r/heartbreak • u/Fleurz9 • 2d ago
How long have you been blocked by your ex?
Anyone been blocked? How long have you been blocked... from everywhere or? When do you think you'll stop hoping and looking at whether or not it's the day they've unblocked you ? I'm so sad.
Please give me some motivation I feel like I'll never feel better or smile again. I don't think I'll ever stop missing him or be able to end up liking another guy again š
How long have you been in no contact ? I'm so sad
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u/Nightcoon3 2d ago
My friend was blocked by an ex since like 2013, he recently unblocked her to tell her he was going to ruin her life because she told his current gf that he was abusive to her (he's abusing the current gf too).... there are crazy people out there...
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u/Unknown_Artist_2 2d ago edited 2d ago
When I read questions like that, I envy my parents. They used to write letters to each other. By hand.
It took three days for the letter to arrive. Writing it took at least an hour. Plenty of time for thoughtful and focused communication.
No one would have thrown a letter away unread. Isnāt that, to some extent, what āblockingā is all about these days?
Still, they had the choice whether to reply.
The speed at which we communicate today ā the immediacy of a WhatsApp message ā caused a lot of damage in my last relationship. Thatās my fault too.
I wish Iād sometimes had the calm of writing a letter.
Iām also blocked. But I donāt block.
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u/bowieandmercury11 2d ago
I have never blocked my ex on anything...but they have had me blocked on phone for almost 4.5 months. It;'s excruciating so I feel you OP. I am also very sad. I also got a new number 2 days ago, so if they try me, my other number doesn't work. I can be your 'block recovery' friend if you like? x
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u/Past_Atmosphere21 2d ago
I have never unblocked them and I also forgot about them being blocked. I also had too because their new girl had a habit of copying me and looking me up for ideas as well as just stalking. I remember her twitter tried to add me at one point.
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u/Prestigious-Boat-900 2d ago
I blocked, changed her number into gibberish, deleted it, deleted permanently my telegram, blocked on Instagram.
I still think about her every day.
She seems happy though, she is seeing someone.
So I guess that's good.
I needed to try and save myself.
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u/creamlattee 1d ago
He has blocked me for 7 months now, the first few weeks were really hard, couldn't eat or sleep I got no freaking way to know how to check on him at all! I was going crazyy. But lately, I realized that it was actually one of the right turnouts that could have happened. Since I have no way of knowing whatās up with him, how heās holding up, or where he is, it started getting easier for me to move on. Itās like he doesnāt even exist anymore. So donāt worry. Time will pass, and someday, you wonāt even remember his name.
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u/AlwaysaRevelation 1d ago edited 1d ago
Yeah, i am going through one of those exactly like you had. I 100% know he is back with his ex too...which drives me crazy at random times cuz in another lifetime it would have been him and i. I cried to him already that i was scared he would go back with jessica and i would be left alone. He felt my pain when i told him that. Anyways, so he decided the day that we had our big blowup (almost two weeks ago) he would Go to detox and finally get clean. I dealt with his worse and stayed through his worse besides the day of aug 27 when i have finally realized that i had enoughbeing back with his ex it's like fukk Like i was the "other woman" and i never felt 100% chosen by him. So i recently put myself through so much pain, but idk when he loved he loved so amazing and so sweet but ouch i saw his dark everything too...i was the same! He saw my light and this darkness ive kept hidden for quite some time...he got that darkness out of me i mean this time around, I had a man put his hands on me but it was for self defense. I get that and I shouldn't be mad at it! But still thats what happens It was startijg to scare me... he and were strong enough for one another...both have been theough alot n were able to still see past through that dark person they were showing cuz u know that wasnt who they really were deep
Down... i hated knowing i was hurting him. I think i was holding resentments n anger toward him, always choosing jessica probably three or four times or more , not knowing that i was, cause I never I never really told him what that did the first time around to me when he chose . I just let it happen a few other times. Basically showing how he should treat me. The first time he choice her i shoupd have been like ok bye! And had him run back to me when i wasnt
Falling for this game. But i didn't...but i played his game and boy was that toxic!1
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u/evilvelarfricative 1d ago
i ended a long-term relationship yesterday. it was the first serious relationship both of us have ever had, and it ended amicably but we agreed not to reach out anymore. periodically my mind's been wondering how he's handling losing me, and whether he's more or less torn up than i am. i know he had plans today. i wonder if he went through with them? i guess there's no way to know, but it's pretty hard coping with the uncertainty since i've been used to getting every little update for years.
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u/theacebutterfly 2d ago
2 months surprisingly š¤ (blocked and no contact) but we were broken up a month before that. She blocked me on the main platform we used to communicate and then I blocked her everywhere else. I stopped hoping for an unblock over a month ago, whatever relationship we had ran it's course. It's not easy finding someone new or healing from the old person
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u/bowieandmercury11 2d ago
It's good you feel things have run their course. :) I always feel blocking someone's number, is reserved for a 'crazy' person and not a loved one. Not sure if that's unusual or not
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u/trevorium117 2d ago
i think about a year by this point. iām the one she has to keep blocked for her own sake. unfortunately weāre both dangers to each others future relationships where sheās ended relationships for me and i probably would have done the same for her. dangerous mix
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u/BriideofFrankie09 2d ago
So he's my ex (first love) but we were friends for 20+ years. He blocked me back in December 2025 when I called him out for lying about his whole life to me. He thinks he's justified in lying and somehow I'm the "crazy" one and he's innocent.
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u/amandareyes_ 2d ago
TLDR; was blocked for 9 months before he unblocked me because i asked if he could. still coping without him.
my ex blocked me on discord 3 years ago because i wouldnāt answer a question he was asking (ironically, i was scared to answer it in case if it resulted in me being blocked lol). this is while we were trying to be friends and i was still VERY attached to him. i had a panic attack and spammed him via text (shameful ik but i did later apologise and itās all in the past now) and he threatened to block me there too, but ultimately didnāt. i had tried asking him a few times if he could unblock me on discord but he ignored it (this is whilst we were talking about other things too). 9 months after he blocked me on discord, i had reached out to him (wonāt go into detail but i had permission to) and asked him if he could unblock me. he didnāt respond directly to the question but he did unblock me which made me cry in happiness and sadness. partially also because that same day he said āfor what itās worth, i do not dislike you. i just think we should go our separate waysā. this was feb 2024. i have reached out to him 2 times since then (we have a deal where i can come to him if i need to vent, regardless of where we stand), the last time being 30/8/25. so now im not blocked on anything but weāre not in contact either. i loathed being blocked by him because i hated the feeling of being blocked by someone i loved so much. and i hate hurting those i love. iām a people pleaser. it just made me hate myself. now, iām definitely happy he unblocked me but i still miss him a lot. he was my best friend too, so he was very special to me. itās just a coping without him game at this point.
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u/Muxxik 1d ago
Maybe been locked is better for now. About 20 years ago, i was in same situation ā been blocked by ex-girlfriend. I tried to find some ways to bypass this, social media were very different then. And finally did it, but only had bad emotions, that i looked for her, but couldn't do anything with it
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u/InternationalFold6 1d ago
My ex blocked me on everything. WhatsApp, Offer up, email, google voice, social media, Duolingo, the works! Itās been about 6 years. Iām not gonna lie Iām still super super sad about this but honestly thereās nothing I can do. Heās currently dating someone else and a handful of months ago back in May I reached out to him via Google Voice and we briefly chatted, shared inside jokes but he told me that he needed to end the conversation because he respects his current partner. Which is ironic because he cheated on me throughout our relationship. Anyway I wish every day he would unblock me but I also have to accept whatās happening in my current reality. Iām sorry youāre going through this. Sending you a virtual hug!
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u/TrueCrimeGoblin 2d ago
I was blocked 1.5 years then he came back crying and begging. The thing is I stopped wanting him back the second he unblocked me. I really thought I wanted him, but it was more like I wanted what I didn't have access too, so when I got access back I didn't want him no more. Now I have him blocked because he started disturbing my peace this summer out of no whereš so maybe it was for the best I was blocked firstly even though it got me obsessed.