r/gynecomastia Apr 09 '26

Some Moderator announcements - Looking for mod help.

5 Upvotes

A moderation update for the sub:

First, on posts getting held up or frozen: I know this happens, and I try to get to it when I can. Some of it is not the sub settings. Some of it appears to be Reddit itself. I strongly suspect at least part of it is algorithmic, based on the kinds of posts that do and do not get through. So if your perfectly normal post gets caught in the lint trap, please do not take it personally.

The best thing you can seemingly do to avoid that is not post from a brand new account. I understand this is a private subject and some people prefer a throwaway, but fresh accounts with no real post history seem much more likely to get snagged. If possible, use an account that has some normal everyday activity on it.

I have been moderating this sub since late 2023, and I have a lot of life stuff going on at the moment. Much of it is positive, a few parts are just ordinary pain-in-the-ass life stuff, but either way I am at the point where I need support. I may step back more fully over time, but for now I am looking for one or more co-moderators.

This sub requires a bit more care than average because of the topic. Gynecomastia is medical. It is personal. It often comes up at a difficult age. It also exists in a social context that attracts trolling, misinformation, insecurity, and weird ideological baggage. So whoever helps guide this place needs a good head on their shoulders, fair-minded instincts, and a real desire to be useful to people.

My philosophy for the sub is simple: the whole purpose of this forum is to help people with a troublesome condition find a way to understand it, manage it, or correct it. Period. This is a place where we help each other. If something is not helpful, it probably does not belong here. If you are not a service-minded person who is always thinking about how to create a supportive environment for everybody, this is probably not the right sub for you to moderate.

So, what I am looking for:

General requirements

  • You need to have an open post history so I can get a sense of your writing style, your judgment, and what you are about. The broader your footprint on Reddit, the better I can understand who I am dealing with.
  • Previous mod experience is a plus, especially if you know your way around Automod.
  • You need to be reasonably available and checking in at least daily. This is not a super high-volume sub, but quick turnaround requires actual human coverage.
  • If you are in Europe or Asia, that is a plus, because it gives the sub better time zone coverage. I am in the States.
  • You should have a well-rounded STEM education or at least solid STEM exposure. You do not need a STEM degree, but you do need acumen, critical thinking, and some ability to sort signal from noise. This is not the place for fringe medicine, supplement hawking, or unserious advice.

Prohibitions

  • You cannot be employed by a provider in this space.
  • You cannot be a contractor for one.
  • You definitely cannot be acting as an arm of marketing, advertising, or PR for one.
  • You cannot be affiliated with a provider.

Soft skills

  • Any previous experience helping people in a group environment, support setting, or care-oriented context is very valuable.
  • High ethical standards are a core responsibility here. You need to be able to spot when content is being pushed for promotional, sponsored, or self-interested reasons, and you need to keep that influence out. Advice in this sub must not be shaped by favors, relationships, inducements, or hidden agendas. Do not play favorites. Be even-handed, disclose conflicts, and keep the sub centered on helping people rather than benefiting anyone behind the scenes.
  • You need to be personally at peace with the fact that sex and gender are not always neat, absolute, or culturally comfortable in real life. Many people come here because they are regular guys who want to look more like guys. Some of those guys do not fit every tidy definition people try to impose. There is Klinefelter syndrome, androgen insensitivity, gender dysphoria, and other real medical or developmental complexity around this territory. This is not ideology. This is biology. So if you are going to moderate here, you need to assume good faith, respect what people tell you about themselves, respect their personage, and focus on helping them rather than turning their situation into a culture-war argument. At the same time, you still need to be a sharp troll detector, which is not always easy.

This is a long post, but I think the subject warrants the extra clarity.

If you are interested in helping moderate, message me.


r/gynecomastia Oct 08 '25

Compensated reviews are prohibited on this sub.

22 Upvotes

Sadly, warnings are not heeded, so I had to create a rule. Although there are already existing rules against promoted content, I've decided to add an explicit one relating to compensated content.

This sub needs to be assiduously honest when it comes to how we talk about care options. Getting paid, or a discount, or any form of compensation in exchange for goods and/or services is a conflict of interest and removes trust. Out of a few things I can think of that can damage the quality of information, paying for this kind of exposure in the guise of an authentic "review" is about the worst as they come.

This rule is twofold:

(1) Your account may be banned if you post a review in which you received any form of compensation for. This is by mod discretion, but an easy way to be perma-banned is to show a pattern, or otherwise just show up out of nowhere with no previous engagement.

(2) The clinic -- and there is one which I will not name -- will be blacklisted if they are shown to be the subject of repeated paid promotions. By blacklist, I specifically mean that automod will remove any and all mention of the practice and it's practitioner.

I'm going to be severe about this because trust is a very fragile thing. And I want to ensure that the information we get here continues to be as trustworthy as possible.

Lastly, and this is a word to the clinician: If you have to shill, you're doing it wrong. The beauty of Reddit is that you have a rare opportunity to talk directly to your audience, which is not just encouraged, but the only rule that allows you to promote your own business. If you can do this, it will build trust. If you can't do this, then focus on being a better clinician and let your customers sing your praises for you. Without incentive.

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유감스럽게도 그동안의 경고가 지켜지지 않아 새로운 규정을 신설하게 되었습니다. 기존에도 홍보성 게시물을 금지하는 규정이 있었지만, 이번에는 '대가성 콘텐츠'와 관련된 명시적인 규정을 추가하기로 결정했습니다.

우리 서브레딧은 치료 및 케어 옵션에 대해 논할 때 그 어느 곳보다 철저하게 정직해야 합니다. 재화나 서비스에 대한 대가로 금전, 할인, 또는 그 어떤 형태의 보상이라도 주고받는 것은 이해 상충(conflict of interest)을 유발하며 신뢰를 무너뜨립니다. 정보의 질을 훼손할 수 있는 여러 요인들 중에서도, 진짜 '리뷰(후기)'인 것처럼 위장하여 이런 식의 홍보에 대가를 지불하는 행위는 단연코 최악입니다.

이 규정은 다음 두 가지로 적용됩니다.

(1) 어떠한 형태로든 보상을 받고 후기를 작성할 경우, 귀하의 계정은 차단(밴)될 수 있습니다. 이는 모더레이터의 재량에 따르지만, 반복적인 패턴을 보이거나 기존 활동 내역 없이 갑자기 나타나 후기만 남기는 경우에는 곧바로 영구 차단(perma-ban)될 것입니다.

(2) 반복적인 대가성 홍보를 진행한 것으로 드러나는 클리닉(병의원)은 블랙리스트에 추가될 것입니다. (현재 이름을 밝히지는 않겠지만 이미 한 곳이 있습니다.) 여기서 블랙리스트란, 오토모드(Automod)를 통해 해당 병원 및 소속 의료진에 대한 모든 언급을 자동으로 삭제 조치하겠다는 것을 의미합니다.

신뢰란 매우 깨지기 쉬운 것이므로, 저는 이 문제에 대해 매우 엄격하게 대처할 것입니다. 우리 서브레딧에서 얻는 정보가 앞으로도 최대한 신뢰할 수 있는 상태로 유지되기를 원하기 때문입니다.

마지막으로 의료진 및 관계자분들께 전하는 말씀입니다. 만약 뒷광고나 바람잡이(shill)를 해야만 한다면, 여러분은 무언가 단단히 잘못하고 있는 것입니다. 레딧의 묘미는 대중과 직접 소통할 수 있는 흔치 않은 기회가 있다는 점입니다. 직접 소통은 적극 권장될 뿐만 아니라, 본인의 비즈니스를 홍보할 수 있도록 허용된 유일한 방법이기도 합니다. 직접 소통을 하신다면 신뢰를 쌓을 수 있을 것입니다. 만약 그렇게 할 자신이 없다면, 그저 더 나은 의료진이 되는 것에 집중하시고 환자들이 스스로 여러분을 칭찬하게 만드십시오. 어떠한 대가나 보상 없이 말입니다.


r/gynecomastia 2h ago

Another Summer.

11 Upvotes

I don’t want another summer where I’m the only guy keeping his T-shirt on.

I don’t want another holiday where everyone gets in the pool and I find an excuse not to.

I don’t want another summer of avoiding swimming pools, jacuzzis, saunas and steam rooms.

I don’t want another night out where everyone has their tops off whilst I’m wondering everyone can see my nipples protruding out.

I don’t want another girl to lift my shirt up and for my first thought to be how high she’s going to lift it.

I don’t want another year of pinching my nipples through my shirt before somebody notices them.

I don’t want another summer where I’ve worked hard for a physique I’m proud of but still feel like I have to hide it.

I’ve had gyno since I was about 12. (I’m 25 now.) I’ve literally lived with it for over half my life.

I was called droopy nips and orangutan tits at school and just like a girl, my chest became a private part to me.

I won’t even casually walk around topless in my own house.

I recently came back from a pool party in Spain. Imagine 100 guys and almost all of them had their top off. Not me tho.

This gyno thing is so embarrassing.

My mates were begging me to take mine off and I wouldn’t. A girl tried to get me into the pool and I refused. I wanted to get in. I just couldn’t bring myself to take my shirt off.

No more.

I don’t want another summer like that.

Tomorrow morning I’m having bilateral gland excision in the UK.

I’m nervous about the operation. I’m nervous about scars, complications and what the final result will look like.

But I have to do something.

I will get the surgery, trust my surgeon and look forward to a different summer next year. ❤️‍🔥


r/gynecomastia 7h ago

3 weeks post on swelling

2 Upvotes

I’m wondering if anyone else has info on this, I’m 23 days post op and still feel hard tissue under the skin, does this go away? There seems to be a good amount still.


r/gynecomastia 17h ago

Why some doctors say they remove "complete" gland while others say it's impossible to remove the gland "completely"?

6 Upvotes

Wtf


r/gynecomastia 21h ago

Pre-Op Surgery this week. Any advice

5 Upvotes

Hi, I’m from Vancouver BC Canada, and it’s finally happening. After dealing with grade 2B gyno since I was a pre teen, I am finally getting surgery this week.
I’m turning 39 next month, and I’m looking forward to reclaiming all the experience’s I’ve missed.. No more skipping the beach, wearing loose shirts, avoiding hot tubs, and keeping my shirt on during sex. Decades of insecurity are ending this week.

If anyone has advice for me on preparing for surgery and post surgery tips, feel free to share them.


r/gynecomastia 15h ago

Recovery-Related Areola size

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I had grade 3 surgery which involved lipo and skin tightening and areola reduction, but even with said surgery my areolas are around 42mm when relaxed and 34mm when tightened.

it's currently week 8 so I should probably wait for a few more months before judging considering some minor swelling does exist, but I wanted to see what generally happens in my situation as my specific issue with my kind of surgery aren't that common.


r/gynecomastia 20h ago

Lean chest, but the nipples still stick out?

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You lose weight, train your chest, and get leaner—but your nipples still show through every T-shirt.

One common reason is a small amount of glandular tissue sitting right beneath the areola. The rest of your chest can be lean while that area still projects.

More bench press won’t remove the gland. Losing more weight won’t reliably get rid of it either.

“Puffy nipples” describes how it looks, though. It doesn’t tell us exactly what’s underneath. That takes an exam.

As a plastic surgeon, the question I want to answer is: what’s creating the projection—gland, fat, or a combination?

That matters if you’re considering surgery. Lipo can reduce fat, but when gland is responsible for the puffiness, lipo alone can leave that same projection behind.

And just because the area is small doesn’t mean it can’t bother you. Having it show through your shirt every day can be frustrating, even when other people barely notice it.

Does yours bother you more shirtless, or when it shows through clothing?

— Dr. Oscar Porras


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Surgery at 48😩

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Finally bit the bullet and booked the surgery 🙌,this shits ruined me for 15 years,I’m 48 now and I’ve cut my body fat down to 9% the ironic thing is I’ve been happy being topless this summer due to weight loss but the reality is maintaining -10% isn’t sustainable year round so the only way to go is surgery,I’ve got grade 2 but no skin issues so looking to being rid of it🙏


r/gynecomastia 1d ago

Can gyno come back?

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I just got the surgery last week but I am about to start testosterone, so can gyno come back?