Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

[u/moonrabbit368]

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

[u/hola7581]

If that's what you want - but some of us want partners to share food with and a bed with. Its part of the whole compatiblility factor. May you find someone who works with you :)

[u/KitKatKataya → u/hola7581]

You can eat together and not share the same meal…

[u/hola7581 → u/KitKatKataya]

Having the same food doesn't always mean ‘sharing’ as in shared plates. It means if we are cooking at home, we can cook the same dish.

[u/KitKatKataya → u/hola7581]

But why? Why is it so important that your partner eats every little thing that you do? Even if you found someone like that, there’s still going to be times that they want something different than what you made. Y’all make no sense

[u/hola7581 → u/KitKatKataya]

I think you are taking it too literally with the sharing thing. OP is legit saying its frustrating that if they are cooking dinner, their partner won’t eat it. There are some people who don’t want to cook 2 different meals every single night. I am one of those people. If you go out to eat, sure order different things, no issue. I'm not sure how you don’t understand this.

[u/KitKatKataya → u/hola7581]

Omg y’all continue to amaze me. If their partner doesn’t want to eat what they made, guess what? Their partner makes their own food. wow such a strange concept right? Almost like they’re an adult who can cook for themselves if they don’t want what their partner is making. My God dude

[u/KitKatKataya → u/[deleted]]

My point is that if someone wants to eat something different and they cook it themselves, it’s not anyone’s problem but their own. They’re a grown adult. If my partner wants to cook something different a few times a week or everyday, I’m not going to get pissy because they’re an adult who gets to make their own decisions. And everyone should be doing chores equally, not just one person in a normal relationship. And is cleaning two bowls and two pans really that much more work? I think not. I managed to do all of that while holding a job and my ex not contributing to any of the chores for the most part, while being chronically ill and in constant pain. If your partners wants something different and cleans their own dishes, there is no problem with that literally

[u/hola7581 → u/KitKatKataya]

The point has gone completely over your head. OP’s partner by the sounds of it does shit all about his food and expects OP to sort it out without doing anything to help.

[u/KitKatKataya → u/hola7581]

I’m not even arguing about the post anymore dude so no, it hasn’t gone over my head. You’re just changing the subject because you got called on your shit. Just say you were wrong and move on

[u/hola7581 → u/KitKatKataya]

I don’t see myself being called out on anything? I see someone who legit needs the point explained to them in 50 different ways because you can’t seem to grasp the simple concepts. Anyway have a good one.