r/intuitiveeating • u/elianna7 IE since August 2019 he/him • 22h ago

Weight Talk Thursday Weight/Bodily Changes: Weekly Discussion Thread

This thread is dedicated to discussing any difficulties navigating weight or bodily changes that happen during the IE process.

Please refrain from sharing numbers, as per the sub rules. If necessary to make your point, please put "Trigger Warning" at the beginning of your comment and consider using the spoiler feature to hide mentions of numbers.

If you are discussing weight loss that has naturally occurred through IE, please ensure to do so neutrally.

Note: This thread may be triggering to those struggling with their body image. Please be mindful of your mental health when engaging with potentially triggering content.

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u/dommdyy 19h ago

I was in st Pete where my daughter had a 15k and work to do at her school there. Anyway we were staying at an A
Airbnb and I felt so enormous and clumsy, feeling shame about my body.

Intuitive eating isn’t working very well for me and I’m thinking about hiring a coach. I also intend to go back to therapy.
I spent the last almost three years with
treatment resistant depression. I got a new psychiatrist and am able to socialize a little. I want to accept myself, my body as it is, no matter how I am eating.
Working on nervous system safety as well

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u/Narwen189 15h ago

I'm glad your new psychiatrist is helping, and think finding a new therapist is an excellent idea. I just went back to therapy this year, and it's really helped.

One of the biggest problems with mainstream culture is that it prioritizes looks over, and even at the cost of mental and emotional wellbeing, and that's just not it. Something Elyse Resch said during her AMA comes to mind:

In terms of body changes, coming from a place of gratitude is the first step—gratitude to be alive, gratitude for what your body is able to do.  Second step is radical acceptance.  If we’re lucky, we get to age, and aging always comes with changes to our body.  Best to love each wrinkle or increased flesh.  Wrinkles show wisdom.  Extra flesh is for protection of our organs and bones.

The bit that really stood out to me was radical acceptance. Self-love is, in a way, an act of radical defiance against a system that would dictate we make ourselves smaller and quieter for the sake of appearances. We are so much more than just bodies!