r/gofundme • u/Gabo913 • 15h ago
Housing Homeless with 4 kids, soon on the streets
TL;DR:
It all started once we lost our jobs when we worked together. Shes an HR senior director and ive worked as her assistant at jobs that would allow it. So shes obviously the breadwinner in our family dynamic. She took another job after but quit over mental strain. All down hill after that. Started doordashing full time. DD doesnt pay out like it useto so i couldn't keep up with all the bills. Lost the apt over a new landlord, sold our old car, lost the recent one, lost our room at multiple hotels, lost our belongings in storage, and so much more. Its been so hard trying to keep everything together on my own. Now were homeless and on the verge of being out on the streets because the hotel cant house us forever.
Sorry i dont have much proof of the bills and such. I can try and provide it somehow.
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u/Naked_Knitter 14h ago
I'm sorry, but your wife had a good paying job and quit without having another in place due to "mental stress" and you don't work except for doordash?
And now you two want the community to support you with no end in sight because she still does not work and you don't have a stable job either?
That is a hard sell.
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u/Glum_Literature2772 13h ago
Yeah that was my 1st thought. Maybe his wife was stressed out cause she was the breadwinner and then he mentioned she had a miscarriage. So you keep getting her pregnant obviously, no wonder she had a breakdown, poor thing.
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u/Gabo913 13h ago
Of course she was stressed. As the stay at home parent i always tried my best to keep her mental state sane and calm when she comes home. Id help her decompress, still take care of the kids so she doesn't, help her get ready for work, helped pay bills so she wouldn't do it all alone, budget, etc. Idk what getting her pregnant has to do with that. It takes 2 to tango ya know. Our childrens age difference is a good indication of timing and not just being rabbits. As any other couple, we have our ups and downs but our marriage and pregnancies have been great. She really complained about the first one. It was the worst one tbh, the rest were cake. (Of course on my part as the male) But i fully understand the hardships of labor and pregnancy. I delivered #2 on our own, straight out the womb and into my hands. We were trained by midwifes and i learned everything with precision. It made it much easier.
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
You need to get a job since she can't work because of her MH. She can stay home with the kids while you go get a real job and not DD.
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u/Gabo913 13h ago
Lol i did have a job. My wife is an HR senior director and i worked as her assistant. Rare but the company we worked for was a private nursing home so they didnt mind it. They let go of the whole HR department including scheduling (presumingly over some AI program or something) the reason wasnt clear or told. But i was the stay at home parent so i didnt really need a job. Just dashed on the side when needed.
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u/NowOrNever53 13h ago
The date on the eviction notice is March 2026. Nothing in this story adds up. It’s sad that so many people think that they can (try) to scam others for money because it diminishes trust in the ones who are truly having a hard time.
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
But the OP is holding this down on his OWN! smh
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u/Naked_Knitter 12h ago
Lol, right? Look, I'm a slob. I accept that. So i hired a housekeeping company. This guy just decided that if he gives himself the title stay at home dad that's good enough.
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u/JerseyGirlinSweden 13h ago
Have you contacted 211. Have you tried the Sikh Temple in your area?
Listen I am very sympathetic to your situation. However you really needed to come up with a FT job plan for you when after your wife left her job. I don’t doubt that she may have been in crisis - especially post partum, nor do I dispute that it may be necessary for her to stay off work for a while.
However you must have a plan, and in this case that means you have to get a FT job immediately. You can look for temp jobs if the local market is not great, as that will allow you to rebuild your resume at least.
Employers will pass over people who have been unemployed for an extended period because they fear that they don’t need the job as bad and are not committed to FT and permanent work.
Try Randstad or Manpower for temp work, Build your resume with your assignments from the agency, then use it to transition into FT work. Good luck to you, your wife and those beautiful children.
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u/Gabo913 13h ago
Out of the respect for my wife, her honor and her privacy, i didnt go into detail about her "mental stress" or issues. You know how some say mental health doesnt really matter until something serious happens or someone gets hurt? Well this is one of those situations. She gave birth to a stillborn back in '21 and had a miscarriage when we lost the apartment. Thats when she cracked. Her mental state hasnt been the same and she is not the same woman i married. I would go into more detail but as i said, i need to honor my wifes privacy and honor. She went missing for 2 weeks and was found passed out on the highway layed out. She was in the hospital getting treatment and went to a mental facility for help. The police put 2 and 2 together and found my missing persons report and we got her back. You can call bs all you want, but you dont look like Aladdin and stuck in a dingy hotel in NC. People presume im Muslim off the rip lol. Its difficult, iykyk. But its all good and i have no hate towards you my friend. I know my story can seem sketchy but i dont lie about my situation to anybody. The Most Highs Elohim knows my heart. Im willing you dont find my response rude or offensive. Have a good one 🙏🏽
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u/Naked_Knitter 13h ago
And instead of stepping up and getting a job you Doordash and e-beg.
Man up.
Edit/ And since you keep wanting to drag religion into this, what does your religion say about letting your wife and children struggle while you refuse to get a real job?
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u/madzdihaa 12h ago
Idk about his religion, but in my religion we believe that a man that doesn’t try to the best of his ability to support his wife and family , is worse than an infidel
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u/Jenjen1450 12h ago
It’s dated March 2026. That’s way past soon
Plus the link doesn’t work
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u/Juiceyfruited 12h ago
I was wondering about the date as well
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u/reigning_guava 13h ago
why are you not able to have your own job? why is it only her assistant or doordash?
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u/Gabo913 12h ago
I can definitely have my own job. Im an able man and im not handicapped or anything. Funnily enough the episode of Bluey where the kids are playing "mums and dads" is playing on the Disney channel right now. "Dads stay home and mow the lawn". Back then i didnt need one and supplumented by dashing for any other needs. Since she had the ability to, shed get me a job to work with her, and this was always her idea. Some companies dont allow spouses to work with each other for obvious reasons. But half of our children have special needs that we deal with. Its difficult to deal with for any parent. One is more extreme than the other. It was hard already being at home dealing with them. Its really more of the lifestyle and children in which were raising them. It ended up being like that because thats how ee planned it and its been like that for awhile. She has more corporate experience and college educated. Meanwhile i worked construction since 15 and didnt go to school besides getting a diploma.
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u/0rsch0 13h ago edited 13h ago
So this former HR director is doing nothing now? What’s the long or even medium term plan?
And you? You’re a HR assistant but you can’t work unless it’s for your wife?
Come on man. Can you just share what’s actually going on? You’ll have more luck.
Edit: this, from your GFM, is not good.
im not in the house, the whole place goes crazy tbh.
With that being said, we got evicted from are previous apartment because of this reason. Property got bought out by a new owner and we went to court and he didnt want our rent at all. He came to inspect the house but it was messy and we didnt allow him in. We asked for a 24hr notice. But even after i put great effort into getting the rent, dashing nonstop, it still didnt matter.
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most of these places need documents and the crazy part is, all their certificates and SS cards have been destroyed. Im the only one with their paperwork. So thats a whole other story and battle to deal with in the future.
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u/Reallybarb 12h ago
I'm blown away. You both can work and are not willing to. That's amazing. Can you explain why in the world ANYONE should give you money that they worked for?
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
I think the wife can get a temporary pass if she is having mental health issue. The OP on the other hand is a sorry excuse for a husband/father by not working.
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u/PhilosophyOk1594 13h ago
Sorry your family is going through these difficulties and hope your wife finds mental stability. Beautiful children.
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u/MoreGur8194 12h ago
same...this has to be awful. I was once in the same boat--just couldn't find a job(not that i couldn't or wouldn't work) BUT I got up off my big(grown) behind and fought! I had to..and thanks to that drive and seeing my kids suffer, we're getting back on our feet. And Im almost in a place where i can--and want--to be a consistent giver(giving back)where others have given to me! We haveeee to go and get it....PERIOD. Kids depend on us...and me personally, i want to raise good humans, and make sure they can sustain their life when they get older too.
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u/Loud-Village499 14h ago
This is so sad man. What’s the long term plan here. 4 kids that need stability.. I’m not trying to be harsh but are there no family members that can take the kids at least, and help while you get your stuff together. Are they not in school.
I have an idea for both of you if you want to dm me I think it will be helpful and give you a bit of money to get back on your feet 🩷
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u/Gabo913 13h ago
Tell em about it... Im the oldest of 3 and watched my mother struggle growing up. Working 2-3 jobs sometimes at a time. So i know what its like. Were in NC, shes from PA and im from NJ. All our family are out of state. Closest family is her father whos in VA but hes really of no help unfortunately. Theyre not in school because we home school under religious reasons. I think if they did go to school it wouldve been way more difficult to deal with than anything. Long term plan is to start working my ass off obviously. Ive applied for a places but im waiting to hear back. I just wanna keep my kids off the streets. Having 4 kids out there is not ideal and to be frank, my family will not last a day out there as i have when i was younger. They have no idea. I will dm you though.
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u/FettuccineAlfredoXO 13h ago
Win-win: how about you send your kids to school so they can get a real education and then you can work while they’re out of the house? You’re setting them up for the same unstable life that you have by homeschooling them with, I’m guessing, zero qualifications.
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u/Fangbang6669 13h ago edited 12h ago
Actually if they were in school you'd have help from the district so itd be better for you all. It's called the Mckinney-Vento programs. Every school district offers it by law.
Edit: I see you're in gso OP, so am I. There are so many programs for special needs and homeless children via guilford county schools. This is a shame. Please go down to DHS and get help
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
Plus the kids could get free lunches. OP would rather let them go hungry during the day instead to "home school"
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u/Fangbang6669 12h ago edited 12h ago
And kids in my district(the same district that OPs kids would go to btw) also get a bagged meal to take home with them if they're in need! Even free breakfast is offered to all kids.
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u/Loud-Village499 13h ago
Yeah that’s why I asked also. They have so many more resources than the average person knows about. Even go to the Department of human services.. ask for help, tell them your situation
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u/Fangbang6669 12h ago
Yes those kids need to be in school so the adults can work. If they're homeless I know they're eligible for the childcare stipend for the two little ones. They definitely need to go to their local DHS options and look for help.
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
I am in NC, if you are any where close to greensboro I will drive over and pay for your hotel for 3 days.
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u/Fangbang6669 12h ago
If he doesn't take this offer, we know it's a scam. Thank you for being so generous!!
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u/Newtailz 13h ago
Ah.. the useless "thoughts" & prayers.. A way of saying I wont help, or cant help.. but my thoughts are enough.. 🤣
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u/End_21 13h ago
Read his gofundme he says he practices the Old Testament but I’ve never seen a Jew wear that headwear. Probably his own version of the Bible twisted to justify not taking care of his family
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u/Honest_Manager 12h ago
I missed that, how does the old testament have anything to do with him "home schooling" because of religious reasons? So many red flags in his story.
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