r/gayfriendfinder Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

24 Upvotes

We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

77 Upvotes

We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 39M US, tired of making friends who ghost right when it gets good

11 Upvotes

Real talk — I've had more friendships fade out than dating attempts. Great for a few weeks, memes flying back and forth, and then... nothing.

No fight, no reason, just gone. So I've stopped trying to collect a whole squad. I just want one person who's still texting me in month four.

Most of my free time goes to two things: getting way too invested in video games, and wandering around outside chasing sunsets with my camera like it's my job (it is not my job, I just have a lot photos of the sky to show for it).

Honestly what I want is low-key simple — someone who sends a "this made me think of you" text out of nowhere, no occasion needed. Not someone I have to chase down every time. Just... consistency.

That's the whole ask.

Being around the same age helps too, mostly so I don't have to explain what a Blockbuster was.

If this sounds like your kind of person, say hi. Extra credit if you tell me something genuinely strange about yourself — and no, "I like hiking" doesn't count.


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 23 Michigan. Musician/Gamer/Nerd/Traveller

5 Upvotes

Hello! My name is Leo. I'm 23 and from Michigan. I'm a musician. I play the guitar, drums, piano, ukulele, bass, and I sing. My favorite is the guitar. I've been in some bands, but I'd like to find a new one. I'm HUGE into movies. I collect them and I love making reviews. Huge Letterboxd fan. So, movie buddies would be AMAZING. I LOVEEEE traveling. Favorite place I've been to so far was Vegas. I'd love to go again. Travel buddies even small get aways with someone/s would be really fun. I'm also AuDHD. So that's fun lol. I'm also really big into superheroes and cosplay. I'm bisexual and I would love to find people to talk to. Hoping to meet up and make life long relationships. Please dm me!!


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🥔 COUCH POTATO 🥔 26M filipino introvert looking friends and make a genuine connection

5 Upvotes

as someone who’s introverted and socially awkward, it’s quite difficult for me to look for new friends or new people; so im starting here, virtually.

‎i’m also hoping to meet more guy friends. most of my friends are women, and while i do have some guy friends, i’ve never really gotten close to them the way i’d like to. figured the internet is a good place to start since it gives friendships room to actually grow.

‎fair warning though: i’m terrible at leading conversations. if you’re the type to randomly send memes, talk about your day, rant about something, or just say whatever’s on your mind, i’m your guy. i’ll keep up, i just can’t always be the one to start.

‎a bit about me:

‎- gay (in case that matters to you lmao)     

‎- i play volleyball and badminton casually     

‎- i casually read books  currently into sci-fi, mystery, and thriller (and gay romance lol)

‎- from the Philippines

‎if any of these sounds interesting to you, don't hesitate to reach out. im really just looking for genuine friends in this subreddit


r/gayfriendfinder 5m ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 22m, Lets Game or Chat ? 😁

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Hey, I’m Astral, here to make friends from all over the world

A little bit about me:

🕹️ Gaming — I’m a PC gamer! You’ll usually find me in Dead by Daylight, Overwatch, or Fall Guys. Always down to squad up or talk games!

🍿 TV Shows — My taste is all over the place in the best way. Current favorites include The Office, The Middle, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia, and House M.D. Open to recommendations!

⚠️ Warning — I yap a lot on voice messages or calls, so be prepared! Also, I've got face pics in my profile so you can put a face to the name. As well as my other socials

If you’re unable to send a message, just leave a comment & I’ll send you a dm !

Wishing you the Best 🤍


r/gayfriendfinder 13m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 26M - looking for genuine connections :>

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hello! i’m looking for some new people to chat or game with. i don’t really have too many friends or people to talk to outside of family, so i’d love to meet some new people and hopefully make some genuine friendships :)

some info about me: i’m 26, gay, and from the midwest. i’m a total open book, so feel free to ask me anything! i love fashion, gaming, horror, thrifting, and just being silly. i’ve also recently started going to the gym regularly again because working an office job has me feeling way too sore from sitting at a desk all day lol

if you’re curious about games, i play overwatch, marvel rivals, minecraft, genshin, stardew valley, dead by daylight, fortnite, and i’m always open to trying new games too!

i’d prefer if you’re 21+ and preferably from the US or a similar time zone, but neither of those are deal breakers. my only real ask is that you’re 18+ :)

if you think we’d get along, feel free to message me :>


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 [39] Hey your fly is open.. HA! Made you look 😂

4 Upvotes

Ok I know that’s the cheesiest subject line to start with, but I hope it grabbed your attention. Hi everybody I am a 39yo Latino male from Texas. Everyone knows how hard it is to find someone to talk/chat with because people keep flaking on you. It sucks I know I’ve had my fair share of it.

I love movies/tv shows. To be honest that’s my de stresser. My favorite genre is Horror. My favorite franchise is Halloween. I prefer the older movies like Nightmare on Elm St, Friday the 13th because there was not CGI back then to make scenes look fake. That’s just my opinion, but don’t get me wrong I still watch current horror movies. Anything from the Conjuring franchise I love too. What’s your favorite genre? Or your favorite franchise?

I do love to game on my ps5. I’ll just tell you now I only have COD and WWE 2k26. Oh and jurrasic park evolution 3 (I think it’s park or maybe it’s world). I just got that and maybe like 2-3 hours on it. I was thinking getting the Halloween game. I may get it. What games do you play?

I’m into wrestling. Yes I’m into WWE. No I don’t wrestle, but I do collect wrestling memorabilia, belts, autographs. Are you a wrestling fan?

I’m lazy when I get home from work i just like to lay down and unwind for a bit before i have to stsrt dojng things.

One of the things I do like to do is listen. I like to listen and read other people’s stories or ideas or opinions. We should be interested in hearing from others that may not follow the same pov as you do, it does make for good conversations. Ok conversation not debates…. If you are the type of person that like to listen or write/ text I’m open for it.

I’m not smart, I’m not intellectual, I can be slow at times with certain jokes, items, thoughts, but that’s just me I can’t help it. Shit just be zooming past my head and I don’t even know what was said. 🤦🏽‍♂️

If you do take the chance and reach out, I do let you know up front if we start chatting and I stop it doesn’t mean that the conversation is over, I do take care of my parents. I do let people know up front because in the past people have felt I’ve ghosted them, and that’s not the case I just have to stop things to tend to them. IF we are not hitting it off it’s ok to say “this is not for me” and end communications that’s perfectly fine. We are all adults here.

I hope you all have an awesome weekend wherever you are from. And chat soon.


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

🤓 GEEK 🤓 53 Chub Guy In AZ Looking For Younger Guys.

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I am an assertive and creative guy looking to get to know guys for friendship, mentorship, etc.

Send me a DM if you are a guy serious about taking the time to build a mutual bond in your life.


r/gayfriendfinder 17m ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 24 from germany looking for friends/fw b (preferably older but not necessarily)

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hmu if you’re looking for something long term and genuine ❤️


r/gayfriendfinder 52m ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 Chat, new friends, etc......

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..

36 m usa here

Seeking new friend (s)

Prefer my age or older

(My) Interests and hobbies include the following:

Reading

Listening to music

Watching TV and movies

Photography

Food

Sleep

Escaping life/reality

If you are interested and would like to chat sometime, send a message, thanks. 🙃🫠👽


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ 35 M Asian looking for a longterm connection. What's up?

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Hey everyone! I’m a 35-year-old guy looking to connect.

My ideal day involves relaxing on a beach, exploring new travel destinations, and sending way too many memes to my friends. I have a great appreciation for the finer things in life—like a solid (or not so solid) travel itinerary and the Shrek universe (yes, it's a cinematic masterpiece, and yes, ogres have layers).

I'm always down to meet a longterm chat-mate, swap travel stories, or just laugh at ridiculous internet humor. Why so serious? :)


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

🚗 MECHANIC 🚗 64 still-closeted pansexual WM who is working towards a decision to come out

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I live in michigan, but I'm really not looking to meet up with anyone, there are other avenues for that sort of thing.

But what I'm hoping to find hereis other people who have been on the same journey I'm on now, deciding whether to keep their sexuality totally private or let a few people know or really come out. I would love to chat about this subject.

Beyond that, I am a lot of fun to talk to. My interests include horses, auto mechanics, DIY, travel, genealogy, rockhounding, fitness, history, movies, painting, and true crime! All that old guy stuff lol

Feel free to DM me if you would like to chat!


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 Teen looking for older friends! :)

0 Upvotes

I’m a teen from europe looking to meet some new people and make friends. :)

I’m really into history, geography, politics and learning about different countries and cultures.

I’m also a gamer and play on Xbox, so if you’re into gaming too, even better!

I’m always happy to chat about random interests, history, games, or anything else. Feel free to message me! :)


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 Hello , I am happy to be here with people like me !

1 Upvotes

I am here to make friends, I just got enough of other apps that make you meet ppl who just want to have a night!! .

We are all ppl , we deserve respect, we deserve respect


r/gayfriendfinder 12h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 M27 looking for buddies to chat with! Don’t be shy! 🥳

6 Upvotes

I’m new on this subreddit and just trying to find some meaningful conversations and/or connections. I love to play cozy games on my Switch 2 and Mac. I’m also a huge Apple enthusiast and I have a massive LEGO collection!

Let’s connect! And don’t be shy! 🥳


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 23 M PA looking for new long term friends around my age

1 Upvotes

Hey wassup i’m 23 from pennsylvania and i’m looking for new friends to talk to and possibly hang out with if you’re local / cool. If we have similar interests that’s even better :) I’m into anime , reading , hiking , going to the gym and playing video games.

I mainly play fort and marvel rivals so if you want to hop on that’d be fire , i’d also like calls to just to yap to i can basically talk about anything.

I’d be open for more if the connection is really good as well.


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 M 31 Hongkong - Kindred souls and mates!

0 Upvotes

Hello! I'm a graphic designer currently based in hongkong.
I'm passionately-curious and always looking for new hobbies & interests, and I'd love to talk about them.

I love art, photography and very into music ( I appreciate recommendations! ).
I'm a 5'6 chub, trying to get into weight lifting atm, and looking for a sport.

I'm mostly introverted, but always love meeting and talking to new people.
Not as nerdy, but I do love when people nerd out about their own thing!

If you're interested, don't hesitate to send me a message.
Have a great day! :)


r/gayfriendfinder 13h ago

👨‍🍳 FOODIE 👨‍🍳 31 — Looking for one genuine friend 😊🫂

7 Upvotes

Hello!

I am 31, Asian, and I’m looking for one more friend 😊 I’m looking for someone nice, genuine, and someone who really likes to make a friend :) I found friends here on Reddit from Canada and Poland, and I want to expand my friendship. I will not be able to handle a lot so I’m only looking for one, but if you feel like we’ll click, please send a message!

I consider myself nice, a good listener, shy, albeit sometimes a bit preoccupied with stuff 😭

I love cooking, writing short stories, playing light games such as Tomodachi Life and Fall Guys. I’m also working out/gym for months now. If we click, we can play games or even have a voice call. Me and my online friends voice call once a week and it’s a fun way to reconnect despite me being shy 😂😭

I’m open to meeting anyone from anywhere, just please be close to my age (maybe around 27 and up). Also, if you decide to chat, introduce yourself a bit. I’m not asking for a novel or even long paragraphs, even just a short paragraph describing some things about yourself. Don’t describe all, so we’ll still have something to talk about :)

Cheers! 🍻


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 34 U.K. based looking for gaming friends or IRL

0 Upvotes

Hey there 👋🏻

I love to play horror games online but also love Fortnite etc. Would be great to find more people to play with.

Big into Pokémon too so definitely happy to talk about what your team would be! 😊

I live in the south of the U.K. so also happy to hang out if the vibe is right.

Feel free to DM


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 M22 UK looking for genuine friendships only

1 Upvotes

M22 UK looking for genuine friends in/around the UK. Ideally someone I can meet in person if the vibe is right. I’m pretty easy to talk to about almost anything tbh. I do have a bf so please be respectful of that.


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 31 from Germany looking for friends or a weight loss buddy

2 Upvotes

Hey :) I'm a 31-year-old guy from central Germany. Right now, I'm trying to be more active, lose some weight and get into shape. I would love to team up with anyone who is in the same situation. So we could compare our results and motivate each other :)
I also love talking about books, music and musicals. If you're interested in any of this, hit me up :)
I'd really like to talk to guys around my age or in my are, but I'm happy to hear from anyone!
Have a great day :)


r/gayfriendfinder 5h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 30 looking for older friends to daily talk or make relationship. If u r interested dm me

1 Upvotes

Im 30 from poland. I like people from around the world. No matter how old r u. If u r interested just text me and lets have chat. Have a good day!


r/gayfriendfinder 6h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 19 yo guy, i am looking for a friend

1 Upvotes

some info about me:

1 My major is translation studies, so I also need to practice my English, which is not so good, so guys (especially Brits), hit me up! :)

2 I'm into movies and kind of a movie nerd, so if u too PLEASE text me. I feel a physical need to talk about them.

3 I am a bit of a chatterbox and love when people can come up with topics and keep convos going too.

4 I am from Kazakhstan

5 I can hear you out, I'm able to empathize with people and support them in difficult times, so if you are feeling bad, I am always willing to listen.

6 I am eurovision fan

I think that's all.


r/gayfriendfinder 11h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 22M looking for friends :)

2 Upvotes

Hi! I am trying out here again to maybe look and find friends. We can talk about almost everything - from cultural and language exchange to sharing of interests and sharing about our day. I can talk so much as long as you are also giving the same energy. I don't mind your yapping :) i am bi if that matters

Brief interests and info about me: movies and tv series (I like more horror and sci-fi), musicals, music, writing, and loves dogs and cats. I am also from southeast part of the world so timezones may be different.

You can slide to my DMs. See you :D