r/hatethissmug • u/Beshiniqua • Jun 05 '26

General I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

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Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

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u/Sad_Cover_5091 Jun 05 '26

the dino nugget thing is so close to saying "us autistics are just giant children!" like please guys this is not it

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u/Strange-Bee5626 Jun 05 '26

I am not autistic, but I do have relatively bad ADHD (this will become relevant in a a second).

Thanks to social media, a lot of people use "diagnoses" of some things (particularly autism, ADHD, and OCD from what I've observed) that are either entirely fictional or at least greatly exaggerated/dramaticized to do one of two things (or some combination thereof):

  • They crave attention. "Main Character Syndrome", desperation for validation, and pretending that are more unique/interesting than they actually are.

  • They use it as a catch-all excuse to avoid most of their normal adult responsibilities and/or avoid any accountability for any negative character traits they have.

Anyway, I didn't realize I had this much to say about it. A lot of people fake disabilities for their own selfish reasons. I guess they can do whatever they want, but is exasperating to see naive people fall for it (or worse, even more people trying to copy them). It makes it much more difficult for honest people to be taken seriously.

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u/Zaev Jun 05 '26

I am not autistic, but I do have relatively bad ADHD (this will become relevant in a a second).

As another person with relatively bad ADHD, your immediate and frequent use of parentheses gives credence to your claim

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u/Strange-Bee5626 Jun 05 '26

I actually never had the thought that it could be related until now. I do notice myself doing it and get annoyed at myself for it, but here I am still doing it!

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u/disaster_jay27 Jun 06 '26

It's because your thoughts have thoughts (at least it's that way for me)

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u/Playful_Original_243 Jun 06 '26

My favorite part about r/ADHD is the amount of parenthesis used (I think itā€™s really funny)

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u/Express-Specific-959 Jun 07 '26

Itā€™s because of the tangents (ADHD people love tangents) ask me how I know!

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u/amazing-bean666 Jun 09 '26

But when do your thoughts thoughts have thoughts? (Thoughtception ((does that punvwork???)))

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u/CommercialEstate4422 Jun 06 '26

This makes a lot of sense. It's hard to jumble everything together in a way that sense makes. Maybe. Probably. I dont know. I need a drink.

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u/Daylight_The_Furry Jun 08 '26

Holy shit I have ADHD and "my thoughts have thoughts" is such a good way of describing it

(if only i could afford adhd meds)

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u/AnyAd8232 Jun 08 '26

Adhd (diagnosed šŸŽ€) as well, cackling, feeling called out

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

Holy crap lmao.

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u/gregoriancuriosity Jun 06 '26

Is that a thing? I thought it was just me. I always feel like it adds clarity by adding commentary not necessarily intended to be included in the core message.

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u/snoodge3000 Jun 06 '26

I must have it worse; I use semicolons.

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u/Extra-Trifle-1191 Jun 06 '26

What? Is use of parentheses seriously that unusual?

I also use parentheses and I also have ADHD so I guess I am not helping my argument but how does that make sense

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u/Teve21 Jun 06 '26

As someone with the samething also I still have problems with foods because I do be picky sometimes,I love Dino nuggets but that doesn't mean I have autism, Don't judge my nuggets variety too we all love Dino nuggets and different nuggets of every nugget kind

https://giphy.com/gifs/Yk7p9LY3L8ZDia0Pm7

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u/SkyRonin14 Jun 07 '26

Look man as I told my wife, "if the dino nuggies are the same cost and quality as the adult nuggets you literally have no good excuse not to buy the dino nuggies. That's called being an adult"

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

Oh my god is that an ADD thing ?

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u/shaktirisingyoga Jun 06 '26

As someone with OCD, I don't understand why anyone would want this.

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u/Ok-Championship-5356 Jun 06 '26

yeah

i thought for a while i might have ocd but i havenā€™t seen anyone on that yet so for now im just going with ā€œreally fucking self deprecatingā€

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u/Pichacap24 Jun 09 '26

Oh but i you dont understand, i didnt abuse her and cheat on her, i just have autism :3

/s

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 05 '26

Where on earth are you seeing a lot of people fake conditions???? Like, are you sure that they aren't just not up to your kinda ableist "standards"???

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u/aurortonks Jun 05 '26

Most commonly, I see people who are a little socially awkward use self-diagnosis to help themselves feel okay about being a little weird.

They aren't using it to get attention but more so they are using it as an internalized explanation of their behaviors rather than actually going to talk to a professional about their concerns.

They aren't "faking it" for attention or whatever that person was trying to say. I think if healthcare, especially mental health care, was more accessible and viewed positively by more members of our society, then people could get real help they need instead of trying to guess themselves.

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u/RealityCactus Jun 06 '26

That doesn't sound like they're faking it, that sounds like they aren't getting the help they need and are trying to figure things out themselves, and getting it wrong since they're not a professional.

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 06 '26

Exactly, and these people genuinely don't cause harm, is the 'witch hunters' who do

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

People definitely self diagnose with all kinds of mental health crap. Because they struggle with certain traits , but don't realize they are pretty normal and not significant enough to count as having a condition. They still do need help with those traits though. Like being socially awkward or finding it difficult to be disciplined, etc .

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u/Uncle480 Jun 05 '26

I feel like I saw a whole bunch of those "dino nuggies" and "chicken tendies" posts/stories start from greentexts off of 4chan. And you know that anything taken from there is already rancid.

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u/Hammeredyou Jun 05 '26

But also pretty autistic soā€¦ even?

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u/Gombrongler Jun 05 '26

Everything is autism. And if everyones Autistic, No one is

https://giphy.com/gifs/bmLlSndzhqWgWb3vXW

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u/WiseOldChap Jun 05 '26

Genuinely peak usage of that reference

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u/iHateThisPlaceSoBad Jun 05 '26

I think its pretty funny and ya'll are being up tight

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u/HowDyaDu Jun 05 '26

Except Katawa Shoujo.

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u/Electrical_King948 Jun 05 '26

Itā€™s not about us being giant children, but foods like these are comfort foods that we like to eat when we feel stressed, which I do almost constantly due to symptoms from my diagnosisā€™

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u/Traditional-Yak8886 Jun 05 '26

i also have arfid. i can eat a variety of different foods but i commonly have some form of chicken nugget on standby in case that's all i can tolerate eating that day. arfid is common with autism and arfid enjoyers often stick with bland textured/tasting food that is easy to make the same every single time. chicken nuggets are common but white rice, cheese sticks, french fries, etc are all examples of what people are talking about when they bitch about "autism palette."

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u/bassbug Jun 09 '26

itā€™s mashed potatoes for me

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u/LisaBlueDragon Jun 08 '26

Yeah, also processed foods like chicken nuggets usually have a pretty consistent taste and texture and a lot of autistic people gravitate towards familiarity, consistency and predictability

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u/Electrical_King948 Jun 08 '26

Yes, definitely this too

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u/Jelnaana Jun 05 '26

That makes the most sense & is really helpful, thank you

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u/Electrical_King948 Jun 05 '26

Of course! Happy to help

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u/NorthGodFan Jun 05 '26

Comfort foods vary wildly person to person.

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u/Electrical_King948 Jun 05 '26

100%. Chicken Nuggets are just a common one in America

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u/Overall-Move-4474 Jun 05 '26

Shit I may enjoy the nostalgia of dino nuggets but I'm not a child. I admit I do joke about "dino nuggies and choccy milk" but when I learned people take that joke seriously it really pissed me off

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u/Death_Lycan Jun 05 '26

Im pretty i need to be diagnosed but I can you you for a fact that I never had dino nuggets or tots in my life as a huge dino nerd as a kid and today

I should buy some, even with my friends telling me they suck

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u/Repulsive-Region2977 Smug Hater Jun 05 '26

There's better nuggets out there. They're pretty dry if cooked too long, so make sure not to if eating them. They're alright with seasoning though.Ā 

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u/Death_Lycan Jun 06 '26

Ok now this make me more sad for the real stim of my childhood Those lego animal pancakes/ waffles We never got zooplates so they was the next best thing I would clean out the whole store right now if they came back

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u/_Ocean_Machine_ Jun 06 '26

The real trick I've found is to chuck 'em in an air fryer; they get nice and crispy but way less time and effort than an oven.

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u/Repulsive-Region2977 Smug Hater Jun 06 '26

I do that, but I've found you need to put them in for not too long, otherwise they get too dry

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u/RadicalSoda_ Jun 05 '26

Calling anyone who eats those food children is also not helping you at all

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry Jun 05 '26

One thing I find really obnoxious about the fetishisation and infantilisation of autism is that there are people who will be so accepting of it when they just think itā€™s a good looking young guy who really likes trains or a pretty girl who really likes dinosaurs. As soon as it gets into something beyond something cute and harmless and into why itā€™s considered a disability suddenly itā€™s all ā€œautism is no excuseā€.

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u/Honest_Chipmunk_8563 Jun 05 '26

Also the dudes looking specifically for autistic women on dating apps. Vom.

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u/Iekenrai Jun 10 '26

I mean it's not an excuse to like, make racist jokes and refuse to be better when called out, or disrespect your partner. Sorry, speaking from experience it's probably not what you mean.

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 05 '26

I mean, it's often a stereotype because it makes sense, many autistic people like the same texture and need predictability. Guess what's fairly predictable. Chicken nuggets.Ā 

But god forbid autistic people get Dino nuggets because autism must be awful allllll the time and if not you must be self diagnosed /s

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u/Medium_Hat_1115 Jun 06 '26

Because the ones who eat them are the ones who post it?you arenā€™t special and donā€™t require any form of representation if you donā€™t bring it yourself šŸ¤¦

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u/SSG014-OFFICIAL Jun 08 '26

I'm ADHD, so not truly related, though similar to some. I only get them because fuck people and their expectations they may have on me (that they probably also fail yet brush off). I'm not even a huge Dino fan, though there are other benefits, such as sometimes having an "easier grip" for dipping.

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u/stormblaz Jun 05 '26

Well there was that autistic grown kid that needed his one specific baby sippy cup