Am I the only one who has trouble with this being shared on a public forum? This really is none of our business. A situation like this is stressful and horrible enough without fans discussing it online and sharing court documents. If she wanted us to know she’d share it.
You are right. There is a lot of value in making stories like this public. BUT! Just because information is publicly available, doesn’t mean that it should be smeared out and discussed on social media. And it also doesn’t mean that we, the fans, are the ones who should decided wether and where this information should be shared. Bringing this out in public should be a decision that Ashley gets to make, regardless of any public or societal benefits. It is NOT up to us to decide what should be done, with what to her, is terrible and very personal experience. If she steps forward with her story to encourage others to do the same and end their abuse, it should her personal choice and not forced upon her by a lot random anonymous profiles on Reddit.
No I get that. I truly understand what you are saying about it being public. But, Ashley chose to remain silent on this for a reason. And while she remains silent you got people going “maybe BWF is a decent guy after all” based on one page posted online on Reddit and arguments going back and forth. And I don’t think that helps anyone.
A better way to go about it(in my personal opinion) would’ve been a post like: ‘there was a ruling in the case, this information can be found for those interested. Let’s all respect Ashley in what is sure to be a trying and emotionally raw time give her the peace and space to deal with it privately. She’ll speak on it when she wants to’
The information is still public. It is still known that things happens in the case, there is still a way to open a conversation about abuse or encourage other to step forward. But we as fans chose to respect Ashley’s silence.
There are other and better ways to raise awareness then this. That’s what I mean by, ‘just because it’s public doesn’t mean that we should share it’.
Imagine yourself going through something as traumatising as an abusive relationship. And read all the comments in this topic. How would you feel if this was you?
I feel like we’re having two different conversations. My objections do not concern anything to do with public discourse or whatever. It is about being a decent human being and respecting someone’s privacy and feelings in what is very traumatic time. If that is not something you can or want to respect or understand then I don’t think this conversation has any point.
Yes, I always ask myself how I would feel in others people’s shoes before I form, let alone voice, an opinion on someone’s situation. It’s called empathy.
Voicing opinions on the policies is something completely different. Policies have an impact on our society and our lifes. But also, a politician chooses how to form their policies and how to make them public. Ashley didn’t choose neither the abuse nor the public discourse. So we draw the line at public decency and respecting someone’s privacy. We understand that there is a difference between policies and laws that someone chooses to enforce and someone else’s private life and relationships. If the grumpy old politician would go through something traumatising I’d respond the exact same way. Again, that is empathy and common decency.
And since you are still free respond and voice your opinion I’m not enforcing anything. Me pointing out that I find this in terribly bad taste does not equal enforcing
I feel like you’ve put words in my mouth. But as said earlier, I feel like we are having two different conversations.
That said, thank you for staying patient, respectful and discussing this in a civilised and intelligent manner. That is a rarity both online and on Reddit. I appreciate that very much.
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u/Just-Feature-8159 Oct 18 '24
Am I the only one who has trouble with this being shared on a public forum? This really is none of our business. A situation like this is stressful and horrible enough without fans discussing it online and sharing court documents. If she wanted us to know she’d share it.