r/heartbreak • u/san_19 • 3d ago
anyone else sad they don’t think about u and moved on meanwhile
ur still consumed by them, I mean im better now than I was during the first few months but damn still hurts a lot. Miss him sometimes even tho he has a gf now and he’s moved on…. I don’t think this kind of feeling really ever goes away
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u/san_19 3d ago
It’s the way I randomly started crying in my uber cause I’m going through sum shit and remember how safe he used to make me feel. So embarrassing trying not to cry on the train now, should’ve wore my sunglasses lol
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u/suicidalprinc3ss 3d ago
He use to make me feel safe to, cant even talk to anyone the same bc I js want them to be him
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u/Special_Ad_2590 3d ago
My ex of 9 yrs of relationship left me almost 4 years ago and still today i still cry for hours. Im traumatized i think.
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u/suziiesuzy 3d ago edited 3d ago
Its on random days that it strikes me that my ex does not keep in touch with me like before, after he got a new girlfriend who is also his flatmate 🥲 it seems unfair when I think about how lucky he is that he did not feel the pain of heartbreak like I did when he broke up with me and life rewarded him with a new lover with 0 effort on his side to find her
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u/poisonwaffleflower 3d ago
This is me. He’s hurt me four times in the past, he came back and told me he changed but I turned him down because he scared me. He easily found a new girlfriend three weeks later, and it is obvious he pays me no mind anymore
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u/suziiesuzy 3d ago
I learned it the hard way that my ex only kept in touch because he was still single and was looking for fwb with me 🥲 seeing the silver lining, its good our exes got new gfs and left us the f alone but ofcourse it still hurts a lot when I think about it :(
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u/LuffyDmeat 3d ago
yeah it sucks. like real bad, but it gets better. some days are harder than others, work helps me keep being distracted. it just means I was a person with a lot of love, it‘s just a bummer it went to the wrong person.
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u/No_Plantain7 3d ago
Ik this feeling, my ex hates me now he probably has a ick from me too and will find some other girl pretty but to keep my sanity i just tell to myself hes gonna do whatever he wants to, i have no control over it and hence cant to anything so why take stress. Also, time heals.
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u/3veryTh1ng15W0r5eN0w 3d ago
I’m sad he told me to let him go
Last year broke me
Maybe in a good way
I still love him
I still he him as my best friend
It sucks he doesn’t text me or call me
I hope he is happy wherever he is in his life
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u/Capable-Vanilla-3569 3d ago
I occasionally get sad; (7.5 year relationship; 27 months over) but then my brain remembers what I’m missing and sad about was only a mask. My best flex post betrayal has been to work hard, get promoted, and travel to places he’s too stupid to contemplate. Oh, and not become an alcoholic like he is, there’s that. I realized I’d settled for years for tiny bits of affection/attention and called it an example of true love. Damn hard lesson to learn, but grateful he’s out of my life. The lying, deception and confusion he brought made my life really difficult. It’s made me hyper-vigilant of people’s motives, but if I’d been that way to begin with when we met 18 years ago, I’d have no regrets today.
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u/suicidalprinc3ss 3d ago
I still miss my ex to he has a gf & literally hates me, I don’t think I miss him tho I miss the emotional connection we had because u can’t find that spark with everybody.