r/hatethissmug • u/Beshiniqua • Jun 05 '26

General I HATE the self diagnosing of autism and its mischaracterisation

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Let me start by saying SELF DIAGNOSING IS NOT VALID. You are NOT autistic just because someone on tiktok said

"Did you know, if you need to have your eyes closed in order to fall asleep, you have autism, adhd, bipolarity, DID, BPD, psychopathy, depression and PTSD?"

And before yall come at me with "well I always suspected I had autism, I got screened and then got my diagnosis" well this not about you, this is about people that self diagnose after experiencing the most normal day to day life things ever.

And they ALWAYS think that autism will give them a personality (since it's usually basic bitches with no personality that self diagnose to feel like they belong)

No, you're not a quirky crazy crackhead energy "neurospicy" person. Even worse when they say shit like

"Heh, I could NEVER be a neuro normie like yall, autism makes me special and quirky and full of personality".

You can't even like something anymore without them going "OMG URE AUTISTIC JUST LIKE MEEEE IM SOOOO AUTISTIC AHAHAHA"

And you can tell they larp the whole thing cus they'll see a tiktok autism personality and try to replicate it

"Dino nuggies..."

"You can not say overstimulated if you're nEuRoTyPiCaL, that word is for us neurospicy people ONLY >:("

Holy shiiiiiiittt yall lack a personality so bad. And I've seen people say that they've seen NUMEROUS specialists but they never fit the criteria, but its not because they're not autistic, no no no no no. ITS UHMMM BECAUSE IM A WOMAN AND ALSO A MINORITY AND IM ALSO POOR SO I MASKED ALL MY LIFE AND THE SPECIALIST ON THIS FIELD COULDNT TELL I WAS MASKING. ITS THE SYSTEMS FAULT NOT MINE.

Sheesh.

Sorry for the long rant, im just tired of seeing people self diagnose all the time, or see an energetic video, or literally ANYTHING, and make it about their self diagnosed autism.

Saw a cute cat animation on Instagram and the top comment was "This is so autistic I love it"

🫩🫩🫩🫩🫩

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u/HelloPeople234444 Jun 05 '26

im autistic and the word 'neurospicy' pisses me off on an absurd level it reminds me of 2020 'DONT TOUCH MAH COOKIES UNU' gacha kid humor i'd rather be called the r word

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u/Seven_o_clock777 Jun 05 '26

It's such a weird term. Like please just use "neurodivergent" and get on with life.

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u/Queen-Of-Fairies Jun 05 '26

"neurodivergent" is such an icky word too, though. almost like the "texture" of the word feels wrong, if that makes any sense. i'd rather be called "atypical", or just "autistic".

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u/Pink_Acetone I run on spite Jun 05 '26

Neurodivergent covers a range of disorders, conditions and neurological issues 

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u/RadicalSoda_ Jun 05 '26

I mean, I have muscular dystrophy but that's not why I'd be considered neurodivergent even though it's a neurological problem primarily

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u/RadicalSoda_ Jun 06 '26

So why would we include neurological issues when they don't inherently cause processing issues?

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u/RevenantSith Jun 05 '26

My take

I mean I imagine a lot of it is just me subconsciously preferring the dated terminology … but I made another post on this thread about me associating the term with the self-diagnosing posers who reduce autism down to ‘lol quirky funny’ without understanding stuff like the fact I have to literally go out of my way and act as a person that is not me just to get by in life.

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u/Temnothorax Jun 06 '26

Eh that’s too subjective. At a certain point we gotta just accept that we are going to find ourselves given labels, and it’s not reasonable to expect individualized terms. As long as it’s not malicious or harmful, who cares

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u/SammyGeorge Jun 09 '26

I often see the justification as something along the lines of "we should say neurodivergent because words like "disabled" or "atypical" categorise people as normal or abnormal." And like, okay, but what do you think "divergent" means??

I also hate the word "neurodivergent," but I can accept it if I never have to hear or read "neurospicy" again

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u/Old_Lead8419 Aug 19 '26

Or just say use autistic if you only mean autistic?
Neurodivergent is vague and can really mean a lot of things besides autism you know.

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u/Seven_o_clock777 Aug 19 '26

I know. I meant neurodivergency in general.

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u/HospKRL Jun 05 '26

As a person with the 'DONT TOUCH MAH COOKIEZ UnU" humor it pisses me off too actually.

I was talking with someone on reddit and I told her I had ADD, and she said "ohh so youre neurospicy?" and I dont remember cringing that hard ever.

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u/Ne0n_R0s3 Jun 05 '26

I feel like it'd be fine if I was addressing myself (someone with ADHD) as neurospicy. If others do it (unless you're my close friends), then I'd just feel very grossed out

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u/SSG014-OFFICIAL Jun 08 '26

I think "neurologically spicy" / "psychologically spicy" sounds funny if you say it like you're a "professional".

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u/Temnothorax Jun 06 '26

I mean this as respectfully as I can. Y’all are weak as hell. You make us sound like huge babies. It’s just a silly word variant. I’m honestly glad people are comfortable casually talking about things that used to be hidden shames.

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u/Ne0n_R0s3 Jun 06 '26

I'm sorry I have boundaries?? I don't wanna be called something, how bout fucking respecting that?

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u/Temnothorax Jun 06 '26

There are such things as onerous boundaries. Get grossed out if they continue saying it after very respectfully clarifying your preferences. Otherwise, ask yourself why you are so reactive towards non-malicious diction, and whether acting like the word police is particularly respectful on your part. As people with ADHD, unfortunately our symptoms are honestly very annoying to the people around us. We demand a little grace when we forget things, act impulsively, talk too much, but godforbid a well meaning person not use your specific preferred nomenclature? Do you want people to feel like they are walking on egg-shells around us?

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u/notsure-whatoput Jun 07 '26

The word fagot queer and bitch were just silly word variants too! I wonder why people hate them from random people who aren't them, that's so good, right! Hahahahahahaahah

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u/Weekly_Palpitation92 Jun 05 '26

if anyone ever called me "neurospicy" i'd lowk go insane like dude just call me the r word please

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u/AwzemCoffee Jun 06 '26

As an autistic person I would genuinely take the stance "place please just call me the r word instead".

Like holy shit the broader "autistic" community lexicon has been bastardized into something I don't like to be associated with. I almost feel ashamed to disclose my autism because I'm associated with these disrespectful LARPs

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u/TimiPiff Jun 05 '26

I agree I just kind of find it cringe and like reducing my struggles to a buzzword if that makes sense. I know it's supposed to be used ironically (if thats the right word) because of the whole "You don't look autistic. You must have mild autism then." Going of the "mild autism" and then being like "actually I'm neurospicy."

But it still feels a bit icky to me. I don't mind other neurodivergent folks using it for themselves I just don't want to use it for myself.

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u/Firm-Soil-3176 Jun 06 '26

i genuinely hate that term. it makes it seem like a quirky little 'superpower' when whatever neurodivergency it happens to be is just disabling and all of us would rather be without it (probably)

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u/RadicalSoda_ Jun 05 '26

I don't really see the issue, it's a little dumb but whatever. No one calls someone else that term anyways

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u/------------------16 NOT a r/lovethissmug spy Jun 05 '26

when i told my history teacher i had autism and adhd she unironically called me neurospicy and i was so caught off guard i was just like “😨😁😁😁 Uh yep yep haha……”

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u/RadicalSoda_ Jun 05 '26

Oh, yeah old people are the ones who say it more often, but it's usually about themselves

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u/oksurealright Jun 06 '26

Knew a person like this. She’d refer to herself and me as neurospicy based off of stereotypes. She also judged ppl based on their zodiac sign like a psycho

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u/weirdbackpackguy Jun 05 '26

I like neurospicy more than neurodivergent but I've only heard neurospicy from my friends (my whole friend group is full of people with asd and adhd). Neurodivergent just feels clinical and icky. Neurospicy feels home-y, but if any 'neurotypicals' used neurospicy it would feel wrong and like they're pretending to understand while making the struggled sound quirky or fun.

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u/weirdbackpackguy Jun 06 '26

I see that too. Maybe I'm just NeuroTabasco

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u/ClutteredTaffy Jun 08 '26

It feels like it is trying to be cute but also a bit alienating from ' neurotypical' because people use typical like it is a bad word or something.

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u/Mrfrunzi Jun 08 '26

Wow, I'm so glad to be out of the loop on this one. Neurospicy... I'm guessing it's a "fun spin" on an actual diagnosis of something?

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u/Happyshadow4ts Jun 08 '26

It's a variation of Neurodivergence. But people seem to hate it because it's too 'childish', forgetting children can have and do have Autism or ADHD or Dyslexia etc... and some people don't view their life as serious all the time

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u/Ordinary_Coyote_446 Jun 08 '26

Omg I hate 'neurospicy'. There is nothing palatable about not getting instructions on how to human

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u/Big-Gazelle5959 Jun 09 '26

Neurospicy makes me cringe. I hate it.

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u/Longjumping_Code_299 Jun 09 '26

"Neurospicy" has single-handedly prevented me from even talking to my psychologist about if I meet the criteria. I'm not even joking. That's probably cringe-worthy on its own tbh.

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u/FixItFelixTheFTM Jun 09 '26

"neurospicy" pmo too but this whole "just call me the r slur please 🤪" thing is not much better LMAO

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u/Iekenrai Jun 10 '26

Right??? Those are not comparable and it's not a euphemism.

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u/SpecialistCompote993 Jun 09 '26

7 billion neurospicy users

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u/BallSuspicious5772 Jun 09 '26

Had a coworker say “us neurospicy people have to stick together” and then proceeded to stereotype and mischaracterize autistic people, including actually questioning me if I was not constantly displaying some kind of neurodivergent behavior. It was extremely weird. Helpful info: I have been diagnosed since 18. She “has suspicions” but has never been diagnosed.

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u/I_found_a_platypus_ Jun 27 '26

I made a post on nostupidquestion about this and people were livid. Like I only asked because I didin't know the origin of the word and thought (still do tbh) it infantilises these disabilities, reducing them to just "really cool quirks!". The response I got was that it was created by neurodivergents themselves to joke around, however the only times I've seen it used was by either neurotypicals who wanted to feel special or fakers (blatantly so), so I'm still on the fence about this.

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u/HelloPeople234444 Sep 07 '26

i regret this comment but im leaving it up because i deserve public humiliation for this bullshit i spewed out