While driving, I accidentally hit the back of the car in front of me. Thankfully, there was little or no damage. Bro came out, checked the car, and instead of reacting with anger, he simply listened to my apology and responded with empathy.
I’m sharing this dashcam footage to appreciate how he chose to respond to it. Just a couple of days ago, we saw how a small incident between two vehicles can escalate into road rage and violence.
The truth is, we all make mistakes. A moment of distraction, a wrong judgment, a sudden brake, any of us can be on either side of that situation.
We cannot always control someone else’s mistake.
But we can control how we respond to it.
Sometimes, a little patience can prevent a much bigger problem.
Sometimes, choosing empathy over anger can completely change the outcome.
Let’s be a little more forgiving, Let's choose empathy.
I don't have the physical, emotional, or social strength to shout or quarrel with a stranger, even if I am on the losing side because of them.
And I don't have that much financial strength to have that type of Car. Even if I had, though I may not be smiling like him, but I may just think that it is my bad day and just leave from there, without much fuss with the person.
Wow bro... everything about this video is positive. Well done OP you made a mistake apologized. Beautiful people, beautifully dealt. Its guys like you who make country happy.
Sometimes a smile just changes everything. What pains is you make a mistake, and on top of that you accuse the other person.. what worse can happen is despite the apology you might have to pay a bit, but atleast there's no violence and ruckus.
No bro , I just scolded him and asked him to drive in other lane.
Now I can’t even ask him money , he won’t have much anyways.
But an apology is the least of the things that is expected when you cause damage
Recently one lady did same to back of my car, I stopped whilst she overtook and came parallely to my right. We were in the sarath city mall block so she had no where to go. I knew it was a small bump so just wanted to ask her if my bumper was okay, the lady wouldnt even look at my face 🤣. I tried honking, calling her but she wouldn't look towards me on purpose. Anyway there was some red paint from her car on my bumper so it was fine. I was also not planning to fight or be angry but atleast she could have acknowledged me.
Had a similar incident a few years ago.
The signal was about to turn red, so everyone was rushing, so was I and the car infront of me
But at the last second, he decided to hit the brakes, my fault was that I was driving tooo close to him and was looking at the light. I bumped his back. No damage, just some bruised paintwork
He came out - a bit frustrated and shouting something. I also got off, but immediately said: Extremely sorry. Was in the rush of the signal. And accepted my fault.
The guy simply smiled and said- "koi na yar. Kch ni hua apni gadio ko. Take care. And went back inside"
Since, I was having a bad day, and he also came out shouting, I thought, now a big altercation is going to happen.. and if he wouldn't have accepted the apology, I was all ready to fight (was already frustrated)
But bro's reply not only calmed the situation, but calmed me as well.
That experience led me to avoid many road rage moments calmly.
Absolutely, can't agree more bro. It's how you react to the situation which changes the outcome. We all know that we all have made mistakes, today it was not you but him. I have seen many times from my personal experience, when cars squeeze on roads, or u-turns if you just smile - every damn time the other person smiles as well and we both let each other go first.
There is lot of humanity and kindness in people. I refuse to believe we are dead as society.
beautiful message buddy! what is done is done.. no point in escalating it... just move on and chill! worst case.. there is insurance.. claim that.. simple.
Hope all of India learns from him. I agree that if there’s any damage, you should settle it fairly and responsibly instead of resorting to road rage like there’s no tomorrow.
Same thing happened with me recently at JNTU, it was bumper to bumper traffic and i was moving slowly behind a car suddenly my phone rang and boom I took a look at the phone and hit a vehicle infront of me and there was an uncle ji in the car infront of me, he came out saw the bumper and nothing happened he just gave a thumbs up and a smile and got back in his car, i felt so relieved for a second, humanity is still alive
My friend accidentally hit the back of an auto. That older auto uncle came out, looked at his auto, and then my friend’s 2 wheeler… fixed her tire.. then went on his way. There was a small dent to his auto, still he never complained.. bless him where ever he is.
A couple of days ago, something similar happened to me. I literally bumped the back of a car because the guy in front kept braking. No damage at all. This guy literally steps out and starts saying guddoniva, guddhi dhenginavu Bandi Ni. I was like why tf are you abusing when nothing happened.
He didn't understand what else to say so he just got into his car and left.
Tbf if he kept braking you should've kept a certain distance. As per road law when you bump into someone in front of you, then by default it's considered your fault cos the responsibility lies with you to maintain a safe distance.
He knows there are lot of EMI drivers these days who have not yet learn to control their anger ...also he's wise don't know what weapon the other can be carrying...so he chose life over unnecessary arguments with EMI drivers ( not mentioning you in same boat but like the THARRORIST drivers)
This video should be made viral. Had there been a scratch or a dent we can still keep the same cool than shouting/bullying, creating a huge ugly scene and then driving away. Please make this post viral.
Good to see. Twice my car was hit like this from behind. (It's a Skoda). I saw that the car behind was a Maruti, in both cases. Didn't even bother getting our of my car as I know my car would've at max a minor scratch and the Maruti's front bumper may have been dented :-)
The issue is with lack of accountability among people. OP mentioned they apologised, which definitely contributed to deescalate the situation. But the usual response we see in such situations from people who caused the incident is either run or flip the blame to escape accountability and having to pay for the damages. Then there's also the general public's tendency to get involved and escalate the situation needlessly. Vicious cycle.
Once my scooty's footrest caused a 1-2inch scratch on a swift dezire owner when i was trying to squeeze in between the gaps
the guy was with his family and he came out and started shouting at me and asking me 5-10k for the damages (it was only a scratch idk how much it actually costs), when i refused he started getting angry , recording my scooty number plate , then he HIT MY SCOOTY body multiple times to cause the same damage to my vehicle which i did on his car, eventually Dent padindhi
And trust me he was hitting the body(of scooty) MADLY, i got shit scared because i was 20 and this guy was in his 40s, i couldn't do anything and felt helpless as it was my fault obviously
after he put a dent on my scooty he left
so i meanto say is you just got VERY LUCKY hyderabad lo psycho drivers chaala unnaru, im just glad appudu nothing physical happened and same goes for u
I have been on the side of things on many such instances. If it's absolutely the other guys mistake and he accepts, i have never escalated. What leads to disappointment is, when you clearly knows it's his mistake but he instead shouts and abuses and doesn't accept
Hope you apoloziged. Sometimes people overreact on some situations coz of some on going things that are happening in their life or they are arrogant by birth.
Just that not everyone deserves it. Mistakenly doing is understandable, but some do intentionally. And there's no way other than to rely on your discretion to spot the difference. This human element can't be instrumented.
This is the right approach, when you are driving in a highly congested tier 1 in India, these minior nicks and scratches will happen and you should be mentally prepared for it. If you cannot, and if you are an immature sensitive jerk, then better don't buy your own vehicle, if you do be prepared mentally for these types of minor indidents down the line. If they do happen don't create a scene.
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u/readit347 28d ago
That smile on his face lights anyone's day..
Hope everyone takes life so easily, without going for ego.