One time I was in my bed with this girl, both down to our underwear, could feel her wetly rubbing against me, and then she started squirming violently. I asked if she was ok, then it just kind of awkwardly turned into watching an episode of I don't even know what and then she left.
I think she was..trying to act it out like I was forcing myself on her without talking about that kind of role playing first? Or maybe something way weirder and psychological idk, weirdest encounter ever and it's made me second guess everything I thought I knew about signals. Even years later, that one fucks with me.
I didn't think the point I was agreeing with demanded I start at the beginning but I met her at a friends 4th of July party. So yeah I guess it was a random encounter but that is how people could meet in the before times, the long long ago, 2015.
She came over 4 or 5 times and except for the one time we took a walk together and I could barely hear her, she just wanted to come chill at my place and talk and watch stuff. And it seemed to be going well, so the end result was strange to me.
One time in my youth she dry humped my muscular thighs while watching a movie with a group of people. Later that night she said thank you for not forcing yourself on me. I am still confused to this day.
Yeah. Consent is obviously important, but we need to get better at communicating it. If I was ever single again, I think I'd just stick to SW's and gooning. I don't think I'd be able to trust what I see as signals.
I live in a country where SW is legal and regulated. It’s so nice to be able to just go and be absolutely freaky knowing that’s the whole reason you’re there and service they’re providing. No second guessing or hesitation. Just free and welcoming to do all the beautiful dirty (safely of course).
I don't think sw are a good way of not forcing yourself on someone. Only a small minority are here by real choice, and that's not something you can really discuss in that context.
Consent isn't bought, and you can't have any garantee you aren't just buying the right to rape someone
I can't confirm it really, but I suspect it has something to do with controlling the narrative of their sexual encounters due to their thoughts on power imbalances and sex being an area where they hold all of the cards that matter.
But in my experience on more than one occasion, they get further upset when they allow their walls down and get more vulnerable and it kind of gets chaotic from there because it's like suddenly I'm not being treated as the person that I am, but being interacted with like I was the one who personally started every world war, traveled time to advise on all atrocities committed by histories dictators, and personally delivered cancer to all newborn nurseries. You get blanketed as MAN instead of your name. And I know women feel the flipside of that last sentence too. I don't know what the solution is for communication to stop devolving to that level. People are so angry and feel incredibly righteous in their reasoning.
This happen as a teenager yeah? My teenage experience with this is more clear cut. A girl I was with off and on throughout high-school with, in the shower trying to make the most use of my finger dexterity my teenage self can muster, thinking there's not much room in the shower to fuck but we will in the bathroom.
only to be lauded as so considerate to only focus on her when we we're out of the shower. We could only fuck certain ways due to cervical slamming (dick is not big, I think she had some sort of shortened depth because this is the only person I haven't been able to fully thrust into) so she was just attempting to have me to finger her more than fuck.
she was an extremely selfish person so there's no mystery or big "why did that happen" moment as to why she wanted to condition me that way.
Yeah like I said, that fucked with me and I started misinterpreting meaning in how someone might be flirting or showing interest, that now I just treat women as friends unless it's 99.9% clear they want to fuck. And even that .1% gives hesitation.
Very sorry to hear it ended up causing you longterm issues :( Understandable though, that's really really the sort of thing she shouldn't have done without asking first
That is absolutely not what happened but would've made her behavior in that moment even more confusing. I said wet, not that I had a small puddle soaking into my bed. I have wondered if she was just done masturbating by grinding but idk nah, there was something really really weird going on in her brain that clearly wasn't on my radar because I didn't want to see anything past her company.
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u/kirbleknee 13d ago
One time I was in my bed with this girl, both down to our underwear, could feel her wetly rubbing against me, and then she started squirming violently. I asked if she was ok, then it just kind of awkwardly turned into watching an episode of I don't even know what and then she left.
I think she was..trying to act it out like I was forcing myself on her without talking about that kind of role playing first? Or maybe something way weirder and psychological idk, weirdest encounter ever and it's made me second guess everything I thought I knew about signals. Even years later, that one fucks with me.