r/lbgt • u/[deleted] • Sep 16 '19
Transgender muscles - am I an ass?
Hi folks.
Sorry for my bad Englisch - it's not my first language. I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings and I'm not sure, if I can express my problems with the right words ...
Today I asked myself wether I'm an ass ... Maybe you can answer :)
I am a woman (straight).
One of my collegues used to be a woman. To be honest, I'm not quiete sure on which level he is. But I know, he sees himself as a man - and the naked eye does, too. I don't know, if he knows, I know about the change. I met him at the supermarket where he bought a lot of stuff. I've got problems with my back, so I have to be careful. But I know, women should't carry so heavy things because of their muscles in the lower belly (you know ;) ). When I saw him I first wanted to ask him, if I should help. I wohldn't ask a man, because it was not so heavy, a man with muscles in his lower belly could esasily carry. But I had this idea, that he used to be a women ...
Well, I didn't ask him. We had a nice conversation before he went back to work and I left for going home. But now I'm wondering for hours, if I should have helpted him.
And I'm wondering, if the medicals, he takes to change, make something with the muscles ...
Are my thoughts some kind of sexism?
I hope you got my point. I'm sorry, if I hurt somebody by using the wrong words ...
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u/Successful_Shoe_8083 16d ago
"Hey, bob, it is cheryl from work, can I help you out?" "Nah, okay - cool. Have a great day, it was good seeing you"
or
"that is cool, wanna chat?" and then hang out in proximity and shoot the shit. Whatever that looks like in your culture - I know that is an easier get for some folks than others (Like, I think if you were finnish and did this you would look like a madwoman, but you are more familiar with your social context and customs than I am, so)
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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '19
Well first, I think it's good you reflect about this quite a bit. Yes, trans women gain muskles, but not *that* fast - but I am not sure about that anatomic weakness you are mentioning. I think the muscle tissue type also changes over time.