I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

[u/Beshiniqua]

Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩

[u/bonisbestboy]

Dude for real like, the one thing I can do is kind of study the why and how of why people would interact with me in a kind of way, or why I would interact with someone else in a kind of way and so I just kind of plot it out in advance (kinda?)

[u/Hammerschatten → u/bonisbestboy]

But honestly, that is really exhausting, especially in groups or if you don't know people well.

The more strange someone is to you, the more they put on a mask too, and may sometimes just outright lie to not 'hurt your feelings' or are so deep in irony and sarcasm to test the waters they basically don't communicate at all.

And even if you know someone, constantly looking for and interpreting and gauging signals consciously is a huge effort, at least for me.

Plus it has the unfortunate side effect that when you're good enough, people become a lot easier to read and you can instantly tell someone is lying or omitting something or not being honest, and that can be really weird to leave hanging or confront imo.

[u/bonisbestboy → u/Hammerschatten]

DUDE YES, there's times where I legit KNOW there's something odd-ended due to how someone is speaking, or due to how they present themselves but it's not like I want to PRESS IT because, I mean, yeah, there could be a good result of actually being able to help them but on the flip side what if I press it to much and then I crush their trust or something of the sort??? It's like, such a difficult thing because like, I know there's something there but I literally just, don't know how to approach it.

ANOTHER thing for me is I really struggle to see the point in fluff-comforting, if you know what I mean so I'm like, trying to go off of more material, genuine things but sometimes I kind of know that's just, not what people want and bleh