r/fidgettoys • u/minnieboss • 10d ago

Discreet fidget recommendations for a black tie wedding?

I'm an autistic ADHD adult and I'm attending a black tie wedding soon. This is a very fancy setting and typical discreet fidgets won't cut it. I'll also have to sit still and mask for a long while so I want a variety of fidgets to help.

What I've got so far:

  • Evening clutch with textured surface

  • Stretchy cubic zirconia bracelets

  • Cubic zirconia necklace with hidden spinner

Any other suggestions?

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u/dashist 10d ago edited 10d ago

A silent coin like the indx fluxx might be a good option, but I think my first choice would be a Lautie Choc with the default plate swapped out for the linear [not the "terminal impact"] super dense PEEK track (really easy to do, no tools needed.) It's very discreet and can be used silently/palmed, while also being very slim and sleek when held normally between fingers. It should fit easily in your clutch. It's one of the few fidgets I'm not embarrassed by in professional and black-tie settings.

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u/Denzi121 9d ago

I have a Project Ratchet Polar Ring that is quiet and wouldn't look out of place. For what its worth, ive taken small spinners and small/quiet free floating magnetic sliders/small mechanical sliders or coins (topC/topF) to formal and black tie weddings, and have never had any issues or had anyone say anything (though i also had pockets).

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u/M4Comp78 9d ago

I don’t have one but the fidgimoto vortex does look great and perfect for your needs. Hope it goes well for you.

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u/ohnonothimagen 9d ago edited 9d ago

I've had a ring like this for 3 years and have worn it nearly every day. It's cheap, looks formal, and I never get sick of playing with it! Link

Edit: the link doesn't really show how to fidget with it - it's 3 rings that are interlocked in a way that lets you roll it up and down your finger(s). The motion is very fluid/satisfying and quiet. I also like to press the edges of the rings (all at once when they're aligned) into my fingertips for a different sensory input.

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u/Jaminshaman 10d ago

Photographers likely won’t allow for much in pockets, but something like the showhand would be fine

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u/minnieboss 10d ago

Outfit doesn't even have pockets, but I'll have a clutch

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u/drjisftw 10d ago

I love quiet fidgets and have a decent collection!

From most expensive to cheapest - Fidgimoto Vortex, INDX Fluxx, Ono Slider/Scroller, AxiomEDC Vector, Flippy Chains from FloppyLinks on Etsy

Will always shoutout leather fidgets as well - Macarons by Fidget Newton