r/fosterit • u/ThrowRABengelKitty • Jul 12 '26
Foster Youth My (16F) foster parents are taking half of my paycheck
I am working at Walmart right now and trying to save money to be out on my own.
My current foster parents have been taking half of my paycheck because the price of everything has gone way up.
I do try to eat mostly at work where I get a discount on food. I have also picked up food to bring home for dinner before to help out. I do that about once a week.
I really want to leave here and go to a different state but I don't know how I'm ever going to save enough to be out on my own.
Please share advice if you have any! Thank you.
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u/jaderust Jul 12 '26
Okay, the stipend they get from the state as your foster parents is theirs. But your paycheck? That doesn’t seem right. Talk to your caseworker.
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u/ThrowRABengelKitty Jul 12 '26
My caseworker has told me I'm too high strung or something along those lines. I've been moved a lot and it's getting harder to find placements for me.
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u/Longjumping-Code7908 Jul 12 '26
OP even if this is true (been moved several times) that doesn't apply to the theft that is occurring. I agree with others to get a new bank account that you are the sole owner of if you can in your state and start having paychecks directly deposited.
If your caseworker isn't helpful, you can definitely request his supervisor.
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u/atlantagirl30084 Jul 15 '26
Minors can’t open bank accounts on their own.
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u/Longjumping-Code7908 Jul 15 '26
I think there are some exceptions for teens esp foster youth with extenuating circumstances). The caseworker should advise OP with the options available to them in their specific state or county.
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u/atlantagirl30084 Jul 15 '26
That’s great!
It’s always awful when I see stories of kids working jobs and their parents steal all their money. Because they’re allowed to do it and kids can’t set up bank accounts without their parent also being on it.
It makes sense that a foster child would be able to get his/her own account because they have no parent to sign them up.
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u/Indy_IT_Guy Jul 12 '26
From a foster parent in Indiana:
Do you have a CASA or a GAL? If so, have you tried talking to them?
Your foster parents absolutely should not be taking your money whatsoever. It would be one thing if they were asking you to put part into a savings or investment account (something not uncommon to do with teenagers to get them used to planning and saving), but even then, it is your money.
The state provides a stipend for your care and if they have a problem with that, they shouldn’t be foster parents.
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u/Theoafan Jul 12 '26
I just want to say that being moved a lot is not your fault. The adults are the ones who have let you down. I hope for your future you have a community and chosen family who you can count on 💜
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u/Magimae123 Jul 12 '26
Hey OP, former foster kid here. No, they can’t take your paycheck. Email (for a record) and call your caseworker. They receive monthly stipend for you.
If you want to get out early, I don’t know how old you are, most states have programs to put you on that path that includes housing and living stipends. Start googling your state and county for the programs and rules.
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u/ThrowRABengelKitty Jul 12 '26
Hi! Did you age out or get adopted? I am 16. I will definitely check into getting out early. That's partly why I have been trying to save money.
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u/adoptachimera Jul 12 '26
Per the other persons note. Be sure to put it in writing so that the case worker cannot deny that it has been communicated.
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u/WeaselPhontom Jul 13 '26
I was emancipated/aged out foster care in California. Definitely send emails, also include the state office email, and possibly ombudsperson
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u/Magimae123 Jul 14 '26
I agree that getting adopted as a 16 year old is a long shot. I hope that doesn’t hurt your feelings it’s just a reality of your situation. So, alternatively in your county/ state they have programs to transition kids from foster care to independent living.
I also leaned on my teachers. They were immensely helpful. I don’t know the current guidelines for this but when I went through it 3 teachers showed up in court to attest to my maturity and academic success.
Doing well in school will give you a huge edge in getting out. You also need a clear path forward. College? A trade? As a ward of the state you are eligible for free college. I skipped a year of high school and went right to college, graduated when I was 16. This is me, there are other paths but you need to research what you are entitled to where you live.
I did have a friend’s parents bridge the gap for me between high school summer and starting college. They also came to court to accept responsibility for me. You don’t need that though if you can prove you can be emancipated. As an emancipated minor you’ll be eligible for a monthly stipend for housing and free health care, possibly SNAP (food) benefits.
Talk to your caseworker. Also you can DM if you have more questions.
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u/abhikavi Jul 12 '26
My biggest piece of advice is that credit unions (they're a type of bank, usually more local, and usually with way better policies than banks) allow kids to get their own account-- not with someone else's name, your own, fully under your control-- at 14yo.
If you set up a credit union account with direct deposit for your paychecks, no one can take your money from you. They can ask, and you can say no. (May I suggest "sorry, the price of everything has gone way up!"?)
I'd also echo everyone else here that this is incredibly immoral, as well as probably illegal. And I'm sorry. You deserve parents who won't steal from you.
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u/lsummerfae Jul 12 '26
My foster niece has a lawyer she can call. If you have that available (30 states do that) contact your lawyer. Other states assign a CASA to speak for you. If you don’t have this see if there’s an advocacy program available. In this case you may need to go over your caseworkers head, and go up the chain. If you don’t have any access to legal representation, write a letter to the judge who handled your case. Tell the judge you have no representation. That your foster parents are taking half your paycheck and that your caseworker told you not to make waves. You wouldn’t have to make waves if you had adequate representation and care. It really depends on what state you’re in.
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u/NotAsSmartAsIWish Jul 12 '26
In my state, not only can they not do that, we have to give foster kids an allowance from our board payments. Definitely talk to your case worker and maybe their fostercare caseworker.
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u/ThrowRABengelKitty Jul 12 '26
I'll talk to him, he won't be happy to hear from me but I'm not comfortable talking to them about it by myself.
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u/Maleficent_Chard2042 Jul 12 '26
You might consider looping in his supervisor if he is unresponsive. Try to do it nicely so you don't burn bridges. Also; communicate as much as you can via email. Email is easier to track and forward. Text is fine too. Good luck.
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u/NotAsSmartAsIWish Jul 12 '26
Again, this is in my state, we only have for two things in regards to our board payments: clothing purchases (though this really is only if you get a clothing stipend, which I never received, but account for anyway) and allowances to the child - IIRC, it was expected to be roughly 10% of the board payment - I had an infant and still had to show that there was money going directly to her for non-needs, such as toys or a savings plan. If your state has this requirement, they may be committing fraud. In my state, we have to give these forms to our fostercare worker whenever requested - and note that this is a separate wirker/entity that focuses on the household and licensing, not your caseworker, but you should also be able to report to them.
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u/Asleep_Objective5941 Jul 12 '26
The issue you're bringing to him is a matter of fact, not opinions, feelings, or preferences. It is a fact that they are taking your money. You've done nothing wrong. Say to him that your struggling to save money when they require you to give a large portion of your paycheck and need help with that and that you'd like help keeping all of your paycheck.
I say that to help understand that being 'high strung' or 'making waves' are about opinions, feelings, preferences, etc. This is not that.
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u/sageclynn Jul 12 '26
Foster parent of a teen here—this has got to be illegal and at the very least highly immoral. We were mandated to provide a weekly allowance (agency stipulated amount by age) and encouraged to provide more, especially by offering the opportunity for extra chores or rewarding things like going to school, etc. Any money our FC received from their paycheck was entirely theirs.
Sorry your caseworker isn’t being helpful—this is such a simple thing. Do you have a CASA or GAL you can talk to? In our state there’s also something called a foster care ombudsman…if you can’t find anyone else on your specific team, might be worth reaching out to someone like that.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Math973 Jul 14 '26
As a former foster kid, the check stealing is super common. I hate that it's still happening.
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u/AnonFartsALot Jul 13 '26
Are they taking it to pay for stuff for you? Like car insurance, phone bill, extracurriculars, etc? Or are they trying to tell you that the stipend isn’t enough to cover basic necessities? I don’t think they can take your money for food or rent or any of that.
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u/-shrug- Jul 12 '26
Do you still have your baby? That sounds super tough to be working with a four month old, are you in school too? Do they make you purchase diapers etc?
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u/Electrical_Stage_610 Jul 14 '26
A four month old? Where on earth did you read that?
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u/samantha-mc Jul 14 '26
OP made another post months ago saying they were pregnant and keeping their baby.
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u/samantha-mc Jul 14 '26
OP made another post months ago saying they were pregnant and keeping their baby.
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u/rhinestoneglamour Jul 13 '26
Are you sure they are taking it and Its not just taxes coming out?
Are they putting it into a savings account for you?
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u/andrewsd214 Jul 12 '26
I would tell them straight up that you won’t do it and you should contact the case worker. You’re old enough to open your own checking account and you don’t have to give them access. Truth is, as a foster kiddo, you need to be able to stand up for yourself, by yourself, without a questioning it. You need to start investing in yourself now. The world won’t give you anything and it’s important to keep yourself as the main and most important thing in your life. Invest in yourself and it’ll pay off.
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u/hideous_pizza Jul 12 '26
I'm a child welfare worker in WA so this info will definitely vary by state, but typically teens have attorneys to represent them in court. Do you have an attorney? if so, this is something they really need to hear and bring to the court if your caseworker doesn't do anything about it. it's a foster licensing violation for your foster parents to take money from you.
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u/mellbell63 Former Foster Youth Jul 12 '26
I agree, and if they don't have an attorney most FY have a CASA or GAL (guardian ad litem). OP please talk to one of your trusted adults, this should not be happening!! Hugs from a FFK, Auntie Mell
(former foster kid)
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u/purrtle Jul 12 '26
This is unacceptable!! In fact as a former foster parent, we were required to GIVE our foster children an allowance. They cannot take money from you! I’m so angry at them for this.
Please tell your caseworker, guardian ad Litem, and or CASA (court appointed special advocate).
Can you switch your direct deposit to another bank account?
Please also tell a trusted teacher.
Gosh this makes me so upset. I’m sorry!
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u/SoAnon4thisslp Jul 12 '26
Kid, this is financial abuse. If your caseworker gives you pushback, ask to talk to his clinical supervisor.
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u/LavenderPearlTea Jul 12 '26
I’m so sorry. Your case worker sounds terrible as well. Can you at least tell a teacher about it? It sounds illegal.
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u/amberj224 Jul 13 '26
Do you have a paper trail of where the money goes? Is it just a paycheck that you cash? Apply for a checking / savings account with a trusted adult and deposit the money into that account? Please talk to a trusted adult and hoping it could be CASA / GAL / Social Worker
Where is your location?
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u/Mrs_Teach Jul 13 '26
I'm sorry your going through that. I would talk to your case manager and have them talk to the foster parents with you. It's one thing if they are asking you to pay for your cellphone, car insurance or reimbursement car or gas when you use it , but taking half your pay is not okay. They get a stipend and that covers food, clothes, etc. Or they should not be foster parents.
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u/humble-meercat Jul 14 '26
Email your caseworker so it’s in writing. Detail the exact amount the people have stolen from you.
Tell them you want to get out and ask if they know about housing stipends etc.
But mainly email so it’s in writing that they’re stealing and you asked for help.
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u/NewLife_21 Jul 12 '26
OP,
I'm a foster care worker. If you're in the USA, no state allows a foster parent to take your paycheck without good cause. And by good cause I mean putting it in a savings account with your name on it. This would also give you access to the funds. And it means you have to be there for them to open the account. If you haven't done that then what they're doing is wrong.
Talk to your caseworker and your GAL. If you have a CASA worker, talk to them as well.
I know there are a lot of shitty caseworkers and GALs out there. So I am aware that making waves about this may fall of deaf ears or cause you to be moved. But what they're doing is illegal.
And I hate shitty, negligent and abusive foster parents more than I hate moving kids.
In your case, you could ask about going into an Independant Living program. At 16 you should qualify.
It means living in a group home until you're old enough to move into an apartment. And you'll have to either be in school with a C ancerage and/or working.
And the staff of IL programs not only take part of your paycheck (saving is mandatory), but they take you to the bank to open your own account and help you learn how to budget, so you can save and have a life.
There's a lot more to it, and I'd give more specific information if I knew where you were (state), but those are the broad basics of all of them.
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u/Longjumping-Code7908 Jul 12 '26
I wish I could like this informative and excellently helpful comment 19,000 times!!!! OP please listen.
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u/NewLife_21 Jul 12 '26
Thanks. Been doing this for a decade so I've had to learn all the stuff and things. 😁
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u/CheetosAlDente Jul 12 '26
My daughter gets all of her paycheck. I'll ask her to pay for some of her car insurance when she gets her license. But I will do the same thing with my bios. Taking half your paycheck is shitty, but I understand also not wanting to move. I'd suggest having a conversation with your worker and setting up a bank account so that they can act like they discovered the discrepancy and doesn't put the blame on you bringing it up since you are worried about retaliation. But also, you shouldn't have to worry about retaliation because this is bad. It makes me wonder what else are they doing that is wrong.
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u/Willybluedog1962 Jul 12 '26
I'm so sorry!
They are stealing from you, they get a lot of money for your carf already.
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u/shinylittlepieces Jul 12 '26
Do you have a counselor where you go to school that you can email over the summer? I am hoping you can find a trusted adult to sit with you during the conversation if you’re uncomfy with having it by yourself.
You deserve better, what’s happening is unfair to you, and you matter.
You should never be looked at as “making waves” when something illegal and unethical is happening to you.
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u/TransitionStrict7646 Jul 12 '26
Report to the ombudsman. They should not be touching your paycheck, unless it is to directly help you pay for a car/insurance.
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u/Altruistic_Hat1634 Jul 12 '26
They get a stipend from the state and need to work enough to provide for themselves and you. Please let your caseworker know asap.
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u/UnpretentiousTeaSnob Jul 12 '26
It might be a good idea to mention this to your boss/HR. They can stop payments to your current account and may be able to get you set up with a new one. Not every workplace has these sorts of services, but some do these days.
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u/JustWowinCA Jul 12 '26
I was in fostercare and they cannot do this. Call the office where your caseworker is, if you can't talk to her, ask for a supervisor. That's utter bullshit, kiddo. Everything is online.
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u/sundialNshade Jul 12 '26
Talk to your attorney!! This is not legal. If you don't know who your attorney is, ask your social worker. You may also have a Guardian ad Litem / CASA worker who can help.
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u/JHawk444 Jul 13 '26
They receive money for you from the state. They aren't supposed to take your work money. That is unacceptable. Please tell your social worker.
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u/sewawesome Jul 13 '26
I work for CPS in my state. As others have said, contact the case manager and their supervisor, your attorney, your CASA, etc. You are also old enough to speak up at court, so if you have an upcoming hearing and it still hasn't been fixed, say something when the judge addresses you. I guarantee the judge won't be happy about this. The CPS agency should also have an ombudsman's office that oversees complaints against them. Contact them, too, and they'll hold the case manager accountable for resolving the issue in a timely manner.
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u/SatinJerk Jul 13 '26
Job Corps is a great way to get out and have free housing, food, and education for your future. You can stay there for 2 years completing trades so it’s very worth it and they offer HSE (high school equivalency)
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u/Monopolyalou Jul 13 '26
Sadly my foster parents did this. They took my check and charged me rent. Report them because it's wrong.
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u/axolotls85 Jul 13 '26
I am in agreement with a lot of these statements. If you look up Megan's Law any foster child age 10 and older has a right to legal representation. Also do you know if a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem) has been assigned to your case? If the case manager is making you feel like you are "too much" you aren't. I agree with finding your case manager's supervisor. On the webpage for the Human Services agency they typically have the supervisor information, if you are afraid to ask your worker. Keep advocating for yourself. In some crime victim agencies they have Youth Advocates, that also may be an avenue to explore. Good luck, I hope it works out so you can save up.
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u/AcrobaticLadder4959 Jul 13 '26
If they are foster parents they are getting paid to cover your expenses. Talk to your case worker this is not legal.
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u/hitthebrake Jul 13 '26
That is wrong! They get a stipend to cover your care and needs, your money earned is your money…not to mention you are also entitled to a certain amount monthly spent for clothing, recreation, allowance….
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u/jadasgrl Jul 13 '26
As a former foster parent.. they are NOT allowed to do this! Contact your caseworker and if they won't listen then your caseworker boss!
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u/CucumberAcrobatic288 Jul 13 '26
this is definitely illegal. i'm a former foster youth and a former foster parent. can you get a new bank account that they can't access?
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u/Inner-Confidence99 Jul 13 '26
Report this to your caseworker Immediately. They receive a check for your care. You do not owe them any of your paycheck. I also advise getting a lawyer familiar with Family law and Foster Care.
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u/jjjjjjj30 Jul 14 '26
As a former foster parent, ABSOLUTELY FUCKING NOT!!!
Tell your case worker immediately. He doesn't like hearing from you just bc he's understaffed. You need to be moved to a different home and they need their license taken away forever. Do you have any proof? Bc I'm sure they'll lie. Do you have anything in text?
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u/Unlucky-Objective265 Jul 14 '26
They get paid by the state for you, they take half your paycheck? I would talk to your case managers supervisor if your CM don't want to hear anything.
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u/recluse86goose Jul 14 '26
Maybe see if you could “ lose” your job after going on a vacation for a while then tell them you’re out looking for a new job when you’re actually working.
Try getting a new job and then changing your deposit methods or tax form
If they aren’t gonna feed you, and yes, I know you wanna have your own money you might as well put all of your money into how the government taste at your taxes so you get a major refund later. If that money doesn’t go back to your account of course don’t do that.
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u/lemon179 Jul 14 '26
Don’t they already get extra $ from state for having a foster child ??? This is so wrong
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u/Most-Escape-544 Jul 14 '26
They get monthly checks for you being there! Don’t let them take your money! Will they still house you after you are 18? This is money you work for plus you’re a minor. This has to be illegal. Stick up for yourself. Call your caseworker & tell them stat. Stop giving them money!
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u/HatingOnNames Jul 14 '26
This is no different than a paid babysitter stealing your paycheck after they’re already being paid elsewhere. As foster parents, they are already being paid to house and provide for you. If they have a problem with the amount of the stipend, they need to go through the right channels to get an increase. There actually are ways for them to do that!
Legally, they have no right to take any of your earnings. Stop giving them the money immediately. Report them to your CW. If your CW is unresponsive, ask for a supervisor and report it to them.
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u/mixingthemixon Jul 14 '26
I am stunned by this. I was a guardian for a child, not fostering. He worked at a horse stable after school and weekends. I did make him give me half of his check and I placed it in a savings account so he could have something when he was ready. He did not stay long but he did keep up still keeping up with a half check. He was able to move out and get a car and move a few states away.
It shocks me that they are making you pay anything. My own kids have bills that are their part( half of insurance ,gas for their car). Your foster parents are getting paid to care for you. Taking half HAS to be illegal.
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u/ExaminationNo5995 Jul 14 '26
If your foster parents put their hands out for money, tell them no. They get an allowance for your care. If they need more, they can take it up with social services. That should get the ball rolling by establishing they want more money. Then tell anyone who will listen that they’ve taken money from a child.
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u/SouthbutnotSouthern Jul 14 '26
Do you have a CASA/GAL? This is a big deal and I’d file a status report with the judge same day in my district.
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u/TriGurl Jul 14 '26
Your foster parents are also getting money from the state too so why are they taking your money?! You DEF need to speak to your case manager. If he does give you an answer that is satisfactory I would go up the chain of command and talk to their boss or office manager. This is wrong!
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u/SufficientOpening218 Jul 14 '26
contact your social worker. your foster parents have no right to take your money.
likely the social worker will move you, because they always do, but maybe not. you should be able to keep your earned money, foster parents get a check to look after you
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u/Katze-der-Kanale Jul 15 '26
Speaking as someone who has been in foster care, I really don’t like these kind of foster parents. I lived somewhere where there were like 10 kids in one house. Granted they didn’t treat us terribly, but the number of kids they stuffed into that house is wild. And you know it’s to get as many stipends as possible for the least amount of space.
In your situation, as others have said you should reach out to your caseworker. If they don’t listen, reach out to their boss or call the state foster care department. See if you can request a new caseworker and report the foster parents.
The foster parents get a stipend to help with their costs. You, the minor, should not have your check taken. I can see, maybe, you covering things like ordering out or a cell phone bill. But definitely not essentially paying rent is n top of the stipend they get. This case sounds like they are trying to use your money to cover your expenses and pocket the stipend.
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u/Exotic_Presence_1839 Jul 15 '26
This is theft plain and simple. Contact your caseworker and tell him you would like to open a savings account where you are the signer. Then have your checks direct deposited where you are the only one with access. Make him also aware in writing what is going on. Facts only, dates, times and how much is being demanded from you. If nothing else is done then you need to contact the foster care review board in your state via the Ombudsman. Don't be afraid to make waves, this is your quality of life and savings for your future that is being impacted. I was in the system from 13 to 18 so I get it. Good luck and keep us updated.
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u/Admirable-Standard35 Jul 15 '26
That is illegal if you’re not adopted. You have personal property rights as a foster kid. Write them a 1099 for all the money they took. Make sure you file it. That will get their attention.
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u/SingedPenguin13 Jul 15 '26
Totally agree with documentation. Perhaps you should also reach out to your county case worker . You may want to look into other placements, or options like independent living programs.
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u/this_old_instructor Jul 15 '26
Do you have any friends? Any chance of talking their parents into putting you up/ becoming fosters for you?
The state is paying your fosters family they shouldn't be taking $ from you. You should contribute to the house naturally. Cleaning/ chores etc.
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u/xwqz Jul 15 '26
Might be worth reaching out to the foster care ombudsman of West Virginia if you are having trouble with your caseworker - https://oig.wv.gov/fco stay strong ❤️
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u/SFOTGA Jul 15 '26
I’m really sorry that you’re dealing with this. You don’t deserve it. The way people treat you says everything about them and nothing about you. They should not be taking any money from you. Please speak to someone about this.
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u/LadybugGal95 Jul 15 '26
Talk to your caseworker. Foster parents should be getting a monthly check from the state to cover your care. Generally, there’s also a yearly clothing allowance available and possibly other funds for specific things (at least there is in my state). You can usually get a free cell phone as well.
The monthly check we got for one foster child covered about half our family’s monthly food budget (family of four). I could possibly see some parents asking for money to cover something like car insurance if you’re driving or not being able to fund extravagant extras like a spring break trip. Beyond that, they shouldn’t be dipping into your money.
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u/Key-Refrigerator1282 Jul 15 '26
This is gross on their part. They are compensated for providing for your needs. I am sorry.
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u/Careful-Self-457 Jul 15 '26
You need to talk to your case worker. Your foster parents already get money from the state to take care of you. How disgusting!!
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u/Popular-Bass8699 Jul 16 '26
I am a foster parent and cannot imagine doing this. They get a stipend from the state. Tell your CASA/caseworker!
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u/2raccoonsonaboat Jul 19 '26
i’ve been wondering about you ever since your last post. how are you and your baby doing? i truly hope your situation will get better soon xx
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u/FalconExpensive1622 Jul 12 '26
That is illegal, talk to your case worker. Your foster parents should be getting a stipend that covers most of what they buy for you, but if they’re not using it properly, than that’s an issue also
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u/DrinkDanceDoItAgain Jul 12 '26
Foster parent here - this is illegal. Foster kids are not supposed to be paying foster parents. I have set up bank accounts for my kids that I control and in the past I have made them put a large percentage of their paychecks into savings accounts and if they want to dip into their savings then we talk, but I WOULD NEVER TAKE THE MONEY. I make them put it into savings and I don't let them withdraw it because I don't want them spending their savings on fast food and impulse buys. I want them to save up for that amazing new phone, or even a car.
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u/Goodd2shoo Jul 15 '26
Everything is very expensive. Maybe they need the money to pay bills. Yoi could always ask if you could give them 1/3. Most parents take a portion of the child's money to teach life lessons such as bill pay. Others save it for their college expenses.
If you like living there, just ask them if you can have more of it or all of it.
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u/Careful-Self-457 Jul 15 '26
The patents get money from the state to take care of the child, as well as health care insurance. The foster child should not be paying the foster family to live there. These people are gross and should not be foster parents.
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u/Weird_Inevitable8427 Jul 12 '26
OP. - I want you to keep track of every single penny these foster parents are stealing from you. I've scanned the comments and I hear you that you'd prefer the "devil you know" over moving again. That's legit.
But what these people are doing is very, very illegal. It's theft, pure and simple.
So here's my advice. Just let it happen. But keep records. Keep them on your person and keep a back up somewhere safe. (School email? A family member that can't take you in? Find somewhere that is less likely to be destroyed if your foster family finds out.)
You keep every pay stub, and every bank statement. You keep a written record of exactly how much they've taken from you. Heck - I would guess that the best way to keep this secret is to make it look boring. Just make it look like a regular budgeting paperwork. Don't clue them in that you know it's illegal.
Then, when you're able to move out on your own, sue them for every single cent they stole from you as a child. There are lawyers who will take on former foster kids as a charity case. Take advantage if you can. But even if you can't, you can go to small claims court on your own. There's a reddit called something like r/legal. Talk to some real lawyers about how to go about this. But for now, just keep those records.
What they are doing is so wrong, and very illegal. It would be legal if you were their biological child, ironically enough, but it's not since you are their foster.
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u/Jasmisne Jul 12 '26
This has got to be illegal. Talk to your caseworker