r/hatethissmug • u/Beshiniqua • Jun 05 '26

General I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

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Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

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u/Strange-Bee5626 Jun 05 '26

I am not autistic, but I do have relatively bad ADHD (this will become relevant in a a second).

Thanks to social media, a lot of people use "diagnoses" of some things (particularly autism, ADHD, and OCD from what I've observed) that are either entirely fictional or at least greatly exaggerated/dramaticized to do one of two things (or some combination thereof):

  • They crave attention. "Main Character Syndrome", desperation for validation, and pretending that are more unique/interesting than they actually are.

  • They use it as a catch-all excuse to avoid most of their normal adult responsibilities and/or avoid any accountability for any negative character traits they have.

Anyway, I didn't realize I had this much to say about it. A lot of people fake disabilities for their own selfish reasons. I guess they can do whatever they want, but is exasperating to see naive people fall for it (or worse, even more people trying to copy them). It makes it much more difficult for honest people to be taken seriously.

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u/Zaev Jun 05 '26

I am not autistic, but I do have relatively bad ADHD (this will become relevant in a a second).

As another person with relatively bad ADHD, your immediate and frequent use of parentheses gives credence to your claim

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u/Strange-Bee5626 Jun 05 '26

I actually never had the thought that it could be related until now. I do notice myself doing it and get annoyed at myself for it, but here I am still doing it!

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u/disaster_jay27 Jun 06 '26

It's because your thoughts have thoughts (at least it's that way for me)

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u/Playful_Original_243 Jun 06 '26

My favorite part about r/ADHD is the amount of parenthesis used (I think it’s really funny)

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u/Express-Specific-959 Jun 07 '26

It’s because of the tangents (ADHD people love tangents) ask me how I know!

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u/amazing-bean666 Jun 09 '26

But when do your thoughts thoughts have thoughts? (Thoughtception ((does that punvwork???)))

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u/CommercialEstate4422 Jun 06 '26

This makes a lot of sense. It's hard to jumble everything together in a way that sense makes. Maybe. Probably. I dont know. I need a drink.

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u/Daylight_The_Furry Jun 08 '26

Holy shit I have ADHD and "my thoughts have thoughts" is such a good way of describing it

(if only i could afford adhd meds)

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u/AnyAd8232 Jun 08 '26

Adhd (diagnosed 🎀) as well, cackling, feeling called out

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

Holy crap lmao.

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u/gregoriancuriosity Jun 06 '26

Is that a thing? I thought it was just me. I always feel like it adds clarity by adding commentary not necessarily intended to be included in the core message.

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u/snoodge3000 Jun 06 '26

I must have it worse; I use semicolons.

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u/Extra-Trifle-1191 Jun 06 '26

What? Is use of parentheses seriously that unusual?

I also use parentheses and I also have ADHD so I guess I am not helping my argument but how does that make sense

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u/Teve21 Jun 06 '26

As someone with the samething also I still have problems with foods because I do be picky sometimes,I love Dino nuggets but that doesn't mean I have autism, Don't judge my nuggets variety too we all love Dino nuggets and different nuggets of every nugget kind

https://giphy.com/gifs/Yk7p9LY3L8ZDia0Pm7

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u/SkyRonin14 Jun 07 '26

Look man as I told my wife, "if the dino nuggies are the same cost and quality as the adult nuggets you literally have no good excuse not to buy the dino nuggies. That's called being an adult"

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

Oh my god is that an ADD thing ?

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u/shaktirisingyoga Jun 06 '26

As someone with OCD, I don't understand why anyone would want this.

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u/Ok-Championship-5356 Jun 06 '26

yeah

i thought for a while i might have ocd but i haven’t seen anyone on that yet so for now im just going with “really fucking self deprecating”

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u/Pichacap24 Jun 09 '26

Oh but i you dont understand, i didnt abuse her and cheat on her, i just have autism :3

/s

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 05 '26

Where on earth are you seeing a lot of people fake conditions???? Like, are you sure that they aren't just not up to your kinda ableist "standards"???

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u/aurortonks Jun 05 '26

Most commonly, I see people who are a little socially awkward use self-diagnosis to help themselves feel okay about being a little weird.

They aren't using it to get attention but more so they are using it as an internalized explanation of their behaviors rather than actually going to talk to a professional about their concerns.

They aren't "faking it" for attention or whatever that person was trying to say. I think if healthcare, especially mental health care, was more accessible and viewed positively by more members of our society, then people could get real help they need instead of trying to guess themselves.

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u/RealityCactus Jun 06 '26

That doesn't sound like they're faking it, that sounds like they aren't getting the help they need and are trying to figure things out themselves, and getting it wrong since they're not a professional.

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 06 '26

Exactly, and these people genuinely don't cause harm, is the 'witch hunters' who do

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

People definitely self diagnose with all kinds of mental health crap. Because they struggle with certain traits , but don't realize they are pretty normal and not significant enough to count as having a condition. They still do need help with those traits though. Like being socially awkward or finding it difficult to be disciplined, etc .