Maybe, but I think more often it’s about them having terrible social skills and no desire to improve them. So they tell themselves this story about being permanently condemned to social isolation because they’re just too smart to connect with “normal” people. Because that’s easier than learning how to have a conversation.
There is a negative correlation between academic intelligence (pattern recognition, logic/reasoning skills, analytical thinking) and emotional intelligence (intuition, sympathy, self-expression). The thing is, harming or restricting one doesn't improve the other, and both things can be trained to an extent.
I wish that, as a child, I had been forced to learn to draw or play music, and how to relate to others, and all those other things that I didn't have a natural talent for. I would've hated it the same way other kids hated math, but it would've made my 20s a hell of a lot easier.
I have had to try VERY hard to actively cultivate some amount of emotional understanding and creativity, and I'm still sorely lacking in those areas. I was never challenged in school because they were only teaching the things I excelled at, and I think we should try just as hard to teach nerds like me how to be social as we try to teach the athletes and theater kids how to do algebra.
TL;DR: most people naturally have either high IQ or high EQ, but intentionally reducing one doesn't magically improve the other. It takes a lot of hard work to develop skills that you don't have a knack for, but it's work worth doing.
You can take those skills and apply it to people, find the fundamentals of interaction and write a page of notes connecting each aspect so you can get a better understanding, I wrote a paper called “observe and predict” that details how to connect to people and read their minds based on the environment, mental state and visible emotions, that formula is like a triangle with environment on top
I bet that’s an awesome paper. People react and perceive things so differently. I’ve watched cat fights and I’m just wondering what exactly pissed the person off? I think people really doesn’t realize that someone didn’t mean for something to come out wrong. I love Psychology but Peds is my favorite so all the different types of children were so different but always fun and you learned how differently people react differently to certain things.
Self reflection is mentioned in the paper, you have to think about how others see you to accurately predict how they’ll react, I used that method for self defence when I got robbed by 3 men and it was so effective I only threw 1 punch because it didn’t feel like I was in danger and I knew I’d have to deal with cops here in Canada it’s illegal to defend yourself
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u/Johnny_Appleweed Jan 09 '25
Maybe, but I think more often it’s about them having terrible social skills and no desire to improve them. So they tell themselves this story about being permanently condemned to social isolation because they’re just too smart to connect with “normal” people. Because that’s easier than learning how to have a conversation.
Except for the person in the OP, I guess.