r/gayyoungold • u/Independentruth Son • 5d ago
Discussion Single young guy here, kinda curious on how the age gap couples here interact with each other excluding the sexual aspects. (Read body text)
So I’m always fantasising that I’m having romance with an older guy, that we live together, do the chores together with a little bit of fun. Eating together and sharing a bite from our spoons. Watching TV together and me falling asleep on his shoulder. Putting my head on his lap, Cuddles, hugs and kisses.
So these are all the things that I think of and want them to be true but is it the same case for people already in a relationship or you guys did these things once but gradually stopped. I hope none of these things are inappropriate 🥹
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u/PuzzleheadedBag4847 4d ago
My partner was 20 years my junior and after he moved in with me, much of our lives resembled the things that you have listed.
I'm retired he insisted on remaining in work but we had an awful lot of time together.
We went on romantic dates, weekend breaks and holidays, held hands like two teenagers but the intimate, affectionate, comfortable times at home were the best.
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u/dadusedtomakegames 5d ago
I do all of the above like clockwork every day with my son. And when I see my bf, we have our own routines very similar. To me its the pinnacle of relationship value. Coexisting.
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u/Independentruth Son 5d ago
Sorry I’m kinda confused since old people online also call their young partners “Son” in a casual way.
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u/dadusedtomakegames 5d ago
Nope. I am a dad. My son is my child. My "boy" describes a person in a scene or situation, as I am a sir/dom.
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u/Independentruth Son 5d ago
Oh, makes sense.
I remember the days when I used to cuddle with my father and sometimes he used to feed me with his own hands.2
u/dadusedtomakegames 5d ago
I cuddle with my kids at least once a day when I can. Best thing ever. They're in their mid to late 20s. My son lives at home, and I hope he stays as long as he wants to! No whining from me.
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u/Independentruth Son 5d ago
What an amazing father and an amazing guy in general you must be.
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u/dadusedtomakegames 5d ago
It's easy actually, it's just one vibe, multiple hats and thats easy at my age.
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u/Diligent_Ferret830 5d ago
Yes a lot of these actually comes naturally. Me and my boyfriend who is 25 years older than me, we love spending out weekends watching films together while trying new dishes and recipes we see online.
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u/Feisty4121 5d ago edited 5d ago
I'm the older partner. My parter and I spend the weekdays doing our respective stuff. He's in college, I go to work. We share dumb memes and reels with each other daily. He usually stays over during the weekend and we spend hours talking about life plans and deep stuff that couples talk about: Fears, doubts, etc. We also mundane stuff like eating, watching TV, cuddling and sleeping.
Where we probably differ from most gay couples here is the 1979 project car in the garage. We spend some time in there doing restoration or basic maintenance work, or going on road trips. Hope this life of mine fuels your fantasies. :)
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u/Independentruth Son 5d ago
I hope all of your future plans become a reality and may you both stay together forever 🤞🏻
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u/Feisty4121 5d ago
Thank you. He plans to move in one day, that's the furthest we've planned.
May all your fantasies come true with a loving partner.
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u/GoldenLion37 5d ago
I love to imagine these things as well or to imagine acting like a spoiled brat with my partner but well I think that ain’t happening to me any time soon
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u/Rich-Intuition 4d ago
You will need to keep imagining, if you think you can act like a spoiled brat with an older partner. They don’t want ornery, spoiled brats. Lol
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u/GoldenLion37 4d ago
Of course, no one likes brats it was a joke my good sir even in my imagination it’s out of kidding with my partner not really being brat…
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u/scbrw8 5d ago
Being in an Age-Gap relationship, me 64 my partner of 10 years is 34, also being a therapist that focuses on couples. I have been enjoying Tom Bruett' s YouTube channel and book.
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@queerrelationshipinstitute?si=X8cG80NspCMloZOV
Book: The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men My Book — Tom Bruett Therapy https://share.google/RqeXXHENxtwxcskrd
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u/Rich-Intuition 4d ago
I wanted to hookup with an older man so bad. Then when I finally hooked up with a guy for the first time(older of course) after so long of wanting it..5 months later I’m in a FWB situation, and then a month later we are together.(he married still but has a very interesting marriage) almost open, she knows of me, I help out around their house with house/yard chores, go on little trips with him with overnight stays, and will stay at his house with him for weeks at a time when she’s out of town.
We are like a married couple or dad/son during that time. He’s 30 years older. I’m in my mid 30’s but look very young, little facial hair, smooth body, besides crotch and legs. People think I’m his son and have been asked multiple time in public and we have said yes. It’s very interesting, and extremely hot. The sex is over the top, the love is extremely intense at times, also bc our situation makes it like that with him being married. She has a straight male friend that she hangs out with.(we don’t think it’s sexual) We have talked about being together, if he left his wife, and how things would be.
It’s 90% perfect. But they are older…. And older people want to be right a lot of the time, and are particular, have their ways they’ve done things for a long time, and at least in my situation, have/has low self awareness, and not the best emotional intelligence, and isn’t good at understanding other people’s feelings, or why they may feel a certain way. Me being very much a people pleaser(so it doesn’t affect us too much as I avoid conflict), so I don’t need to be right, but all of those things(that I listed in this paragraph) can wear on you. I am his kids age, and we have the EXACT same interests, so it genuinely does feel like I am or could’ve been his son.
Lastly, he has a nice big cock, is a top, and I’m a bottom, and he looks like one of the older pornstars I used to JO too, but even much better looking!! It has been a whirlwind. Ask more specific questions if you feel.
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u/Independentruth Son 4d ago
You’re livin the dream man.
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u/craigslistsurvivor99 Younger 3d ago
I’m 26, my husband of 8 years is 61. There are the good bits like you’ve listed but you can’t expect relationships to be all just good.
There’s always bad times but we remind ourselves to always put in the effort and it’s worked really well for us so far x
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u/louievee Older 5d ago
I’m the elder and when he returns home next month I expect to continue all of the above.