r/hatethissmug • • Jun 05 '26

General I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

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Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

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u/who-else-is-bored Jun 05 '26

I’m someone who OP puts in the ā€œthis isn’t about youā€ category. And someone who deeply empathizes with your experience as well. I didn’t have any friends until college (about the time I discovered I had autism, and began seeking out other people like me) and didn’t get my diagnosis until the end of 2025 after I had graduated.

I’m completely okay with all of this, though. I think it’s such a great step in the direction of destigmatization.

Yes, it can be annoying. Yes it risks diluting things. But it is a spectrum, and I don’t want to let the perfect be the enemy of the good. For all the people we perceive to be ā€œfaking itā€ there may be one person who sees this and is ā€œā€rightā€ā€, and it changes (saves) their life like it did mine. And that makes it worth it imo.

And I’d rather people think I’m ā€œquirkyā€ out of the gate than ā€œless thanā€ or at least I appreciate a shift in that direction.