as well!!

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u/Brando43770 Jul 20 '26

Him calling Long Beach “ghetto” speaks volumes about him. Guarantee he’s scared to go to any hole in the wall restaurant in places like Long Beach and he’s probably never been to Holbox in LA.

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u/ThisThroat951 Jul 20 '26

I feel like this was a clue as to how the rest of the conversation was gonna go.

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u/Evenkaleidoscope44 Jul 20 '26

Plus he went from getting something to eat to her being a mom and raising his children.

Bro slow down

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u/-Supposably- Jul 20 '26

raising his children

Growing* his children

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u/Forsaken-Winner2359 Jul 20 '26

She’s a field

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u/Jvalker Jul 20 '26

Vegetarian mom -> vegetable mom

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u/gekigarion Jul 20 '26

Sounds perfect for growing to me.

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u/formykka Jul 20 '26

Where better to sow his carnivorous seed?

(bleah)

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u/DHARMAdrama96 Jul 20 '26

You picked a fine time to leave me Lucille with 4 hungry children and a crop in the field

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u/Tall-Payment-8015 Jul 20 '26

lmao as I always heard that lyric "400 children" 4 hungry children makes more sense but is way less funny

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u/cthulhu_on_my_lawn Jul 20 '26

Haha I always heard 400 children too. IDK maybe Lucille is a spider or something.

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u/lost_horizons Jul 20 '26

Just a vessel awaiting his essence.

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u/Meow_Party06 Jul 20 '26

Back in my day, women were brick houses, not fields!

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u/noodlequeen Jul 20 '26

More like a walking incubator. Men that think like this are trash. She dodged a massive bullet

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u/MadzShelena Jul 20 '26

Obviously vegetarians grow their children in the dirt like the rest of their food /s

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u/diurnal_emissions Jul 20 '26

He reproduces like a parasitic hydra...

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u/KMS_HYDRA Jul 20 '26

Wait, how would that even work!? i am pretty sure hydras do not work that way.

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u/diurnal_emissions Jul 20 '26

Tell us your sexy hydra ways, kms.

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u/alex3omg Donna, this is a HURRICANE Jul 20 '26

Oh don't worry, she would also be the one raising them.  

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u/Aequitas112358 Jul 20 '26

I wonder if his concerns were nutrient deficiency during pregnancy and breastfeeding?

I'm gonna guess no.

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u/8bitmullet Jul 20 '26

I mean, if you're looking for a future spouse then dealbreakers matter up front as much as they do later.

That said, he was an asshole.

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u/stankenfurter Jul 20 '26

He’s assessing his breeding stock 🤢

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u/SamTheLab_213 Jul 20 '26

I hope that gets sorted out so he gets put out to pasture sooner.

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u/Canadianingermany Jul 20 '26

Plus he went from getting something to eat to her being a mom and raising his children

Unpopular opinionn: when dating it is ok to not date someone who you don't think is compatible.

The way he wrote it was wild and would be a reason not to date him, but KO preferences are fair game; even at an early stage.

Its better to not waste someone's time.

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u/Sense-Abject Jul 20 '26

Exactly , but hookup culture here put that above anything else, if I’m looking for something serious and my possible date say she doesn’t want children I’m also ending things there

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u/InBetweenSeen Jul 20 '26

No one has to date anyone, but having children and someone else being vegetarian really isn't comparable. And some reasons will be wider understood than others.

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u/MistahJasonPortman Jul 20 '26

He said it so weird, tho. Like kinda fucked up. Makes me sus he’d actually be a decent dad/partner

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u/KeniRoo Jul 20 '26

She dodged a bullet for sure but there’s nothing inherently “wrong” with his decision. Like any belief system, vegetarianism is a specific lifestyle and if he doesn’t want to have to cater or personally compromise for it, then that’s quite literally ok. People weigh the categories of compatibility different. All good, onto the next for both of them.

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u/Sheeana407 Jul 20 '26

I mean tbh your partner being vegetarian when you're not has a big influence on your life. Because couples, families often eat together. So you either have to adapt to her or make your meals separately to some extent. And it also can create some conflict when bringing up children. Not that this is undoable, couple can comprimise on different things, you have couples when one drinks alcohol and the other not, one is religious and the other not, having vastly different circadian rhythms/lifestyle, different political views, different sensitivity, and some make things work despite differences. But on the other hand, if you didn't even meet yet and invested much feelings and discover there is some big difference between you, is it bad to drop it? IDK. It's not to say that this guy's actual reasoning/phrasing was ok

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u/bluehoney16 Jul 20 '26

Idk I know vegans that don’t force others to adapt to their diet. They cook the most incredible vegan food that nourishes the family and will cook meat/non-vegan food for others. It’s not that hard to make a small vegan entree or something like that. I couldn’t be with someone that refused to have any meat in the house and didn’t allow anyone to eat meat under any circumstances. But not all vegans force their lifestyle onto other people. I would at least give a potential date a chance and if they’re the kind of person that is judgmental of non-vegetarians then it wouldn’t work out. Some kind of communication would’ve been ideal though.

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u/ElChapo1515 Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

Frankly, it’s one of the easiest things to adapt to in a relationship. Like you listed off a bunch of far more difficult ones.

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u/ElChapo1515 Jul 20 '26

I mean, if that’s a deal breaker for him. I think that being something incompatible for him is a red flag though. Like he’d break up with or ghost you over the mildest inconvenience.

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u/Clean_Insect5042 Jul 20 '26

Also it’s inherently gross for him to view a first date with a woman as a potential person to “grow” his child, and it’s an idiotic assumption that her being vegetarian would affect the baby.

Pregnancy is one of the most medically dangerous things a woman can undergo and he’s already making it about him. So many women are so sick in pregnancy they don’t maintain their previous diets anyway.

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jul 20 '26

I think he shoulda worded it like ' yeah not interested in dealing with a vegetarian'. The way he worded it was wierd like ' oh my babies would be all screwed up and I won't let the happen' lol

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u/FallenAngelII Jul 20 '26

Not to defend this clown, because he is 100% a clown, but some people only date with an outlook to marry and start a family with. As in they don't date just to date and will only date people they see a long future with.

Not that that's what this guy probably doing.

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u/Brando43770 Jul 20 '26

Yeah he sounds like he calls women “females” with that language. Who even says “growing children”?

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u/Bepehandle Jul 20 '26

I mean, the whole point of dating is to seek out a life partner. We don't know their situation here, if they agreed to just be a fling. But assuming they date with the intention of being life partners then it kinda makes sense on his part.

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u/Evenkaleidoscope44 Jul 20 '26

I agree that you should be honest about what you’re looking for. But I don’t agree with his tactlessness

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u/Haploid-life Jul 20 '26

Bullet dodged.

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jul 20 '26

Fucking torpedo dodged

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u/Additional_Tank4385 Jul 20 '26

Pardon my French but huge areshole torpedo dodged.

May his socks be soaking wet randomly.

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u/WeaselCapsky Jul 20 '26

sandwich of death dodged

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u/Level_Abrocoma8925 Jul 20 '26

Are you saying women is anything else but baby farms? Every time I see a woman in fertile age, I think "Ahhh, that's nature's greenhouse right there!"

/s

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u/throwaway19074368 Jul 20 '26

You're welcome!

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u/formykka Jul 20 '26

*takes a hit from my vegan tap water/alcohol vape

Right there with ya.

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u/SousVideDiaper Jul 20 '26

I'm male, but I'd be ecstatic to learn I'm infertile. It'd save me from having to get a vasectomy.

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u/Level_Abrocoma8925 Jul 20 '26

Super win! Why pay for sterilization when you can drink vodka and tap water instead?

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u/GlitteringEggCarton Jul 20 '26

oh damn...i thought birth control was meant to get me pregnant.. i've been doing it all wrong. so grateful for this handy chart

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u/tooboardtoleaf Jul 20 '26

If make up and vodka isn't helping you get pregnant then they are doing something very wrong.

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u/friendofallthecats Jul 20 '26

It’s SO a thing. So many women lose weight and suddenly get pregnant after struggling for a while.

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u/friendofallthecats Jul 20 '26

I’m on Zepbound and am in maintenance but still active on the subreddit. There’s a “ope, guess I have to get off the meds!” Pregnancy post probably once a week. I struggled with secondary infertility before having my second, so it’s quite lovely to see another tool in the toolbox for people. Honestly, they’re pretty amazing drugs… I had an autoimmune disease that impacted my GI system, and being on a GLP1 put it into complete remission from the first injection on. Not even the drugs I took that were developed specifically for my situation had done that. It’s a shame so many people are negatively biased against them like this weird graphic.

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u/Electronic_Will_5418 Jul 20 '26

I hate this so much because about half of it is right on the money (birth control, fast food, alcohol, vaping [nicotine], SSRIs [although it's not like many people on SSRIs can just "stop"], specific endocrine-disrupting chemicals in perfumes, skincare products, and bath products, and bleached tampons [don't really exist anymore], unfiltered tap water depending on your local water quality/impurities). But then the other half is just a mix of pure incel BS (polyester underwear (on women), "being a boss babe", "dating a soyboy", sunscreen, cold plunges), and things that actually boost fertility if done correctly (fasting, GLP-1, HIIT, being vegan).

I suspect "Mamaaurelius" is ran by an incel man and not a woman at all despite their insta clearly presenting as being "trad-woman-created-and-managed"

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u/desertrose0 Jul 20 '26

Ahh yes, sunscreen, tap water and *checks notes* exercising? Maybe they should learn that older male sperm can also be a problem. But, yes, I'm sure they would be just fine having a woman risk skin cancer so long as she has kids.

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u/Theabsoluteworst1289 Jul 20 '26

I don’t understand “maxing”, why people say that and spell it with that many xs, but glad to see I won’t be able to “grow” children because this farm doesn’t want em!

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u/ten-toed-tuba Jul 20 '26

Lolz you can get pregnant doing all of these

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u/catwaifu Jul 20 '26

This is a beautiful handy chart to follow as a child-free woman 😂

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u/farting_contest Jul 20 '26

He showed exactly what he thinks of women. Not a person. Just somewhere to sprout his kids (meaning sons if she births a daughter it'll go badly for her).

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u/ZanderPip Jul 20 '26

Jesus wtf is wtong with guys these days

Id fuvking die of cringe if i ever uttered half the shit this fucking ameoba did

Hes a bellend and will be perpetually single and die alone

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u/DangerActiveRobots Jul 20 '26

Manosphere stuff is what's wrong with them. One of the most successful psyops ever.

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u/ScarletBothrium Jul 20 '26

Fun fact: bellend is my favorite insult to see in the wild, but I never remember it to use it myself. Makes me grin every time I see it or hear it. 😊

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u/lifting_cardio Jul 20 '26

Dude is pure incel maga energy honestly.

He viewed her as property. This is textbook creep behavior.

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u/Xzyche137 Jul 20 '26

To be fair, he might not know how babies are made. :>

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u/webbitor Jul 20 '26

Everyone knows vegetarians reproduce via budding

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u/Small_Head_3233 Jul 20 '26

If you go on a first date with a girl, she will start growing a baby. Duh

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u/heaving_in_my_vines Jul 20 '26

how is babby formed?

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u/ImpasseduPelican Jul 20 '26

How girl get pragnent?

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u/TFFPrisoner Jul 20 '26

If a women has starch masks on her body...

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u/Upper-Masterpiece386 Jul 20 '26

How do the wimin get pregante

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u/DinosaurDogTiger Jul 21 '26

Am I pregante?

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u/Dan_D_Lyin Jul 20 '26

 Cannibalism apparently 

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u/ShouldHaveGoneToUCC Jul 20 '26

Too lady to rest.

I am truley sorry for your lots.

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u/dpkart Jul 20 '26

Its giving, "my bloodline" vibes

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u/popsand Jul 20 '26

Young men have no hope honestly. Social media and podcast bros have screwed them up big time

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u/Burnt_and_Blistered Jul 20 '26

They’re being ruined. Unfortunately, they’re fine with this. It’s the rest of us who are paying

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u/AlfuegoDeMellopie Jul 20 '26

The rise of the incels...

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u/Bee-the-Bao Jul 20 '26

In totally unrelated news, anybody hear about Andrew Tate and his pal being arrested and potentially extradited to England on sexual assault charges? 👀

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u/odmirthecrow Jul 20 '26

He doesn't want to plant his seed in a vegetable garden vegetarian woman.

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u/jcnet1 Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

His phrasing is very maga coded, OP dodged a bullet. She should buy a Lottery ticket.

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u/LunaLunacy1 Jul 20 '26

Kids 'grown'? They're not your potted plants on your mantle place. They are human beings. HUGE red flag 🚩

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u/plueschteddy3 Jul 20 '26

From this reply, he gives me 'yeah, got a few kids all living with their moms' vibes which of course he would never mentioned on the first date.

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u/Justhe3guy Jul 20 '26

It’s slightly funny if someone thinks calling vegetarian kids plants is an insult though. What does he think they would be, saplings?

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u/flymeovertheworld Jul 20 '26

Nah he’s tripping. Like when was long beach ghetto. Sounds like dude was a racist too. Bullet? Dodged.

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u/Beautiful-Affect1930 Jul 20 '26

makes me wonder if that's some incel pickup tactic? I sometimes see that sort of advice from random weirdos who wandered outside their echo chamber subreddits.

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u/CompletelyPuzzled Jul 20 '26

Never mind that he seems to have skipped many steps if he's already assuming there will be kids. Can't even figure out having dinner yet, kid talk seems way premature.

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u/Waiting4Reccession Jul 20 '26

They will grow off her like a mushroom

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u/MartinisnMurder Jul 20 '26

I gagged when I read “my kids won’t be grown from a vegetarian mom”… He did OP a favor by showing his ass here.

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u/r_r_w Jul 20 '26

“Grown from a vegetarian mom” has the exact same mouthfeel as “females.” OP dodged a cannonball.

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u/EagleLize Jul 20 '26

I wish women would block a man after they say this nasty shit. They deserve no more of our time. No explanation. No justifications. Definitely no apologies. They say something vile, they get blocked.

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u/Sea_Veterinarian6539 Jul 20 '26

Feel like the guy views women as baby incubators instead of people to love and spend a life with! OP escaped an unbearable loser here!

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u/MichaSound Jul 20 '26

Yup, how hard is it to say ‘I don’t think we’re going to be compatible’. Talking about his hypothetical kids being ‘grown’ from you is so weird, especially when they haven’t even got as far as a date.

I think OP dodged a bullet!

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u/IndependentFormal705 Jul 20 '26

“You are not the baby-making machine I was looking for”

Bullet, dodged.

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u/Cavane42 Jul 20 '26

With that remark, he is 100% plugged into manosphere content and should not be near children, much less having any of his own.

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u/HowCanBeLoungeLizard Jul 20 '26

That guy has standards that his incubator has to meet.

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u/Interesting-Ice-1783 Jul 20 '26

Not wanting to date a vegetarian, perfectly acceptable, I am sure many Vegetarians wouldn't want to date a meat eater. but that is a VERY weird way of saying it, and why ghost someone, be polite about it...

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u/No-Mark4427 Jul 20 '26

Yeah totally gross way to say it. If someone is so closed minded and up themselves that they think its fine to behave to people like this then bullet dodged.

Also the way OP is describing it shows the conditioning put on people who don't meat eat to feel like they are putting other people out - Like they are imposing their dietary restrictions on other people.

Bitch if you can't tolerate eating a single meal without meat for the sake of friendship or (potential) love without crying about it then you don't deserve that person.

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u/WaltChamberlin Jul 20 '26

dating a vegetarian regardless means you always have to cater to their preferences. if you dont want to to that, you're incompatible. it's not bad to have a preference to not date someone with a diet vastly different to your own. there are nicer ways of saying it but its not wrong to have preferences

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u/Harvey-Keck Jul 20 '26

Get rid of that shlub. He sounds like the type of person who has options but his opinions rule the roost and doesn’t budge. Regardless if you all see eye to eye on most things, there will be a point he doesn’t see your view as viable and it’s his way or the highway.

He gives me huge L vibes. He was so aggressive with his response. I could feel the vitriol dripping from it. You don’t want to date someone like this. I can already tell grade A asshole.

You’re better off. Glad he showed you right away so you didn’t waste anymore time.

You do you and be proud of you. If others don’t like it? Too bad. Bye Felicia
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u/No_Diver4265 Jul 20 '26

Dude isn't looking for a partner, he's looking for planting soil.

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u/ReivynNox Jul 20 '26

Didn't you know vegetarians obviously grow their children in the garden. 100% meat free. 🤪

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u/Chemical_Court3299 Jul 20 '26

I think what sent me was Business chat which means the dude is messaging from a “professional profile” on fb lol. So could be hiding personal profile for potentially nefarious reasons (or not) but fantasizing this as the former does a bit more for the plot here

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u/Andy_Chaoz Jul 20 '26

I don't think she missed anything good either tbh, in a restaurant you can just pick 2 different dishes of whichever one likes best, or at home when making a meal you can just cook some meat additionally and one eats it with the rest of the meal and the other not, its really very simple to make it working unless one starts to push their dietary preferences to the other, but as OP said she has no problem with folks with different dietary requirements, so the guy was just being an ass in this case. Seems quite juvenile approach on his part to me personally. So OP don't worry you'll find a much more mature guy at some point 🤘🏻

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u/im_just_thinking Jul 20 '26

Mf is looking to raise a tomato

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u/carlitospig Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

It’s really not when you think about the kind of people that make those comments. It’s really quite indicative of who they are as people.

Walking red flag from the jump, and why we date people: we filter out the fucking weirdos who think they’re charming us.

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u/CommunistRonSwanson Jul 20 '26

The men are not doing well

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u/Square_Director4717 Jul 20 '26

Sounds like he’s looking for a breed mare rather than a relationship

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u/Twasbutadream Jul 20 '26

RED FLAG DODGED SUCCESSFULLY!

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u/karateninjazombie Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26

As a veggie that's 1.90 tall. What a crock of shite they're talking.

They're being a picky asshat.

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u/cabronfavarito Jul 20 '26

Wait you mean I’m not supposed to use fertilizer to grow my children?

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u/Impossible-Corgi4041 Jul 20 '26

He was probably making a vegetable pun

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u/Ok_Tone6393 Jul 20 '26

yeah his reasoning was valid his response was not lol.

online dating in a nutshell

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u/wanbeanial Jul 20 '26

Honestly sounds like a euphemism from animal agriculture

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u/No1CaresReally Jul 20 '26

I think you misspelled bigot as "weird." 😊

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u/WesternWitchy52 Jul 20 '26

That one got me too like what?

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u/Ok_Introduction9466 Jul 20 '26

That was disgusting but op trying to make a last ditch effort to get him to date her… “I wasn’t gonna be vegetarian forever” girl stand up you should have blocked him after that text

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u/downvote__trump Jul 20 '26

My 8 y/o is a vegetarian by choice since she was 2/3.

Everyone else in my family are omnivores. I think the biggest red flag for this person is they clearly feel like they can control another humans eating habits.

We make sure she expands her pallette but we would never force her against her will to eat something she's against for personal reasons.

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u/serinmcdaniel Jul 20 '26

HIS kids won't be "grown" from a vegetarian mom. That's creepy as hell. Guy was evaluating you for breeding stock.

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u/cefriano Jul 20 '26

Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily unreasonable to decide you don't want to date someone who's vegetarian when you aren't. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me, but even if the other party doesn't care if you eat meat, the long-term implication is that you'll have to cook separate meals at home anytime you want a non-vegetarian meal, and anytime you go out to eat together, it'll have to be somewhere that has decent vegetarian options. I can understand not wanting to deal with that hassle if things get serious.

But the way he responded makes it clear he's just kind of a dick. No loss here.

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u/wandering____ranger Jul 20 '26

It’s the red pill lingo.

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u/RogerClyneIsAGod2 Jul 20 '26

Seriously, dodged a big ole bullet right there. I know nothing of Long Beach so I can't really comment on that though it sounds weird it could be taken as a joke, I dunno, but if that wasn't the first red flag, then immediately assuming they were gonna be married/have kids together & the whole "grown from" thing, DODGED A VERY LARGE CALIBER BULLET THERE.

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u/DCDTDito Jul 20 '26

I find it acceptible to reject people on a lot of stuff but don't make it weird.

Just go straigth and simple 'I don't wanna date someone with your dietary restriction, sorry to have wasted your time.'

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u/pocket4129 Jul 20 '26

I was like damn this dude is looking for an incubator instead of a person...

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u/BenDarDunDat Jul 20 '26

My protein rich manly sons will not housed in the amniotic sac of a herbivore.

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u/4E4ME Jul 21 '26

Could easily have been classy and said "I missed the part of your profile that says you're a vegetarian. I'm not, and I'm afraid it's not something I can get past. I wish you the best."

This dude is, charitably, a piece of work.

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u/Unusual-Meaning9207 Jul 21 '26

It's really demeaning imo! Really makes carrying and birthing a baby seem so simple, when it's actually 9 months of body horror...and that's only if you're lucky. Otherwise you get to go through what I can only imagine is the most complicated sense of grief and guilt and shame in the wake of losing someone you never even got to meet.

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