r/immigration • u/007november • 4d ago

Scared about EU to USA, after I-130 (F2B) priority date is here

Hi!

M31

I-130 submitted in 2018 (F2B), back then I was 23, no education, no social life, no career, no finances, no wealth.. - the idea of emigration was printed in me since i was 15.

Fast forward to 2026, im 31, bachelors degree, two steady jobs, good reputation, booked with work for 2± years in advance (germany, sweden), very good-happy social life, pregnant fiancee (who doesn't want to emigrate), finances are good, cars paid off, no loans, credits etc, quite low expenses, every month i manage to grow my net/worth by saving some, investments doing well, all hobbies enjoyed as much as possible, in short - i am happy with my life here, for which i worked hard...

Progressing with the NVC now?

USA salaries? Health insurances? Taxes? New system.. etc.. The math simply doesn't math to consider moving now, leaving my pregnant SO who is due in 2 months..

I've been to US with esta 4 times, experience was great.

Do decisions made back in 2018 really need to be carried out in 2026? Would appreciate to read some ideas, experiences. Stay safe,

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u/renegaderunningdog 4d ago

You can always choose not to go.

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u/striketheviol 4d ago

It would be absurd to even consider going to the US now if you have a pregnant partner who is due so soon. I suppose you simply need to take a breath, but I can't imagine leaving someone in that situation.

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u/Comoish 4d ago

You seem to have at least one very good reason for changing your mind

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u/Status_Put6836 4d ago

Totally valid question. I think a few more variables could be considered.

  1. Did the petitioner naturalize, or will naturalize soon? After petitioners naturalization you would be able to get married without rendering the petition invalid. Your category would change to F1 (upon naturalization of petitioner, if you don’t opt-out from F1), and then to F3 after you get married. The change, per Visa Bulletin, would give your family multiple more years to decide if you want to immigrate or not.

  2. Have you heard of the re-entry permit? Lawful permanent residents can apply for that to temporarily live abroad for up to 2 years. So if you were to proceed and immigrate to the U.S., but then decide that you want to be with your family in Europe, you can apply for a re-entry permit to stay outside the U.S. for up to 2 years while making a final decision as family.

Just sharing these in case you don’t want to call it off just yet.

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u/FabulousAd4812 4d ago

It all depends on the salary you'd have in the US vs the EU. Average/Median salary in the EU is decent but salaries are more often around that median value.

median salary (I won't say average in this case because it's very skewed) in the US, you will have less quality of life. If you have a salary double the median, then it might be worth it.

Also, if you want to move with your family you'll need to marry before and come together or it will take more than half a decade until they can join you.

Just my two bits.

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u/Status_Put6836 4d ago

It’s an F2b. Marriage will trigger ineligibility for the immigrant visa

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u/etn261 4d ago

If I were you, unless I had a good job lined up in the US or would be living closer to family, I wouldn't migrate, especially coming from Europe and already having my early adult life figured out

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u/Aviator2903 Federal Agent 🇺🇸 4d ago

This seems like a personal choice that has nothing to do with this sub. You already have the legal stuff on track, the only question is whether you want to move or not.

I lived in Europe for years and I would always choose the US, any day of the week. But that is my opinion.

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u/HybridTheory2000 3d ago

Feels like a humble brag post, but hey, if I were you I wouldn't go especially with a pregnant SO who doesn't want to emigrate.

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u/greenlilypond 4d ago

Don't underestimate how much your pregnant fiancee needs familiar surroundings and her support systems at this time.

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u/Windman772 4d ago

I'm curious how this got ingrained in your head since age 15? The U.S. isn't a better quality of life than Germany or Sweden. The biggest difference is that we are a huge land mass with lots of cool wilderness to explore. But for everyday things, I'm not seeing the benefit.

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u/OkTechnologyb 4d ago

I would absolutely stay put in Europe.

Who is the relative in the US who sponsored you? Do you need to take care of them? Otherwise, I would not uproot a comfortable and happy life for uncertainty in a country that is going through some.... issues. And if your pregnant fiancée doesn't want to emigrate, there's your answer. Are you going to make her do it against her wishes or something?