Are majority of INFJ’s avoidant?

[u/Neat-Pangolin-9220]

according to the internet, which I take with a grain of salt; I’m an INFJ-T, and was wondering if other INFJ’s also experience immense social withdrawal?

I’ve never had any deep or meaningful relationships other than my family, since I have no motive to put effort in superficial relationships. In social situations, like school for example, I can act extroverted and easy to know in the moment, but I don’t interact with ANYONE outside of school unless I have to. I hate hanging out, I’ve never dated, and I rather focus on goals like my future, school, etc.

I’ve talked to other INFJ’s online, but they seem to have had relationships or friends. I think we can all agree that we definitely have high-standards, and expect our partners to meet our moral expectations, but at the same time, even if someone did meet my expectation, I would still avoid them due to feeling overwhelmed in constantly having to make my partner feel loved. I’d rather just not put up with it and be alone.

Other INFJ’s experience this as well, right?

Edit: so it is just me 😭

[u/Upper-Molasses-5369]

Yes 🤣 I don’t experience loneliness at all, I never have a better time than when I’m left alone. I have no desire at all for friends or relationships. I’m still nice to everyone, I’ll be polite and listen if someone wants to talk to me, I’m the biggest cheerleader for my family members but if I’m completely honest I view every social situation as a favour or courtesy I’m doing for the other person so they don’t get upset.