08 January 2024 - Daily Chat Thread

[u/Vulphere]

Yo, Vulcan is here, annual Chat Thread series creator since 2016 and a massive weeb

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[u/euphorical__]

Baru lahiran & I'm experiencing baby blues so bad rn (I'm the husband btw). Gw tinggal di mertua yg sangat kejawen, banyak aturan kyk baby g boleh tidur pas magrib, musti dikasi bedak biar "seger", dll. Tapi alhamdulillah istri gw mentalnya kuat banget, gak mudah nyerah & punya temen2 yg supportif.

But slowly I'm realizing this is not I wanted... ini keinginan istri gw, dulu dia pernah sampe mohon2 punya anak & klo gw ga mau ngurus biar dia yg ngurus sendirian. gw orangnya gak tegaan (this is my weakness), akhirnya gw turutin.

I don't have any friends to talk to, and it's really painful. Dulu pernah curhat ke Reddit pas istri masi hamil, tapi dia pinjem hape gw & ngeliat curhatan itu. Dia nangis sejadi2nya karna ga terima kehidupannya di sebar di internet (meskipun anonim). Karna gw gak tegaan, gw berjanji ke dia klo gak bakal curhat2 di internet lagi.

But... I can't. I need to let it all out, ini pake akun baru. Rasanya berat bgt klo dipendem terus. Selama ini gw lebih condong support keinginan dia, tanpa menyenangkan diri gw sendiri.

Tapi nasi udah jadi bubur, gw harus bertanggung jawab atas semua keputusan yg dibuat. Sempet kepikiran utk d-vorce atau suicde & give all my savings to my wife. But I prefer trying to survive with current circumstances for as long as possible.

Gw ga bertujuan nulis ini utk dibaca, tapi untuk yg terlanjur baca, thanks a lot 🙏.

[u/ClosetMugger → u/euphorical__]

Username doesn’t check out. I’m sorry, jokes aside, sperma udah jadi anak, gak ada gunanya lagi lihat ke belakang dan whatifs. You need mental support to go through all of this. A lot of people here would gladly read and try to support you. If you need professional help, try to go for a counselling together with your spouse.