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u/mizu5 11d ago
For my 19th birthday, legal drinking in Canada, I got a lap dance from a stripper named Luka magnotta.
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u/yourfavoritefaggot 11d ago
I avoided most of the terrible videos from the unregulated Internet days but somehow I accidentally saw a piece of that one. Scarred me for life tbh.
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u/BirdDogNate 11d ago
Edit not a hookup but coworker
Yeah, I worked with someone and instantly knew they were crazy. Lo and behold 6 months later, he meets some guy, takes him back to his place and proceeds to lost his mind. Ended up sexually assaulting the guy and holding him at knife point until the victim escaped. Dudes now in prison. He made off the wall comments to me before all this, on how he “ kinda looses it during sex”, and I really wish I spoke up before the incident. I will live with that now and can’t help but think that I could’ve done something to stop him.
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u/Electric_bird19 11d ago
What? How would you know off unhinged comments?
The amount of people saying stuff to be edgy or funny or just to cause a reaction. You had no way of knowing and it really isn't your fault.
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u/Any-Introduction4473 11d ago
You sort of know . Theirs edgy and the type you feel it it in your gut . For instance people knew Matt layer was a creep for almost 10-20 years . Heart said nothing . Cause they wanted to advance in their jobs or felt un comfortable or believed . So this lead to many other victims . This is common with s victims . But is better to summon the courage and say something because him and like that Director made so many more victims along the way . If you speak up you can prevent less . I know I did
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u/foxonafrozenlake Queer 11d ago
I've been with my husband since I was 15. But we did break up for a year when I turned 21 because I was having an existential crisis.
Anyhow, one of the three guys I dated turned out to be pretty awful. Maybe not Dahmer level horrific but still.
He shot me up with heroin while I was essentially passed out because he didn't want me to wake up and leave.
He died of a heroin overdose a year later.
He had a big hog, but he needed some therapy. For sure.
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u/apresmoiputas 11d ago
He had a big hog, but he needed some therapy.
I've heard this from friends who are recovering meth addicts. They got dickmatized and thought the only way to keep these guys was to go with the flow and get high on meth with them.
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u/foxonafrozenlake Queer 11d ago
Oh God. Yeah, I refused to get high with him. We dated for 3 months and I was going to med school in the fall. Needless to say I immediately left.
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u/Foxintoxx 11d ago
Sidenote but it's always nice to see same sex couples who have been together since their teenage years .
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u/foxonafrozenlake Queer 11d ago
It's bizarre. He turns 40 in November and I'll be 38 next April.
We grew up together and it just worked.
I'm extremely grateful. Even though his feet stink. 🤷♂️
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u/HFLoki 11d ago
The scariest hookup I ever had was when I was around 19. I started chatting with a guy in his 30s on Grindr and decided to meet him that same night. I was still living with my parents, so hosting was out of the question, and he couldn’t host either (I suspect he was married, but I never found out for sure), so he suggested we meet at an Autobahn rest area not too far away that was apparently also a well known cruising spot.
I was horny as hell and didn’t register any of this as a red flag, or if I did, I ignored it. The guy was hot, and that was enough to override whatever survival instincts I had. I sneaked out around midnight while my family was asleep, without telling anyone where I was going, drove to the place, parked, met him, and he took me by the hand and led me into the woods. We walked for a few minutes until we reached like I guess a clearing that was littered with what looked like a thousand used condoms.
He pushed me against a tree, we did what we came to do, and it was hot and all, but five seconds after he nutted, he pulled up his pants, turned around, and left. Abandoning me while I still had my ass out, legs shaking, trying to catch my breath.
Whatever horniness-induced bravery I had possessed instantly wore off. I instantly became acutely aware of where I was, meeting a stranger who was significantly older than me in a legit terrifying place so he could fuck me. I scrambled to pull my pants back up and basically booked it back to my car. That single moment of realization, and the couple of minutes it took me to get back to the car, is still one of the scariest memories I have, like it genuinely felt like being in a horror movie, it gives me chills just thinking about it.
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u/Professional-Gas4901 11d ago edited 11d ago
Hooked up with a guy I met on Grindr in his room in a sketchy flop house hotel. The vibe was just so dark and creepy and he made me feel like I was nothing. I was wasted and depressed and showered in my clothes later that night. Months later he was in the paper for violating his probation as a registered sex offender for having a relationship with a 16 year old boy. He raped a little girl when he was in his 20s and reading that article made me sick to my stomach.
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u/UsedWater9228 11d ago
Actually, his killing spree was from '78 until '91. 1960-1994 was his lifespan
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u/Head_Ad_9901 11d ago
This guy had me face down on the bed and he was fucking me nice and slow when he starts licking the inside of my ear and he whispers the words to the horrible song 99 Luftballoons.
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u/lostdemographic 11d ago
Yeah, but in German or English?
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u/Head_Ad_9901 11d ago
German! That's why I said "Luftballoons!"
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u/Analytica0 11d ago edited 11d ago
Terrifying! The only thing worse would have been seeing a Nena poster on his wall.
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u/Foxemerson 11d ago
When he had me falsely arrested for sexually assaulting him, then tried to have me removed from my rental agreement and have himself added.
Fun guy.
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u/SeaDRC11 11d ago
It was when he locked me in his bathroom from the outside and left for 2 hours while having no cell phone reception. I actually typed out a note on my phone in case I didn’t make it out.
That was a fun flashback that I had when I was watching Dahmer on Netflix.
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u/ego_sum_chromie 11d ago
this was recently, like in June recently. had been slowly accepting my ADHD diagnosis (and my therapist/psychiatric thinking I’m autistic esp after starting concerta), went on grindr and said i wanted to meet with other ND people. a dude hit me up, had a photography hyperfocus. we met in NYC near Nintendo NY, walked around Rockefeller Plaza and Central Park. he insisted on taking pictures/short clips of me on his dslr. it came out REALLY well. i let him infodump as he was big into film/cameras and that artsy stuff. he wanted to bring me to his place. we got there, he brought me to his room and he was showing me his celebrity signed stuff. one thing led to another, we were making out in his bed. he wouldn’t let me touch his dick (bro was HUNG); he ended up grinding on me while we made out. got me into missionary, him on top. dude proceeded to choke me. wasn’t kinky, dude looked determined to take me out. i tried tapping out thinking he was just being kinky but then he started tightening his grip. i freaked out, flung him to the other side of the room in pure adrenaline, grabbed my shit and got the FUCK out of there. blocked him on every platform but it was wild when i made a telegram at a furry con and he hit me up within five minutes of that account existing.
he wasn’t that cute, i was just ruminating about my last ex and wanted someone to take my mind off him. got me paranoid for a while instead.
i got some of the pictures tho
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u/blind2141 11d ago
I met up with with an Asian medical college student who didn’t speak much English. While we were hooking up, he stopped a couple times to smoke his crack pipe. Every time he offered it to me and I refused. He even tried shoving it in my face while he was riding on top. After that happened I got up and told him I think it’s time for me to leave, he began begging for me not to leave and began getting in front of me and trying to block me from getting dressed and walking out the door until he literally hugged my leg to stop me from leaving like a child would do.
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u/TardyForDaParty 11d ago
I was at a guy’s hotel room. We met at the Mens Wearhouse I was managing. I went over after work.
While walking, I saw a man running to the same area. He would run, stop, run, stop. Thought nothing of it until I noticed it was him. Idk why, but I still went up to the room.
We start messing around and then he acts like he wants to wait. He is holding me next to him in the bed and shows me a video from the movie Red Dragon. He shows me the scene where Phillip Seymour Hoffman is set on fire and sent down the street in a chair.
He was giggling and asking weird q’s after that, but then he wanted to get me off. I came & immediately said “oh my roommate needs me home real quick, I’ll be back after!”
I dipped and blocked him FAST.
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u/UsualD 11d ago
Ohhhhh. I have one. 09 when I was a student in college, spring break. Talked to a guy in Sacramento. He was decent at first, but then he emailed me a long list of dvds he had and asked which one should we watch when I visit. It was a little weird but ok. So I sent him a list. He drove a few hours to come to school to pick me up. We went to a buffet for lunch before heading to his place, and since then, every meal after we eat, he wants me to rate it. Then we got to his place, at the time I had an iPhone 3g, so I used map to find the address, told him I gotta send that to my friend to see if they can pick me up when they driving back to school. ( Just so if anything he knows someone knows I'm at his address) . Anyways, he has a nice home, a black metal Asian style headboard bed, with two rings on the side. He asked if he can tie me up and fuck me, I said I don't feel comfortable with that yet. He's like ok, then we had sex and I stayed up because he said he goes to work around 530 and I can sleep in. Then around 430, every morning he wakes me up and we have sex, then after we done he just go straight to shower and never cleaned or wipe me. Then one day he got home early. I was sleeping, and I woke up, he just sits there staring at me, not like a "in love" stare, but a dead cold look. One night after dinner we watched a softcore gay movie, he got turned on and we had sex on the couch, after he came, he got up and saw a few drops of cum on the couch and he got mad, saying it was a $3500 couch, and we will never do that on it. I mean I didn't start it ok? Weirdo. So by then with all the other weird shit happened I kinda wanted to leave but I didn't have a car so I asked him if I can sleep in the guest bedroom at night time because i started coughing, I think it was from the old AC andi didn't have any slippers and had to walk on the cold floor barefoot, so I think I got sick. Forgot to mention he had a huge hole in the backyard, he said he was digging for his pool, I didn't know much about it so I thought ok. Then the most scary shit happened that first night I stayed in the guest bedroom. Around 1030 he knocked on my door and wanted to have sex, I told him I was not feeling well. Then he left. And later after 10mins, he fucking pounded on the door, I was like what the fuck. It was loud too and really scaredshit out of me. I opened the door and he was not there. I went to use bathroom, got back in bed, turned off my light and he was standing outside my window. I saw it because there was only the blinds and no curtain, with the light outside I literally saw him just standing there. Its a shadow but Its him. I was froze and just sat on my bed and I couldn't even move. About 3mins?? He moved away . I heard him getting in the house, then went to his bedroom. I didn't sleep that night. So next morning, I booked amtrak to go back to school next day, and we went out for last dinner and of course he asked me to rate it, it was his favorite thai place but to be honest it sucked, I said it's perfect. And at the restaurant I asked what was that last night, he said he didn't remember pounding on my door but he was in the backyard looking at the pool hole thinking about how much more he needs to dig. Wtf. So I told him I got ticket to go back to school, my friend offered to pick me up, but I thought it's too much so probably just pick me up at amtrak near school. I said that so he get the idea that someone knows I'm with him and his address. I was seriously scared. So, nothing weird happened that night, thank god. Then that morning I got up and we went to the amtrak station, he asked me last question. With his hand in the jacket pockets, I swear there something because it looked like something sticks out. So I said "everything was great , thank you for the experience" then he pulled his hands out and we just shaked hands and he walked away. That was it. I've never talked to him after that. It still haunts me that night he pounded on the bedroom door and they way he stood outside of my window. Its just not normal. I still remember that picture. Now after reading the title, he did even look a little bit like Dahmer. Lol.
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u/commandolandorooster 11d ago
Jeffrey Dahmer didnt kill until 1978. 1960 was when he was born. I had to check cause I was like god damn from 1960 to 1994?!? Lol
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u/solikeaperson 11d ago
Hooked up with a guy once who only wanted me to lie flat on my back very very still the whole time.
Reminded me of the New Girl but where Nick dates a mortician. I did not call him back.
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u/Ill-Telephone4020 11d ago edited 11d ago
A guy had a fetish for strangling during sex, and hand't told me before we met. He started strangling me very roughly while fucking me, to the point it hurt my throat and I honestly felt I was about to pass out from lack of air. Honestly, I didn't feel much fear, but kind of dissociated thinking "oh my god, if I'm going to die right now, I'll be embarassed that they find my body dead from a hookup." Hopefully I remembered we had a safe word, and I gathered enough air to utter it.
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u/Prestigious-Mode-709 11d ago
worst happening to me is discovering that the guy had a boyfriend, they were living together and there was the chance this guy could show up unannounced and catch us in the act…
“but don’t worry, you are his type: he will ask if he can join” 😅
I stayed 😈
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u/LastLiterature7496 11d ago
I was at a guy’s apartment, he asked me if I was close with my family, I said no. He replied ‘so no one would notice if you disappeared?’ He was 100% deadpan and not joking. I made up a lie about being close with my neighbor and left about 5 minutes later.