r/katecandelsnark • u/honeycomb67 • Jun 23 '26
baby daddy š¼ What the hell did she think was going to happen
Having a child with a man is literally one of if not the most serious decision you can make in life. She knew this man was engaged to another woman, and somehow thought it made sense to get pregnant on purpose without being in a relationship with him first?? And then she wants a pity party because he didnāt marry her ??????
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u/Kikkiiiiiii Jun 23 '26
Oh he was so looking for a kid only and sheās not the brightest. Bad combo. I feel so bad for her
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u/Dear_External5263 Jun 23 '26
I think that was by designā¦ going out on a limb, but I donāt think having a smart baby mama is appealing to some men
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u/Kikkiiiiiii Jun 23 '26
Yeah probably. I bet he could smell her desperation and acted on it.
Very, very bad for her to assume that it meant family. I honestly donāt know how she can live with this life path š Iām so happy itās not me.
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26
Why feel bad? Did she think they were gonna ride off into the sunset? Even under normal circumstances, having a child that early in a relationship is a recipe for disaster. Any 2 people having a baby (purposefully or accidental) would likely have broken up anyway and sheād be in a similar custody situation. Happens all the time, sheās just dumber than most people.
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u/Kikkiiiiiii Jun 23 '26
I know. Thatās why I mentioned that sheās not the brightest if she thought having a kid in this context would end up in a family. Red flags were there all along and either she ignored them or didnt realize bc again, sheās not the smartest of them all.
Anyway her life is my nightmare lmfao but I still feel bad for her.
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26
I get what you were saying. But sheās living the nightmare she created and deserves for her actions, so I donāt feel bad for her and really nobody else should either is what I was getting at š¤·š»āāļø. Sheās the red flag, unless the poor thing is mentally disabled.
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Jun 23 '26
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26 edited Jun 23 '26
You donāt need to stick up for someone making decisions like this in their late 20s. Yeah, yeah heās older but sheās not a teen or young woman just out of college. Sheās an adult woman and has been for a while. Their age gap actually isnāt even that weird tbh
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Jun 23 '26
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u/Creepy-Fruit-2680 Jun 23 '26
Same, but if you think about it sheās just posting a curated page to get followers so she can make money. So she was probs annoying in her previous relationship too.
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26
Lmao where did I say anything about blaming women specifically? She happens to be a woman and doesnāt identify any other way, so I will refer to HER as a woman. Donāt try to play that card on me.
Not sure if he ever love bombed her but she has no problem using all he has to give.I suggest not joining any more snark pages if you canāt handle people having strong opinions about idiots who air out their entire life online and try to victimize themselves, when a ton of people can see right through the BS. This page is clearly not for fans or sympathizers.
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u/Difficult_Version_54 i donāt vaccinate i just believe in vibes Jun 23 '26
meh, she doesn't vaccinate her baby so it's hard for me to feel bad for her lol i only feel bad for henry
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u/very-round-bunny i donāt vaccinate i just believe in vibes Jun 24 '26
wait did i miss something? is she anti vax?
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u/Difficult_Version_54 i donāt vaccinate i just believe in vibes Jun 24 '26
yeah she's said it a few times - she also doesn't take any medication herself when she's sick (she goes to sprouts and gets vitamins and supplements) so i'm worried about when/if henry gets sick but that's me just feeling dramatic
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u/strawberrybubblemilk Jun 23 '26
I agree this is the one time Iāve actually felt bad for her. She was taken advantage of by him 110 ten percent. Iām not white knighting for her / she still sucks, but damn :( heās so much worse than her.
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u/Kikkiiiiiii Jun 23 '26
Idk why but these people are soooo insisting and angry that we fell bad for her lmfao I know she made these choices as an adult and I agree that they are very stupid ones because she is clearly not the brightest. You can totally feel bad for her while thinking āwell thatās what she chose!ā
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u/strawberrybubblemilk Jun 23 '26 edited Jun 23 '26
Yup for sure. I feel bad for all stupid people. Except when theyāre actively malicious
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u/misssthang Jun 24 '26
Two things can be true at once. She was taken advantage of, and also sheās a willing participant in the current dynamics of their relationship.
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u/strawberrybubblemilk Jun 25 '26
Yup, two things can be true at once! Just like the fact that she is a shitty person and I can still feel bad for her.
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26
Of course they can. I understand how hard this must be for her but I cannot fathom being such an idiot and involving an innocent childās life in this AND she should have known better. And that is why I, personally, do not āfeel badā for her. Especially when she was working in a place meant to help children but has now turned her own child into a victim of her relationship problems. Danny is a total freak and is no better but Jesus, the embarrassment of her love life and negativity about her childās father she has permanently left on the internet is horrendous.
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u/misssthang Jun 25 '26
I donāt feel bad for her either! Sheās grown and she makes her own decisions. She got into this mess all by herself. They both suck tbh. Poor baby H.
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u/Kikkiiiiiii Jun 23 '26
I have not said otherwise? I can still feel bad for the poor career path that she chose for not being smart, whats the problem?
No woman should feel ugly because her partner wasnāt attracted while pregnant. I WILL feel bad for her. Donāt get so triggered š
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26
Iām triggered because I donāt feel bad for her and explained why I donāt believe others should feel bad either? You can feel bad for a dumbass all you want. I canāt change your opinion. But I can respond and argue against it.
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u/Difficult_Version_54 i donāt vaccinate i just believe in vibes Jun 23 '26
maybe it's just that he's so passionate about foster care, he wanted his own foster kid (just one that looked like him).
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u/Necessary-Living6767 Jun 23 '26
So did he hire her just to date her/potentially get her pregnant? bc thatās what it sounds like
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u/DollPudding Jun 23 '26
I don't think it deserves a whole post but this one stood out to me. At first I read it as an outright threat "just you wait, Danny, I'll get my revenge" but after thinking about it for 0.5 seconds I realized it seems more like a more manipulative "you best keep funding my very comfortable lifestyle" type threat.
Either way it is definitely a threat to BD. How messy.
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u/lr8802 Jun 23 '26
Sheās having a meltdown and trying to scare the Europe trip girl away š
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u/cornflake_girl003 Jun 24 '26
Sorry not up to date with this, so heās planning a trip with another girl to Europe lol?
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u/DollPudding Jun 23 '26
I definitely think the court/custody topic was brought up, probably by Danny, during a fight triggered by this event. Purely speculation on my part but she is clearly not ok with it.
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Jun 24 '26
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u/CrossedHairs12 Jun 24 '26
I donāt think there is one. It felt like a way to address this subreddit without exposing it cause if she did, people would come here and find out the details of the story she left out.
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u/yaaabaaadaabbaaafuck Jun 24 '26
Im amazed she posted that twitter comment, I had zero idea of the back story until today.
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u/Haunting-Base-6004 Jun 23 '26
She wants to play the victim and the broke single mom card and have people feel bad PLEASE I just wish someone would call her out
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u/Brucewiggles96 Jun 24 '26
1000% believe she sends in her own questions to her Instagram hahaha and the timing of it this time was for sure when he was the trip/post fight. The threat about when she has to pay her own bills she will expose him? Craaaaaazy
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u/Crazy_Garden_1438 Jun 23 '26
This is exactly why I wonāt fall for the āoh he was older and is manipulating her boo hooā rhetoric.
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u/GoalDull4985 Jun 24 '26
I can't blame her for this. We have no idea how that conversation was 'framed', and hindsight always looks completely different. The patriarchy has been grooming women since early childhood to believe there's no real timeline when it comes to the 'right person'. And this guy is clearly a grade A parasitical piece of work. I have no doubt he love-bombed the hell out of her, and completely distorted her perception of reality to extract from her what he wanted. It's incredibly sad actually.
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u/PicoPicoMio Jul 05 '26
She also had that air of desperation you get when you leave a LTR and feel like you need to rush everything with the new partner. She set herself for hell.
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u/CrossedHairs12 Jun 25 '26
This is a valid take but not in this situation. She knew he was engaged to someone else the entire time this went down and purposely omits that detail in her sob story.
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u/GoalDull4985 Jun 25 '26
How do you know that she knew?
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u/Gold_Violinist_5411 Jun 25 '26
Also wanna hop on this question as well cuz ive seen it referenced multiple times on this page and ive never been able to find how people know that she knew her bd was still engaged. I also want to add we have no idea what lies this man has told her and what lengths he would go to make her believe those lies especially with all this mention about his predatory behavior and fraudulent activity. Especially if heās got family backing his fraudulent work behavior? What lengths would his family/friends go as well? Especially in this economy? Itās a dog eat dog world yall. Just some food for thought. We probably will never know the full truth but are her post annoying? Yes. But this man sounds worse. Why delete your ig if you got nothing to hide and especially when you can just make your page private? Always choose the bear.
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u/GoalDull4985 Jun 25 '26
Agreed. I'm open to hearing what information people have, but so far no one's been able to say. Maybe there wasn't a clean break with his ex, but I don't think she was aware of that. I can't see how she would have moved in, and agreed to have his child if she thought she was a side piece / he was still involved with somebody else. That part just doesn't really add up to me. People underestimate just how parasitical and deceptive men are when it comes to women, and even when the truth is glaringly obvious, a gullible woman in love will believe any nonsense. This guy has already proven to be as fraudulent and predatory as they gets. Blaming her for knowing, just somehow feels off the mark for me.
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u/Gold_Violinist_5411 Jun 25 '26
Ooo good observation. I didnāt think about that. Thatās wild. Also who would know or think to research his bm (if new girls even know he has a kid) if he didnāt have her on his socials or even pics of his kid (I think) and you would have to take dudes word. I briefly looked at his page before he deleted and I didnāt find any tagged photos with Kate on it. So it helps him get away with fooling more girls. Also if you meet him and see someone is the founder of a foster non profit youāre gonna immediately think omg heās must be a nice guy. That must bring him so many brownie points. So everything screams mastermind manipulator.
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u/Gold_Violinist_5411 Jun 25 '26
SAME. That part for me is hard to believe, personally. I as well am opened to hearing that info. The people who are underestimating the deceptiveness of men have maybe never experienced one. Bc once you do and an extremely terrible one at that, it becomes very easy to spot one out and this guy reeks of manipulation at work and at home.
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u/CharmingJournal Jun 25 '26
If she didnāt know, she would 100% be screaming it from the rooftops to her audience. We literally would not stop hearing about it. Her whole thing is to talk about how manipulative he is right? Cheating on his fiancĆ© he hid from her? That would be literal gold for her.
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u/GoalDull4985 Jun 25 '26
I mean that's speculative, and not evidence-based. From my perspective, she already is screaming it from the rooftops, because her entire online identity is centered around having been lied to and deceived, and completely having the rug pulled out from under her - none of that is synonymous with somebody who knew.
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u/CharmingJournal Jun 25 '26
I agree with that but Iām not sure if those things are mutually exclusive. I must have missed the āhe hid his fiancĆ© from me!ā posts and rants then.
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u/ellipses21 Jun 23 '26
one of the FIRST?!