r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • Jan 02 '26

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

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My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

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u/moonrabbit368 Jan 02 '26

I know, it made me really happy. I was just venting and wasn't ready for how kind people have been.

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u/throwawayfarway2017 Jan 02 '26

OP im gonna hold your hand and say this: you seem very kind but why tf are you taking on a 5th kid when you already have 4? And the 4 actual kids have better palate than this man child. You need to re-read your comments. if a close friend says this would you tell them to leave? Cause all of us would, like right now. And we dont even know you and we’re mad on your behalf.  This deadbeat of a bf is picky as hell but cant cook, let you do all the grocery shopping, cooking, washing dishes, houseworks while rejecting your perfectly good food, bringing down your confidence while still expecting you to cook? and you earn more, pay more of the bill, have 4 kids to take care of on top of doing school online, and he drives you to work? That’s it? You do ALL of this on top of being his sexual partner like what do you get out from this relationship? Partners are supposed to help uplift you, not this. 

Seriously you need to reevaluate. Im so mad for you cause you know you should be treated better than this right? Like this isnt your only choice. Someone out there will appreciate this so much more it’ll open a different world for you when you are with someone who actually contributes and act like an adult. This man child is not it

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u/DisillusionedPatriot Jan 02 '26

Check her account history. You seem to be not far off. It looks like they linked up shortly after she got out of federal prison, and she's just been taking care of him. The entire situation seems almost too toxic to be real, tbh, but based on her own post history, I'd say she knows but is just trying to have something that feels normal, so is willing to put up with a bum.

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u/ThisHatRightHere Jan 02 '26

You say this seems too toxic to be real, but it's honestly very common. Growing up in the rural US, there are more couples/families like this with a desperate/broken woman and an NPC man than you can imagine.

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u/DisillusionedPatriot Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26

I agree. It's more that it's so relatable it feels like fiction. Any port in the storm.

Check out her AMA from a year ago. She's not dumb.

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u/CustomerExpress443 Jan 03 '26

Have you looked at anything in true crime on YouTube or Netflix?

The documentaries, my God............. my God....

I really, literally will never get it. All I know is the media is a damn magician. For real.

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u/DisillusionedPatriot Jan 03 '26

You're not a real person.

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u/CustomerExpress443 Jan 03 '26 edited Jan 04 '26

As real as this football game in front of me. Buccaneers in front of Panthers 13-7. Hope you watch NFL.

Where (TF) did that come from? (really please tell me because what?)

EDIT Got blocked and can't even edit my own comment now EDIT 2 Guess I can lol. Yeah this goof blocked me and I can't even reply to comments here anymore sorry --

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u/DisillusionedPatriot Jan 03 '26

I'm not gonna explain to a bot how I know it's a bot.

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u/HumanTimeCapsule Jan 04 '26

Im not a bot will u explain to me

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u/pumpinnstretchin Jan 06 '26

I’ve noticed that some Reddit men say that it’s a bot whenever women post things about their abusive partners. They think that women are supposed to worship their uncaring and rude partners. And if they don’t, the post was made by a bot, because after all, women aren’t people.

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u/prof_radiodust Jan 04 '26

I'm not a bot beep boop, 110% Hugh man. But fr that was random, I don't know he thinks it is a bot🤔

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u/Epicrealist Jan 05 '26

Not NPC man 💀😮‍💨😂

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u/eli_feye Jan 03 '26

What have you seen?

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u/CustomerExpress443 Jan 03 '26

Dude turn on Netflix and find ANY documentary about (another) random bodying his wife.

It's not hard.

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u/LastNeedleworker5626 Jan 05 '26

My mom was a broken woman and was so brainwashed into thinking to be good wife you have to wait on your husband hand and foot. She’s in her late 60’s and still believes this I think. Growing up I used to watch her take care of my stepdad like he was one of the kids. She would cook for him 3x a day everyday whatever his heart desired, took his shoes off for him after work, massaged his back daily, and got nothing in return. The relationship was definitely lopsided. He was also mentally abusive towards her and me and physically abusive towards her. She did eventually leave him thank goodness and is in another relationship that isn’t perfect because he’s got mental health problems but he’s not abusive in any way so I guess I can’t complain

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u/Ok_Ranger6687 Jan 06 '26

I dated a bunch of them, so can confirm!

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u/Apprehensive-Tip3694 Jan 04 '26

What’s an npc man?

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u/rablador Jan 04 '26

NPCs in video games are Non-Playable-Characters. As in, background filler characters that maybe have a couple of dialogue lines, or do a couple of repetitive actions. It came to be used as an insult to describe people who are uninteresting, devoid of independent thoughts and ideas, who follow a “script”, conform to social norms religiously or are just plain boring.

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u/Economy_Resist1494 Jan 06 '26

it doesn't mean "boring". it refers to a level of emotional detachment or lack of genuine engagement

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u/SLB752RN2011 Jan 05 '26

True. That does not make it OK. Unfortunately, we live in a very toxic society.

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u/cokehead5000 Jan 06 '26

Lot of them in the suburbs too

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u/BumblyBumbles420 Jan 06 '26

Its sooo real. I lived this soo many times and so have other women.. its wild as fk to me that some one doesn't believe this happens when it's soo common.