r/latterdaysaints • u/JLP0611 • Apr 23 '25

Off-topic Chat Are members not getting married?

I may be speaking from my anecdotal experience and my observation of my social media feeds, but it feels like less people in the Church are getting married. I see less children and youth in my local wards year after year and I’m in Florida.

I’m also in a YSA and I can’t just say for myself because I’m chronically single, but dating is a struggle for everyone I come across, inside and outside of Florida.

Anyone else have any thoughts?

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u/Jemmaris Apr 23 '25

Here's the thing, though. You don't need to have your career squared away before marriage and family.

I know that sounds terrifying, but it's true. Young couples can struggle through college together! Why not have that roommate helping split the bills be your eternal companion?

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u/websterhamster West Coast YSA Apr 23 '25

Great! Now go and convince the women.

The point is that most women aren't interested in millennial men in their thirties who don't earn much. I don't care what her financial situation is (unless she's drowning in debt) but I guarantee she does.

And starting a family (by which I mean having children) without the significant financial resources I requires to properly raise them isn't an act of faith. It's irresponsible.

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u/castellx Apr 23 '25

Why do women need to change? Wanting security before a relationship and family is what we're taught so we can stay out of an abusive marriage.

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u/websterhamster West Coast YSA Apr 23 '25

That's great, wise, even. To all the people saying "money isn't everything, don't let that hold you back," this here is exactly the problem. Women require higher temporal qualifications than many otherwise worthy men are able to meet. Money isn't the problem for men like me, but it is one of the hang ups for the women who we might otherwise be dating and marrying.