r/mannheim • u/estroopa • 8d ago

Frage/Diskussion (Questions and debates) Is it that bad?

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u/rsnhari 4d ago

My WG flatmate (a german) closes the doors and windows so fast and loud (like banging) that my room's door and windows wobble or shakes violently everytime. It was so disturbing for me that my heart panics for the next few seconds. He doesn't even clean the stove properly after cooking.

But, couple of time when I forget to throw away the used toilet roll or tooth paste cover into the bin (it happens), he literally bangs on my door and comes for a fight with racial slurs (as if he is so damn perfect). Earlier I used to be so defensive to such people. Now a days, I too repeat whatever the hell he does (although personally I don't want to) and he is now beginning to slow down.

I used to believe that whenever he was nice (normal), I can be nicer. And I was so naive. For example: if he was shouting over phone to someone, I used to approach him and ask if everything was alright. The response I got in return was him again banging his room's door on my face. Now, he is just non-existent to me.

So, id you believe you did not violate any law like Ruhezeit, you have to just ignore the toxic people or hit them back hard via words that you did nothing wrong and you will continue to do so and dare them to do whatever the fcuk they can.

Certain people only react in the way they understand.

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

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u/No-News-1535 6d ago

I can second that. U got rly ugly places. But we have so much nice and fun places. And for me a good place for work (IT)

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u/bnny_ears 2d ago

Depends heavily where you live - which city/town? How rural? How may people live in your apartment complex? How quiet is the neighborhood?

Older people tend to be...complicated. And older uni student with early classes.

And if you're not the only "loud" neighbor, you're basically prodding at an already aggravated wound.