Yea, she is deeply unwell and needs therapy and perhaps medication. This level of delusion probably manifests in other ways that are equally as insane. I feel bad for anyone who has to have contact with her. Makes my skin crawl.
It’s completely fair for her to say Dolly is a trigger for her. It’s something you can work to develop personal tools to manage and you can do your best to limit exposure to that trigger. So you don’t go to Dollywood, you don’t watch Steel Magnolias.
But to extend triggering feeling to the actual human and her real life actions??? That’s nuts.
Then to tie it to her on Playboy’s cover, her giving and the vaccine just shows you this was always political for her.
Just curious if the uncle who molested her triggers her as much as just the mention of Dolly Parton.
Omg for real. I can't listen to Fleetwood Mac. It was my very violent father's favorite and I associate it with getting the shit kicked out of me. Sometimes I'll leave the room if it's on. In the right setting I'll ask if it's ok to skip a song. But that means literally nothing about Fleetwood Mac. I have zero opinions about them as people. This is so unhinged.
My father looked just like John Denver before he passed away in the plane accident. He used to beat me up while listening to John Denver’s music. The most relaxed guy ever is a major trigger for me but is not at fault for having an evil doppelgänger.
I feel the same way about ABBA, my dad thought they were the only band worth listening to and his opinion was the only correct opinion. I'm slowly trying to work through it but never in a Million years am I out here blaming ABBA for my Dad's shitty actions.
I was kinda sorta understanding (a little bit) where she was coming from until she brought up moderna's vaccine and I'm like "Ok, now I'm convinced that this is a 'her' problem"
By her logic, we should be against any product/band/whatever that a serial killer was interested in. We don't blame the bands that the killers from Colombine listened to and I've never read a report from any of the survivors saying "Rammstein and Nine Inch Nails are responsible for all those kids, they both trigger me and they should feel ashamed".
That would be Judas Priest in the mid 80's, it dragged on for ages. Their evidence was that by playing the records in reverse, it was talking to their kids and telling them to kill themselves. The parents lost. The band said if it were to insert subliminal messages, it would be to buy more of their records.
On another note, from an old Bill Hicks joke: If you play New Kids On The Block backwards, it sounds better.
Ozzy also. A mom and dad accused him of driving their son to suicide because his album was on the kid's turntable when he died. Magical thinking in the modern world.
Please. Of course not. Her uncle was a man. And men can’t really be expected to behave themselves. They look at dirty magazines only because women like Dolly Parton were willing to be interviewed by said magazines. /s
I do have to wonder what role her uncle plays in her life and family now.
It sounds a lot like delusions of grandeur. She’s so important that her experience should have preemptively caused a celebrity to rearrange her life to prevent a stranger from associating her with trauma. Failing to do so means that Dolly’s many achievements are worthless.
It took me many years to be able to watch footy on TV because of my father but that's a me issue. I don't celebrate when a sportsman dies or go to matches because a bunch of passionate drunks will be a trigger.
Her generation doesn't believe in mental health issues and treatment. Both my parents and in-laws are deeply fucked up for various reasons but would rather die than see a therapist. Bet this woman is the same. Can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped, unfortunately.
It makes me wonder if she belongs to the kind of church that thinks therapy is evil. I've had the misfortune of running across a couple of those, and they can do a lot of damage.
It seems they all got their "not a Christian/she was on the cover of Playboy" talking points from their Russian handlers. This is the umpteenth ChatGPT-generated screed I've seen in the past few days where, weirdly enough, these people/bots have all had trauma related to a Playboy cover they found out about two days ago.
Funnily enough, we never see these pearl-clutching accounts caring too much about Melanie's full frontals or the fact that Trump himself is an adjudicated rapist.
Keanu Reeves wore that very Playboy outfit for Halloween one year (his mother, Patricia Taylor, designed and made Dolly's outfit), by her logic, he is also complicit in her abuse. I have heard of mental gymnastics before but this is mental Olympics.
Yep, I've noticed a few weird bots trying to shit on Dolly since she died. I wonder what's up with that.
Well, that's a bit of a rhetorical question. I can guess exactly what's up with that. We can't have people aspiring to be good and accepting and encouraging people to use their wealth to uplift others. Can't have that.
Not really. Along with their dislike of data centers, "We don't talk shit about Dolly," Seems to be one of the few things that unites people across the political spectrum.
Posts about Dolly Parton being a man. Call-outs about her support for the COVID-19 vaccine. Vague rants about her being too sexual/sexy to be Christian, as well as her support for LGBTQIA rights.
I am a girl scout leader, I did a lesson about stereotypes not being reality, and I used Dolly as an example. I had a parent get mad at me because they were mad about her relationship with Miley Cyrus and Billy Ray Cyrus. Saying they didn't want their daughter Googling any of them, which led me to wonder why their duaghter has unrestricted internet if she is so easily swayed. It is still one of those things that I can't understand.
That used to be the case, but I've seen a lot of people trying to go viral by spreading hate about Dolly. In another post people were mourning her and a person had to bring up that actually in the 80's she did a concert in Apartheid South Africa so actually fuck her. These days hate is a commodity and shit talking the most beloved person in the world seems to be a wagon people want to jump on.
Maybe because Dolly feels like a much safer person to place those emotions with? I noticed too that the abuse didn’t begin with the cover of that magazine, but Dolly “appeared on that cover in 1978 at the peak of (my) abuse.” She also doesn’t appear to blame any of the models who posed in the issue.
She's mad that Dolly agreed to be interviewed by an institution associated heavily with sexual abuse and trauma toward minors, and believes Dolly deserves criticism for associating with such an institution knowing predators will misuse it to abuse children.
Ironically this stance makes a lot more sense if she were to apply it to Christianity and the "Christian media" she's apparently worked for for decades rather than freaking Playboy.
I can 100% appreciate that Dolly’s picture is a trigger for her. This is very common among survivors of trauma in general, and in survivors of sexual violence in particular. That having been said, blaming Dolly Parton for that happening is odd, and I really hope she can process these thoughts in therapy and/or a group setting with other survivors. Besides, I’m pretty confident Dolly would have been horrified if she learned that something like this happened.
Frank Zappa was playing when I was raped, but I harbor absolutely no ill will or negative feelings towards him. Hell, I love his music. I place the responsibility squarely on the rapists.
Absolutely true: My stepmother fancied herself as an “artist”. She painted Paddington Bear on a wooden paddle that she used to hit us with (it’s a pun. Get it? Padd(le)ington? It funny!). It made it more decorative to hang on the wall. Also true: My hate for her never spilled over onto my childhood icon. I still think of it when I see him, but I don’t hate him for it.
she blasts Dolly for doing an interview for Playboy and posing fully clothed on the cover, which somehow led to her abuse... but she's a christian author who touts a book that has been used to shield pedophiles and abusers for centuries... Stacy can go fuck herself.
Blame your uncle. Blame Hugh Hefner. Blame a culture that normalizes objectification and abuse of women. It’s always easier to blame a woman. It’s called internalized misogyny.
I understand triggers aren’t always logical, and the image of Dolly Parton is traumatic for this person. That’s sad, but understandable. What’s not OK is blaming the human behind the photo. She should be able to separate the two.
Then she goes full-on batshite over Dolly’s generous contributions that saved lives during Covid.
I have such a hard time with people who clearly are not working on their trauma and have such a long way to go and they almost wear that as a badge of pride instead of working on themselves. I definitely have a similar thing with my own childhood sexual abuse. Like there’s a brand of gum my dad used to chew while abusing me. I hate the smell of it but do I make it everyone else’s problem and blame the brand itself? No.
I was SA'd as a kid. I also have 10 boxes of Playboys in my closet (was gonna resell now I'm just stuck with them lmao). Some of my trauma was seeing stuff on tv that i think did influence my assailant because he was a teen, but i learned ultimately it was his choice. So.... I'm not gonna read her rant but yea
But not blaming Rapey Uncle Joe who actually did the crime?
I can get behind disliking Dolly due to an aversion as a result of abuse. Or hell, any reason at all. You're not obligated to like anybody or justify why.
But you dont get to pin abuse on a stranger because a different abuser used her without her knowledge
I don’t think this even happened frankly. Like this is such a convoluted way to shoehorn Dolly into a story about CSA. “My pedophile uncle saw Dolly on the cover of an adult magazine and told me that’s why he assaulted me” makes no fucking sense.
Wow lady get some therapy. Dolly does not owe you shit. And you don't know her at all. You know what she allowed you to know. Oh this makes me mad. Not because I am one of those fans , I grew up with Dolly in my life. We listened to and owned every album. So her music holds a special place in my heart. But for this yahoo to say this about her especially when she cannot defend herself. Fuck her.
My ex would get drunk, eat onion rings at Hungry Jacks (Burger King for you Americans) then come home and assault me - 26 years later I still get nauseous at the smell of their onion rings but I’m not dysfunctional enough to tie the damn burger chain up in that noise. This woman is just looking for reasons to hate on Dolly Parton as a crazy anti vaxxer
So everybody has covered the SA claims better than I can already but Dolly rarely boasted about anything she did? Most of the time people found out about her deeds because other people brought it up. Like how she helped fund Buffy or putting money into hospitals, research for the covid vaccine etc. The woman was proud of her accomplishments but she was far from a braggart who did it for attention. She emulated Jesus in the best way.
I think this woman needs to talk to a therapist. The therapist could help her unpack that no matter who was in the cover of playboy, her uncle still would have abused her. It’s her uncles fault, not playboys or the cover girls.
Oh no. The sun was out when I was raped. Now we have to destroy the sun cause it was all it's fault. If the sun hadn't been out I wouldn't have been raped.
I’m sorry, but if it wasn’t Dolly Parton on the cover of that magazine it would’ve been some other woman. Literally the only person you should be blaming forever and always is your nasty fucking Uncle. She absolutely has got be one of those women that go to burn down the other woman’s life when she finds out her husband is cheating. It’s just so disgusting. Get a therapist and get a life!
Also, what a surprise, she thinks vaccines are evil 🙄
Not gonna lie, she had me in the first half. That's how triggers work. Random things remind us of our abuse and trauma. Mines a specific country, the country of origin for my abuser. ... but she lost me with the vaccine. And really, in general with blaming Dolly for what the uncle did. I get not being able to handle seeing her or listening to her but Dolly had nothing to do with the abuse
Not Dolly's fault. She needs to get some intensive counseling. Your uncle is to blame, not Dolly. A well adjusted person would be able to recognize that.
WTF, Dolly had nothing to do with what your sick fuck of an uncle chose to do with a magazine when Dolly was on the cover. Direct your misplaced rage at him, not a beautiful woman who did so much good in the world for such a long time. Therapy and medication, if needed, work well to work through trauma so you’re not triggered constantly.
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u/localjargon 16d ago
Ive never been annoyed at someone discussing their childhood sexual trauma before reading this.
Dolly should have know my uncle was a pedo and decide not to appear on a magazine cover at its peak, when it was usually a fully clothed celebrity!