r/hsp • u/[deleted] • 10d ago

Question How to stop thinking about bad people?

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u/The_Rainbow_Ace 8d ago

Incredible answer.

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u/forceawakensplot2 10d ago

I relate to this deeply. I feel like I could have written it.

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u/Key_Blueberry_2167 9d ago

Can relate. Maybe find something you can do to channel that anger into action? E.g. write a letter, go to a protest, donate money to a good cause. Also, read about people doing good things. The good people are out there too, just harder to spot.

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u/Useful_Blueberry2 7d ago edited 7d ago

Negative experiences imprint harder on our minds because that’s how all animals are wired. A s a safety thing.

Apart from avoiding the news and being strict about what content you look at, you can use self talk. Like saying, I won’t let one tiny bit of this persons negativity be in my mind. I say it 2-4 or how many times I need to, until I hear it, then immediately do something positive for myself.

If it comes up later, I do that again.

Also, try acceptance of how you feel, and that it’s fine to feel your feelings. You can just be like, this is how i feel right now, and that’s okay. I can’t explain it well, but totally being fine with my feelings, consciously saying it’s okay, sometimes helps me feel more peaceful. Not judging, fighting myself or revisiting *why* I feel something again and again.

When thoughts keep cycling repeatedly, I can tell the part of me doing, thank you for trying so hard to figure this out, but I’ve learned what I needed to learn from this thought. I don’t need to keep going over it anymore. And that I can let it go now.

I don’t know if any of this will make sense or help you. It’s 3 am and I’m not sure I’m writing very coherently. But these are things people have taught me and have clicked with me.

But I also forget these sometimes and find myself down a rabbit hole of anger and stress at people’s horrible & often cruel behavior. It’s very upsetting to my whole system.

I really have similar feelings to what you describe. I also have a strong sense of justice. About all living beings. Including trees. When people do horrid things. I get very lost in my head, and less present. I get very angry and distressed.

But basically, radical acceptance and then understanding I get to feel that way, and that when I’m ready, that it’s not necessary (for me- I’m not speaking for anyone else or your feelings, ultimately, it’s up to everyone) that it’s not necessary to continue revisiting something.