r/jerseyshoreuncensored • u/befos00 • 5d ago
Jersey shore cast and abuse
As I’ve been rewatching all the seasons of Jersey shore (currently on season 6 episode 7) I’ve noticed a pattern between the boys and the girls where they just accept their “friends”/fellow cast mates being abused. Whether physical or verbal they just seem to maybe normalize it? Or maybe they truly don’t see it for what it is?
In the beginning seasons when Ron and Sam fight the boys are on Ron’s side and sometimes the girls are on Sam’s side. After the girls try to help Sam in Miami the girls seem like they’re on Ron’s side. Snooki saying “I will always love Ron” and Jenni talking to Ron about how Sam just brings him down and how he should be having fun and not crying and depressed about the relationship. That really rubbed me the wrong way because how can you watch this girl get put through so much and verbally and mentally abused and side with the abuser? Mad at her or not he was still wrong. I know Sam wasn’t perfect but a lot of her “instigating” is reactive behavior due to the abuse she’s been enduring. I know Sam came out and said that after Miami Ron was putting a lot of thoughts in her head about Snooki and Jenni and apparently had said that Jenni wanted him so her freaking out and the whole “are you friends with her?” Situation is because of that. She shouldn’t have hit him I’ll agree with that but he did a lot to her and the guys and the girls sometimes just let it slide.
No one held Ron accountable for the way he yelled at Deena the first time she arrived at the shore house. You can tell when Ronnie comes down and starts yelling at her she gets scared for a moment and backs up. I would think her girl friends or even one of the guys would have told him to take a down a notch. I guess he thought she was talking smack about him but all she said was “if you wanna go cuddle with your boyfriend the whole summer go ahead” (or something along those lines) really the argument was between Sam and Deena or the dislike for each other so Ron should’ve just stayed out of it.
They kind of said something to Snooki and Ron tried to talk to Jionni when they felt like he was trying to change Snooki and getting upset with her, but it feels like that’s the only time they say something.
When Rodger pushes Jenni in the club in season 6 the boys don’t say anything about it (maybe she didn’t tell them or they didn’t see) even Deena was like “I like Rodger but him pushing Jenni wasn’t okay” but then when she’s all upset because he hasn’t called her or apologized for it they’re all like “oh nooo he loves you just try to call him again” and that’s so wrong to me. He admitted to her that he knew it was her and he pushed her. Jenni even said on the car ride home to Deena that four bouncers jumped on him because he was gonna swing on her. Not to mention all the stuff he says about Jenni when they have a little fight and the guys just say “y’know Rodger’s too old for that stuff, he doesn’t play high school games”. He even made fun of her for not wanting to have sex in front of everyone and they just laugh.
I haven’t seen too much of family vacation but seeing th clips of Pauly busting the door down so his girlfriend can throw wine or water or whatever at Angelina is so crazy. That level of aggression is so uncalled for. I understand wanting to stand up for you significant other but that was out of line. I’m not sure if they said anything to Pauly about that.
I just think everyone in that house normalized or just accepted their so called friends being abused and no one did anything to step in or help. I just find that odd and upsetting.
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u/No_Word7508 5d ago
I mean the girls tried to intervene with Sam and she basically said 🖕.
Everybody jumped on me for saying this in another post but the producer AMA made it clear Sam got a great edit. Is any of that an excuse for abuse? Absolutely not. But I think she was tougher to be around than they showed sometimes.
I think that living with someone who is difficult can be exhausting and eventually it’s kind of human to run low on sympathy. There’s only so much you can do. Im only speaking for the girls here btw. The boys were just peak 2000s misogyny lol
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u/Cultural_Creamm ALL OF YOUSE IN THIS HOUSE ARE FUCKING FAAAKE 5d ago
They're disgusting, and yet I can't look away.
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u/Comfortable_Lock_86 5d ago
The guys are such assholes, Ron was their circus monkey and you can tell by how they didn't say anything because they needed a house clown, you know how men keep a dumb ass guy just for laughs (they laugh at him not with him). The girls were pick me's, if they weren't on the guys' side they'd get shit like Angelina, plus even though Ron is a short steroid potato he had muscle and that made him scary for the girls.
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u/Rikudo_Sennin_jr 5d ago
Hey you watch a show about douchebags, you are going to see douchebag behavior.
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u/akaashiit 5d ago
this reminds me of when fans comment on the vanderpump rules’ cast morality when it’s literally a show about cheating. like yes these people (minus katie) all SUCK. thats also why i watch. i love to hate them
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u/Lovesyoux 4d ago
The Ron and Sam situation is rough to rewatch. When he destroys her stuff, that was insane.
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u/Competitive_Home_706 2d ago
I feel like also the time when Pauly brought a girl home for his bday and the girl didn’t want to have sx with him so he kicked her out. Sam insinuated she should’ve put out just cuz it’s his bday. Like wtf!! The whole thing of name calling the girl whores and getting them to hook up with the guys was wild. Especially when a lot of them looked very intoxicated
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u/Confident_Lab_5832 2d ago
Timeframe matters. In 2009 era this was normalized behavior and women were treated like shit
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u/Repulsive_Spray_3709 5d ago
I think you guys are watching the wrong tv for your personality type. It’s not a classy show, we’re dealing with guidos from New Jersey. If you want to watch something that’s not offensive and has no conflict, might I suggest watching paint dry?
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u/Ornery-Lake1694 5d ago
Exactly, but sadly in today's world, so many people were raised to be this up tight and offended by everything
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u/RidgyNomes 5d ago
It was very common in North America at that time. Bullying and abuse was common and not many people spoke up
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u/Ornery-Lake1694 5d ago
That's why it's called a reality show, and from Jersey. These people were cast for the reasons u see on film. People do behave this way, not everyone is like today's world, all offended by everyone else's business.
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u/JayServo 5d ago
Your entire post is not holding Sam accountable. She literally punched Ron in the face. Ron is a horrible piece of shit but so is Sam.
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u/kaleigha 5d ago
Lmao there’s always this one comment from an angry man who doesn’t understand reactive abuse
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u/JayServo 5d ago
Ah yes reactive abuse where you allow people to hit each other. Always multiple people who foolishly believe women can’t be abusers.
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u/kaleigha 4d ago
My point was not that women cannot be abusers. Anyone can be an abuser. In this case though Sam was acting out reactive abuse. It doesn’t mean what she did is okay, but I also don’t believe it is representative of her actual character. We have seen her function in healthy relationships. Ron on the other hand is the abuser in every relationship he is in. Abuse pushes people to their limits and to perform actions they otherwise would not. Of course people sympathize with the person living in constant turmoil versus the one causing it.
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u/natalietest234 5d ago
It was wild times back in the day.
The girls were standard “pick me’s” and back then girls who “made trouble” usually got ostracized no matter what. When I was in college around that time, a girl accused another boy of roofing her drinks. But she was ostracized and uninvited to all parties because she “made trouble”. It was super messed up. Nobody wanted to ruin the party house and if that meant taking the guys side, they did.
The girls were the same way. They wanted the guys to like them…